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I used to be strictly materialist and atheist. Now I’m pretty spiritual. Don’t necessarily follow a religion and don’t support bigotry but yeah, I’m fairly spiritual now. This is a recent development and I never thought I’d be here like 5 years ago.

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[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 points 3 weeks ago

First of all, I liked America as a kid, that opinion changed fast. I was very fundamentalist Cristian conservative, but this strongly went against my values of compassion at some point, and I was the type to constantly question things. So at first I just lost faith due to how there was no evidence for Cristianity being based on anything real, since I would be putting my own and other's wellbeing for a belief in what is anectodal evidence, I told myself that I had proof, I would believe it, I got tricked, and started to believe in it again, then did a 180 AGAIN.

I would see trans people as degenerate freaks, but by some point, I knew this was irrational, and then a friend revealed they were trans, and I didn't show even a hint of the disgust, even though I was weirded out, I just went with the online trans support script on how I'm supposed to act, but I had like zero experience (or personality). So they kind of faded out of my life, sadly. Either way, they instantly Wolololo'd me just by existing. I no longer think ill of trans people, but ngl, thinking about their very happy expression as they stretch some latex shit they found, still weirds me out (not trans related).

I as far as recently, utterly hated furries, and would see them as groomers. Again, having furry friends helped, but I was never 100% comfortable for a long time, until I meet a certain (ironically no longer furry) person. No, I did not do a 180, I was guarded and would sometimes be rude and dismissive. I disliked a game for being furry, but I basically grew into it thanks to OpenMindedness™ that again, developed from some sort of philosophy.

(Note: this is getting to dense to phrase properly, so I will try to make it more TL;DR).

I was asexual for more than one reason, I was questioning why I was like that, but never did anything about it, until ironically a roleplay bot did something inappropriate that I punished it for, but it made me think, and I knew I was cutting myself out of a very human experience for dumb reasons, went very freakish on Reddit and Lemmy NSFW for a while, then due to both constraints, and my well...moral disgust with humans, I did a 180 AGAIN, and I'm now at least behaving like an asexual, my only exception is a friend who I don't directly have an NSFW relation with, but I talk NSFW, and I'm more than willing to hear him out on anything they need (so long as it's not myself).

A few other things: I used to be very bootstraps, which ruined me. I do believe help is important (but no longer have the trust for it). For a long time, I valued forgiving and accepting people, and I put up with a lot. This unfortunately, has come to an end as well, and I am VERY wrathful now, want to smell burnt flesh level of wrathful, cut off friends suddenly level of wrathful, cut myself from things I need to hurt others level of wrathful. It took a long time of what amounts of being tortured, and massive injustice for me to become like that, and it serves a purpose, it is not a character flaw. There are many things I forgot and don't think about here that are an extreme departure of my previous beliefs, and I am nothing like my old self, and my old self would probably want to burn my new self at a stake.

[–] NostraDavid@programming.dev 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Religion and politics.


Was raised Christian (Protestant; not sure which subchapter, but I've sung Psalms in whole-notes, rhythm, organ or drum and guitar - it didn't matter much), but turned secular/atheist around the time The New Atheists (Richard Dawkins, Daniel Dennett, Christopher Hitchens, and Sam Harris - the four horsemen, lmao) went around. Part was several youtube videos, part The Selfish Gene audiobook.

Nowadays, I still consider myself atheist, though I call myself heathen after the pre-Christian religion(s?) we used to have in the Netherlands (which is basically Norse mythology, but we call Odin Wodan, and Thor Donar. We also have a few extra figures like Frau Holle, some local legends, etc. I also wear two rings with the Elder Futhark alphabet, and a chain with Thor's Hammer.

I just think Germanic Myths and Legends are just neat.


Regarding politics: I used to regard myself as Liberal, but the more I learn about Liberalism (starting at John Locke, and ending with John Rawls) the less I like it. It feels like it's individualism and egoism to an extreme, and I think it will be damaging to humanity at large in the long term.

What would replace it? I'm not sure yet. I do feel we should probably try to get families living closer to each other, to ensure they can better support each other - nowadays a family can easily live all over just fine, which just means they'll grow apart. Yes, yes, not every family can do that, because some families are assholes, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try. Our capitalistic system is breaking the family tribe apart, and I think that's bad for everyone involved.

Also, forced paternity tests. If men get the burden of fatherhood legally shoved onto them, then they should get legal evidence the child is theirs. I think cuckery (raising another's child without knowing - not the sexual act) is a deeply immoral move, a deep and traitorous move, and if women use the legal framework to force men to pay for support, then they should be OK with us using the exact same framework to support ourselves, right? That would only be fair, right?

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[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

that getting into biotech/research field is actually harder than people think and the statistic heavily skewed towards health in job search and is on part with unemployment rate of the next highest rate of stem majors. plus its also HEAVILY gatekeeped so that the amount of scientists already employed dont have to compete with less salaries of fresh graduate pipeline.

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 weeks ago

I used to believe that the percentage of Americans who are horrible people wasn't different than any other group.

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