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I used to be strictly materialist and atheist. Now I’m pretty spiritual. Don’t necessarily follow a religion and don’t support bigotry but yeah, I’m fairly spiritual now. This is a recent development and I never thought I’d be here like 5 years ago.

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[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 213 points 3 weeks ago (37 children)

In high school, I was pro-death penalty. As part of a class on politics, I was randomly assigned the anti-death penalty position to research and debate on. I very quickly changed my opinion when I learned about the systemic racism involved. Now I'm an anarchist

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 69 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 129 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Before using AI for the first time: "Holy shit this is gonna be dope!"

Aftwr using AI: "Yo wtf? This is bullshit."

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 29 points 3 weeks ago

Itd be fine if it was just useless slop that sat there. But then it gets shoved I to every last possible device, burning up water, and taking up valuable land resources to enrich billionaires, oh and outright stealing the works of others while telling us plebs "it's illegal to do that!" Thats the issues I have. If it was all locally ran, open source, trained in public data only, I'd maybe be OK with it being used for research or data purposes only (nothing to do with art or surveillance) but we will never have that.

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[–] toomanypancakes@piefed.world 113 points 3 weeks ago (9 children)

I used to joke about eating two animals for every one a vegetarian didn't eat. I've been vegan for over a decade now, pulled a bit of an uno reverse in my early twenties.

[–] moondoggie@lemmy.world 97 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Oh great. Now I gotta eat four animals. I’m never gonna finish lunch.

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 25 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

You can switch to crickets, I think that's your best murder per Kg ratio.

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[–] TheWeirdestCunt@lemmy.today 75 points 3 weeks ago (31 children)

Idk why we've reached the point where anyone saying they're anything but an atheist has to specify that they aren't a bigot. Being religious doesn't make you a bigot and being atheist doesn't mean you aren't one either.

I had a similar 180 though, I used to be an atheist but in the last year or so I pivoted into druidism. Turns out following a religion that focuses on spending time in nature helps to get you out of the house when you're going though a depressive episode.

[–] Carnelian@lemmy.world 29 points 3 weeks ago

Idk why we've reached the point where anyone saying they're anything but an atheist has to specify that they aren't a bigot

The main issue is that the cohort of people with megaphones broadcasting their spirituality is virtually entirely comprised of profiteers.

Like all such parasites they follow the pattern of establishing out groups for you to despise, simply because it drives engagement better. Same reason all major social media now attempts to shape you into a being of hatred and impulse. It keeps you stressed and activated so you jump at the opportunity when they offer to let you spend money to blow off some of the steam.

Bigotry as a phenomenon has many origins, but wherever it springs from it ultimately doubles as an inherently appealing strategy for those who wish wring dry their community.

At any rate, as we all sit here dying around the same poisoned watering hole, we see these profiteers dressing just like us while actively dumping the poison in. Ashamed, we feel compelled to proclaim, “I am not them! They only wear my clothes!”

Spirituality is an incredibly comfortable and practical “clothing” for many people. You’re absolutely correct in drawing attention to how bad it sucks that the people who embrace that comfort now feel pained to differentiate themselves from the abusers who pervert their fashion

[–] SenK@lemmy.ca 25 points 3 weeks ago (9 children)

Yeah, I had a world-shaking 180 for spirituality after I read about Zen Buddhism.

I was a really proud atheist and thought all religions were just believing in something supernatural. Until I actually gave an intellectually honest try at understanding them. Most theistic religions I couldn't get on board with but after I read Three Pillars of Zen, something just clicked and I joined my local sangha. Also begun to understand a bit more about religiosity in general after, though I'm still not a fan of Abrahamic religions in particular.

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[–] chunes@lemmy.world 74 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (16 children)

I used to be anti-nuclear energy until I learned a bunch of science and engineering behind it. Turns out things are less scary when you know more about them.

Edit: I also learned that it's okay, and usually preferable, to not have a strong opinion about things that you don't know about.

[–] Aqarius@lemmy.world 20 points 3 weeks ago

Frankly, the second one is the bigger deal.

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[–] rafoix@lemmy.zip 67 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I used to believe the centrist idea that America needs a strong Republican Party and a strong Democratic Party.

The GOP actively calls all democrats and liberals enemies, demons, terrorists, etcetera while giving the billionaires all on our public wealth, tax breaks and subsidies.

America does not need the GOP at all.

[–] ieGod@lemmy.zip 23 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

One issue with this is both are right of center.

[–] Jesus_666@lemmy.world 20 points 3 weeks ago

And exist in a system that can only support two parties, which means that the most effective strategy is not to convince voters that your pictures are superior but to convince them not to vote for the other party. Cue a race to the bottom.

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[–] defrostedLasagna4921@piefed.zip 61 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)

Google, Reddit, etc. are good. Now I know the horrors and they are obviously our worst enemies.

That we don't need school and it's useless. I used to not like going to school when I was younger. Now I love it and look forward to almost every day, especially now that this is my last year in high school.

[–] GameOverFlow@lemmy.zip 28 points 3 weeks ago

Google once had the Slogan "dont be evil" but not anymore.

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[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 58 points 3 weeks ago

I used to be excited and optimistic about new technologies. Now I'm just jaded.

[–] rosco385@lemmy.wtf 53 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

I wasn't a supporter of euthanasia until I worked in a residential aged care facility.

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[–] Zonetrooper@lemmy.world 47 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

At one point I really, truly believed that the internet and social media would be a turning point in human interconnectivity and cultural understanding. The ability to just... talk to someone on the other side of the planet, at will? When we know that exposure to other beliefs and cultures is superb at punching holes in hatred and misunderstanding? Surely this would lead to great things!

