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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/r0s3_sh4mp00 on 2026-03-04 02:46:50+00:00.
This happened 20 mins ago, and I am still sad and scared though it ended chill. I (16F) am currently applying to some research program for high schoolers at my local university. Two references are required for the application. So I pulled up to a dental clinic where I shadowed for 60 ish hours in total last summer and requested the dentist to fill in the reference form for my application.
He gladly agreed and started to write good qualitied response to the form questions. Everything had been going well. I was highkey excited to imagine how good my application will read to those admission ppl. After 10-15 mins of writing, the dentist is done. So he asked me to check and edit any response.
I started to check and fix things up. Several minutes later, I was done. Here camed the part where I fucked up:
I hit the submit button before asking the dentist.
2 secs later he got SOOOO pissed off at me. He scolded me and even said “im calling them to decline the reference”.
I froze. My heart dropped to the bottom of an ice lake. I apologized 5 times, if not, more and called myself stupid. He calmed down and opened the email receipt of the response.
I stood by, silent. You know the feeling of sky collapsing but u r too numb to feel anything right at that momet? That’s exactly that feeling.
The dentist took a biref look over the edited part and finally decided to keep it. (No more declining yay). At last, he told me to remember my lesson and wished me the best in getting the position.
Handshakes. Walked out. I started to cry when I got home cuz im genuinely ashamed and regretted for fucking up a great relation with the dentist whom I shadowed for 60 hours. I just feel like a bad perosn who has zero respect to others. Idek how Im gonna be able to greet him when I bump into him after school (the dental clinic is super close to my school and home).
Big Sigh.
TL;DR: I asked someone to fill in reference form for me. He left me the PC to make edits, but then I hit the submit button before letting him double check.