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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/One_Restaurant_7311 on 2026-03-13 15:47:18+00:00.
Okay so this didn't happen today, more like it's been happening my whole life and I just NOW figured it out which somehow makes it worse?
I'm 22, college senior in Austin, and I've always told people I'm super close with my family. Like we text every day, my mom calls me constantly, family group chat is always popping off. I thought this was normal. I thought this was GOOD.
Last week my roommate Emily overheard my mom on speakerphone (my bad, I was making coffee) and afterwards she just looked at me and said "...does she always talk to you like that?"
And I was like "like what?" because honestly I didn't even notice anything weird. My mom was just asking why I hadn't responded to her text from 2 hours ago, and also why did my Instagram story show me at a restaurant she didn't recognize, and did I go with that girl from my sociology class because she "seemed flaky" when I mentioned her once three months ago.
Emily's face did this thing. You know the thing. The "oh honey no" thing.
So I started actually paying attention and... yeah. My mom texts me like 40 times a day. My dad sends me Zillow listings for apartments near them even though I've said a hundred times I'm staying in Austin after graduation. My brother somehow always knows my schedule better than I do and gets mad if I don't update the family calendar app (which I didn't know I was supposed to??).
The fuckup: I casually mentioned to my family that maybe the constant check-ins were "a bit much" and they LOST IT. I'm talking essay-length texts about how I'm "abandoning" them, how they "sacrificed everything," how I've "changed" since college. My mom's currently not speaking to me. My dad asked if I'm in a cult.
I just wanted them to text me slightly less and now I'm apparently the villain in their family group chat that I got removed from.
idk I think I need therapy lol
TL;DR: I finally realized just how toxic my family is.