Yeah, that was a miss.

Exposure to other is still a fantastic way to grow understanding. But the internet and social media were not a highway to it, and as the "wild west" era of the internet faded and we instead got corporate-governed, algorithm-driven siloization of views, my views on the value of social media changed sharply.

[–] Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 26 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I agree. Though, I think it was less a case of a misguided or overly optimistic view, and more a case of unfettered capitalism driving the Internet into an ideological cesspool. Everything on the internet tends to get a lot shittier once people start making money off of it.

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[–] qevlarr@lemmy.world 45 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Israel.

I thought it was complicated but they had a right to the land because of the holocaust, that countries around them should learn to get along with Israel

Now I know founding Israel was a mistake. Explicitly saying it's a Jewish state will inevitably lead to other groups being suppressed, i.e. Apartheid if not outright genocide. And they are not hated in the region because Muslims and Jews cannot get along, but because Israel was built entirely on stolen land, and they are still in the process of stealing more and genocide those who stand in their way

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[–] orlyowl@piefed.ca 36 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I used to assume police were generally trustworthy and I could believe their version of any given event. Now I believe nothing they say without supporting video evidence.

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[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 36 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (11 children)

I grew up with this type of Toilet.

Squat Toilet. Imagine a hole in the ground you squat over to do your business.

Seated toilets were harder to shit in and I didn't like them at first, but bidet is a formidable upgrade to hand so I like seated toilets more now.

Oh also I used to be a Matt Walsh fan in highschool and now I hate sexists and overall fascism supporters including my old self with disgust.

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[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 35 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Conservatism. Used to be a conservative around being 18-20. Then I left it after I saw what giving 2/3rd of the seats to Orbán did in my country. Now I'm not only an anti-fascist, but I also actively oppose conservatism.

When we thought fascism would never come back, we had to learn fascism was just conservatism at its logical extremes.

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[–] HazardousBanjo@lemmy.world 32 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

That Trumpers can be reasoned with and redeemed.

I held this belief until Jan 6th, but I've only felt more validated that Trump supporters are fundamentally irredeemable monsters who should be treated like hostile terrorists rather than fellow citizens.

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[–] 58008@lemmy.world 30 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Homophobia was the norm where I grew up in the '80s and '90s. Took me until the late '90s to start questioning that, and probably a year or two more to become completely cleansed of it.

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[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 30 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I used to believe in a woman's right to choose. Then I got married, and having my wife always pick what we do had gotten us into some really boring shit. I would like to choose from time to time.

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[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 28 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

Used to make fun of small cars and "ricers". Now I have like 3 of them and hate large vehicles.

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[–] pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (6 children)

Used to be an apple fanboy, use reddit, use Instagram; now I use linux, grapheneos, Lemmy, and, self host

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 26 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

That a dictatorship led by a "good, strong leader" would be enough to fix any country. Held that belief from ages 16-22. With time, I understood that it would devolve into a bad strong leader anyway, especially because any one single person cannot realistically do everything at such a large scale, nor can they ensure that everyone down the chain of command is "good". Paranoia would seep in, more and more resources would be spent hunting "the bad ones", innocents would be wrongfully accused either by honest mistake or by malicious enemies.

Nowadays, I really enjoy the idea of "Do not take for yourself any power that you would loathe your worst enemy to have" and I wish it could be applied to all levels of politics.

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[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 25 points 3 weeks ago (25 children)

I used to believe capitalism could work if it was just done right.

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[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 24 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

That people are smart.

Most people are abject morons who still believe in Iron Age mythology.

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[–] MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.works 24 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (6 children)

Eating meat. I used to vaguely mock vegans when I was in college (UK, so 16-18 years old). I used to say shit like "don't you just miss bacon though" and "the animals already dead, you might as well eat it now or it goes to waste". I've since done a 180 and I'm close to 10 years of veganism. Best decision I ever made for both my health and mental wellbeing.

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[–] enbiousenvy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

math is hard, annoying, useless

then found shaders, procedural art, freya holmer.

so math is hard, annoying, beautiful. well not exactly 180 then.

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[–] AtHeartEngineer@lemmy.world 22 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

That the world was ran by a cabal of evil people, genuinely thought it was mostly conspiracy theory and it wasn't so organized and fucked up. How naive.

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[–] Tronn4@lemmy.world 22 points 3 weeks ago
[–] sen@lemmy.zip 21 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

Israel was justified in their (initial) retaliation for October 7.

Gone so far in the other direction that I now firmly believe Israel should be wiped off the fucking map. Decades of propaganda convinced me they weren't violent colonizers.

Fuck Israel. From the river to the sea.

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[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 21 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

AI. Back in the olden days when I first played The Talos Principle, I was convinved that AI would be cool and offer us fascinating insights into the mysteries of consciousness. I never expected... this

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[–] kbal@fedia.io 20 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I used to believe that owning a car was necessary.

[–] sveltecider@lemmy.ca 30 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Depends on where you live, sadly.

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[–] Johniegordo@lemmy.world 20 points 3 weeks ago

The American dream.

Born in a south American country, I've grown bombarded by USA propaganda. Later on, by studying word history through different points of view, I've realized the evil USA imperialist practices are and the damage it has imposed to all the "underdeveloped" countries. "Not all USA is bad, but it's always USA doing bad things".

[–] Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 19 points 3 weeks ago

That Dems were a leftist party and cared about helping people.

Then I finished high school and started actually paying attention.

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