No Stupid Questions

Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.

Cheap places to take a girl:

• fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.

• if it's just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.

Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.

You talk to them.

It's that simple. But you have to do it. They aren't going to talk to you. Especially if you are a single male.

Dating apps. They suck, but there's a lot you can do (without paying money) to improve your odds.

Go to meetups. They exist for hobbies (board games, running, bird watching) and regions (North Brooklyn hangout). Don't go cruising but go for the thing and meet people.

Join a rec sport league. There's a bunch of soccer ones here.

If you live somewhere shitty, you're going to have a worse time. I live in a big city so there's a lot of people doing stuff. If I lived out in the sticks, there might be a dozen people of my desired age and gender(s) total.

Since you're here I'll assume you're a nerd and suggest getting into Magic:the Gathering. You can learn to play on Arena for free and then buy a pre-made commander deck. At that point you can go to local game stores and ask when they have open play nights. The nice thing about magic is that the games take a long time to play so there're a lot of opportunities to socialize with the people you play with and people nearby. Similarly if you can find an active Killer Queen cabinet around you those people are always desperate for players and it's super fun

If you're less of a nerd dance classes are more active and likewise force you to be in an intimate space with someone which will usually force you to socialize. You seem opposed to bars but karaoke crowds tend to be the same week after week, and you have to wait your turn, so it's another socialization venue

Hobbies. Groups. Bars/clubs. Anything that fosters community. Find somewhere that cultivates a shared interest and engage with others, they aren't necessarily going to come to you

I spent a good few hours every day on a dating site, making sure to really read through profiles and think of something interesting and engaging to talk about. I might've just been lucky, but I got a good amount of responses despite my less-than-ideal looks. Found one girl I clicked with, and 9 years later she's now my wife.

I met my fiancee on bumble.