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some vrchat photos because it's my post and I can do what I want B)

this is where I spent literally all of last night because I pulled an all nighter

I found some cool art and took a photo with it

after laying at the entrance of a club for several hours watching kids/drunks get denied entry and scream about it I found a cardboard cutout and posed with it

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[–] vzqq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 77 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Dom, feverishly buying time, reading the 47 page instruction manual of sone infernal looking gadget in poorly translated Portuguese: “uhhh, keep begging you, uuuh, dirty slut?”

[–] Septimaeus 14 points 2 weeks ago

Excellent use of question mark lol

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 25 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I never understood VRChat. I messed around with it back in the days, because that was one of the things you just did when you got a VR headset, but I always ran into weird little kids and minigames that got boring after 20 minutes.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 25 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

The whole point is talking to other people. At this point you can start 18 plus lobbies so you don't have to deal with the children anymore. Most people spend time in game worlds, hangout worlds, and karaoke worlds.

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 17 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Yes, but just like in real life, how do you find the chill, nice people in a sea of unsupervised children with ADHD, horny teenagers, and people that even I would call weirdo?

[–] Bubs@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 weeks ago

The answer for me:

  • Liberal use of block button.
  • Going to random worlds with random people all the time.

It took about 2 years to find my group. There were a lot of good memories and fun times along the way, but I eventually found my people.

One day in a random lobby I happened across a group of four or five people. We were chatting and having a good time, and they invited me off to whatever worlds they were going to. They eventually got me into their group of gaming nights and weekly hangouts. Through that group, I met who is now my best friend. She then got me into her group and I have since met a lot of people that are very dear to me.

I have been a part of a lot of groups in the past, but I could never truly call any of them my close friends. Now I have a handful of people that I would do just about anything for.

It's not easy to meet people on VR chat, but, if you surround yourself with good people, you can eventually find your people.

[–] morto@piefed.social 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

With all the effort and energy needed, it's easier and cheaper to try making friends irl

[–] Forester@pawb.social 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Taxi to the bar $15 Drinks $45 Ride back $25

Buying the handle and drinking it for 2 months in VR $45. Being able to mute or block annoying, drunk people priceless.

[–] morto@piefed.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

Bar? I was think more of something like going to a public park or joining some activity maybe

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

if you're age verified the IMPERIUM group is pretty chill and easy to talk to, only 10-15 people are on at a time

[–] froufox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

same, but recently i stumbled upon Marcus (iykyk) and now i'm following their content. it's like low-budget auteur cinema

[–] Septimaeus 2 points 2 weeks ago

Damn. Poorly-funded auteurist filmmakers are my fetish. Maybe I’ll give this chat room a chance.

[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 weeks ago

I spend time in VRChat with a private vrchat related discord server.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

hmm.... but the first option sounds like- sooooo much more spicy kinda-

where like- the sub doesnt know what's happening and stuff and like- lime u know? that adds something special..... also asking for things is impossible aaaa >o< especially for stuffs like this where ur scared ur fren would be totally against it or disgusted...

also wish VR chat.... i really, really tried to make it work for me....

but oh god no. as someone who generally dislikes horny 📯 people and loud crowded areas with people talking I between each other..... oh god no. I tried, multiple times (even with multiple headsets, now using an index) and.... i couldnt.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 points 2 weeks ago

I would not touch it with a stick, it looks horrifying.

But the Pokemon VR aspect is very tempting.

No, not the fucking r34 one, heck no.

The other one.

[–] NannerBanner@literature.cafe 2 points 2 weeks ago

Phone sex was awkward enough, but when I randomly got invited to a discord session... I don't know, it was great to make the other person feel good but the headphones just killed the mood for me.

[–] chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 weeks ago

Co-worker of mine was dating someone who handed him a shibari book and told to get reading.

[–] bootleg@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

That doesn't sound too bad.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

the thing is, I'm borderline asexual too so my results are even MORE embarrassing

[–] JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz -2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What idiot pays for porn when PH exists?1000003742

[–] WillowWisp@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Folks who want to support amateur producers and performers, especially those that produce niche stuff. It's the best way to make sure they can keep making it!

[–] JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] NannerBanner@literature.cafe 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Yeah, I was reading through an old sex blog, and it was sort of difficult to read a post from (as a made up example) 2011 about a very positive group of individuals making a particular type of porn and the blog author suggesting that the reader support the creators if they liked it, then in 2012 the blog author wrote a review saying the creators had really come a long way in their editing and videography and praised them again, and then in 2013 writing a fond farewell note because they had not been financially successful in it. Especially for counter-cultural stuff, where the sex is 'wholesome' and the actors are actually eager to be on camera without the drives of rampant commercialism, there were some neat sties around last decade.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Ouch ouch, but yeah sent this to my domme

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 5 points 2 weeks ago