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People just adding others in pseudo-friendships, friendships that don't really mean anything and people treating others like they're a service or speed-dial or so. I am part of the last generation of people it feels like, where, you befriended someone with intent to build a bond with them and that bond is built upon year after year. You gain memories, then when the old memories are old, you make new ones.

I've noticed an alarming amount of people who'll just add you because they only see you as someone to lean on. Not because the relationship is meaningful, but someone who is just there 'when in need' as they go off not doing anything for large portions of time. This creates an artificial, shallow and hollow experience where a lot of time, you will feel like you're the one upholding the friendship.

And that only isn't normal to me, but simply unacceptable. Then you've got people who can't even go a day without communication so now they call it 'ghosting' which is another overly spammed word that has lost meaning. I'm low maintenance, who can go periods of time without talking but at the same time, I do also want things to be meaningful. Doesn't have to be constant, just something within the year.

And I've had people in my life who simply cannot do that. I've had people who still consider friends after not talking for years and years. What do you mean you're okay with that? That's lost time! I don't enjoy having to spend however long playing catch up.

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[–] AnchoriteMagus@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Fascism, the murder of innocents to line the pockets of the elite, the victimization and abuse of children, marginalization of minority classes to make a buck or rile up a brain dead portion of the electorate, gleefully poisoning the earth and rolling back laws to make it easier to do so, devaluing art and human creativity to produce assembly line soulless drivel, surrendering our autonomy and individuality to the surveillance box in our pockets.

Should I go on? We're not doing great these days.

[–] degoogler@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

Alcohol consumption

[–] MIDItheKID@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Putting your shopping cart up on the curb/grass at Costco.

Look. I know about the shopping cart return litmus test for humanity. And in my experience, at the average supermarket or shopping center or whatever, it's usually not too bad. There are a couple of shit stains out there that leave their cart in a parking spot or anywhere else not returned.

But Costco? What the fuck is going on there? It's like the wild-fucking-west. It's lawless. I have seen people add to trains of carts stacked together in a parking spot. The curbs just have dozens of carts pushed up on them. It's like some kind of broken window theory parking lot where normally decent people see the state of it and go "No order exists here, and I will treat it as such"

Return your fucking cart. It takes like 40 seconds max.

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Looking at your phone when you’re out with friends.

[–] Libb@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

To answer your first question:

Hate. It has been normalized. It should not have been. It’s an abject failure of our societies (and of our educative systems) and it’s a tragedy.

To comment on your reflection about friendship:

What you're describing as ‘mindlessly adding friends to a list of contacts’ is merely people mistaken the word friend for acquaintance.

I know a lot of people, some I may even enjoy spending time with as often as possible. But I've one (best) friend. A single one.

We've been friend since we were barely teens (now both nearing our 60s), we don't live in the same country anymore (meaning we can not meet for years) but we're still best friends. There is not a single other person on this planet, or at least in that somewhat narrower part of the population I do have contact with, I would call my friend.

I consider true friendship as rare if not rarer than true love.

BTW, this friend and I we’re very different on so many levels (our friendship began by us fighting one another at school). Even politically, we’re close to being the complete opposite of one another and we never managed to agree on anything in that specific field, save maybe on our sadness witnessing stupidity, and hate, spreading like fire and imposing itself in every single political group. Being different is part of the reasons we’ve remained friends, at least I think so.

We also don’t mind people not understanding our friendship. It’s a them issue, not ours ;)

[–] skozzii@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Hate, way too much hate being spewed everywhere and nobody has consequences.

People used to live in small communities and have to maintain reputations. Now you can just hide in an apartment, order food and supplies to you, and spew hate all day consequence free, it needs to stop.

[–] flabbergast@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

The one consolence: Haters will not ever be happy. Hate consumes everything if you let it. Most find out too late

[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Aligning yourself strictly with people who think and act the exact same way you do. Demonizing anyone who disagrees with you.

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 week ago

And I’ve had people in my life who simply cannot do that.

I'm probably guilty of it, but the way my life has gone reaching out to people just does not come naturally and it's hard to overcome the assumption that it would not be welcome, or the intuition that it's something I am not allowed to do. The idea of people you build an enduring connection with is appealing, but abstract and hard to imagine.

[–] Jumi@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

The objectification of women

[–] ClusterBomb@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Specieism. Although, living a fully antispecieist life is only possible since a short time (being vegan was not possible before). But it is not normal now that it is possible for animals well-being first, for fighting starvation and for the planet.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

what's your position on animals that are raised ethically for the principal goal of food?

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 2 points 1 week ago

Could you raise a person ethically for the principal goal of food?

[–] Asfalttikyntaja@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 week ago
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