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[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 93 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Long time ago, group of friends and I were eating late night food at a diner. Talking about lots of stuff and one of them turned to the topic of homosexuality as one of our friends just came out.

Only other customer in the room was a lady reading a book. When we spoke of homosexuality she simply mumbled, "I don't believe in that." and we said, "... What?" she says, "I don't believe that homosexuality is a real thing."

Gay bro pipes up and says he's a living breathing example. They got into it for a bit and it was so long ago that I don't remember how it went. I think she left out of frustration.

Weird times.

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 50 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Even just the notion of butting into a conversation with that, wtf. Must've felt it was her chance to proselytise.

[–] PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

The People who "don't believe in homosexuality" are usually the same type of entitled assholes to insert themselves into other people's conversations.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 month ago

Excellent point

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

As an aside, there is really something magical about late night diners. Something timeless and almost invigorating about how mundane and dreamlike those experiences always are.

[–] Cethin@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 month ago

Lol. What is it about diners? I was having breakfast with a group of friends, after a night of drinking, and we had a conversation about an April fools joke one of the people's sister pulled. It was something about needing an abortion, I don't remember what. This woman sitting near us with her kids says we need to stop talking because she doesn't want her kids to hear about it. Eventually she ends up leaving, after the staff spoke with her, and we thought it was over. Turns out, she went to her car and waited for us to leave, she drove very close to us at high speed in the parking lot to yell "losers" at us. It gave us the name of our group chat for years after.

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[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 62 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Yeah, me and my wife are still married. No amount of random bystander disagreement will change that.

[–] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 24 points 1 month ago

Partnership is a very grassroots thing. It predates modern humans, and it will persist long after. An organization that fails to recognize self-defined partnerships is self defeating. I might as well argue that my own feet don't exist.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I disagree! You don't exist therefore are not married!

[–] Klear@quokk.au 4 points 1 month ago

You don’t exist therefore are not married!

The lesser known principle of Descartes.

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[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 49 points 1 month ago (4 children)

When the people who disagree with mountains turn out to be mountains themselves it becomes downright hilarious.

[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 31 points 1 month ago (1 children)

This half assed analogy is cracking me up

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 9 points 1 month ago

Trying to watch my calories so it’s only half ones for a while.

[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 month ago

These gay mountains are so gay.

That’s actually my personal theory on why they think it’s a choice. For them, it IS a conscious choice, because they’re gay and making an active choice to suppress it. They think everyone has gay urges, because they’re incapable of imagining a world where they aren’t their lived experience isn’t the default.

[–] cyan_mess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago

They can't see the mountain range with all the mountains or something

[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 1 month ago (3 children)

You think there's always been gay people? Even in ancient Greece? Sure, let's just pretend all those hairy daddy bears weren't wrestling each other for totally heterosexual reasons.

[–] rockerface@lemmy.cafe 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

When everyone was gay... noone was

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[–] PhoenixDog@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Nah those were just roommates..

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[–] Zink@programming.dev 32 points 1 month ago (1 children)

My experience being born into religious conservative white america is that phrases like "I don't believe in" or "I don't agree with" are just the politically correct language and/or dog whistle for "I hate that shit but I need to act polite."

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I have (RCWA) family members who, in their words, "don't believe in Halloween". Halloween being a holiday celebrated in many countries and one that happens every year, which is all over the media, with products in nearly every store, and even shows up on most typical calendars in this country.

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[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 month ago (5 children)

One time, my dad, fully serious, said to me that homosexuality didn't exist in nature outside of humans.

It was like finding out that you have a below average penis.

My stomach dropped in shame when I was so starkly faced with the mental faculties of one of my biological guardians I had been raised by. Was I staring at my limit?

What about those other kids, whose parents are educated and empathetic and who will ask real probing questions and can answer them? Will my facilities slow to a crawl soon, to keep pace with my genetic fate?

Are these fears so average that I should bow my head in the river, afraid to even express them, lest I be confronted by the entire history of humanity?

Maybe biological nature isn't everything, maybe fate isn't real and change is truly in our hands, ready to be molded, potentially even into chaos.

"Better stupid than dead", huh? It's staring right back at me, blankly, waiting for me.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago

Fortunately for you, while there's definitely some genetic component to it, it's definitely not the only factor by any means. I've known some very intelligent people who believe some very dumb shit.

[–] espurr@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 month ago

My dad is a flat earther

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

By writing this comment I think you’ve already got your answer. You seem very eloquent and you’ve got a mind that’s not afraid to go places. Don’t worry, you’ll be just fine.

[–] qaeta@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

One time, my dad, fully serious, said to me that homosexuality didn't exist in nature outside of humans.

Would just be like "Neither does fucking Bud Light dumbass!"

[–] astropenguin5@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Except homosexuality has been clearly proven in many cases outside humans.

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[–] rothaine@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 month ago

Bring your dad to a pond and feed the ducks. If he can recognize drakes vs hens he'll figure it out soon enough.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Christians (esp. fundies) really don't work with the same concepts as everyone else

for example, homosexuality is now known to be mostly a matter of biology (of course, a repressive environment might lead people to suppress, but I'm doubtful that is relevant to the underlying question of their innate sexual orientation, which remains unchanged)

but for science-denying Christians who are taught that homosexuality is "sin", they are mostly taught that sexuality is not anything innate or natural but entirely a matter of behavioral choices (similar to how shame about masturbation frames sexuality and sexual desire as wrong and a matter of self control and making "good choices").

So, in that context something like "I don't agree with homosexuality" really just means they see homosexual "acts" as wrong, and so they don't endorse people who indulge in those behaviors; they aren't really thinking about sexuality in the same way.

[–] sveltecider@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Hot take: I really don’t care if it’s a choice or biology, I’m fine with it either way.

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[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago (2 children)

People are stupid

Now, religious people are a special breed of stupid.

[–] OwOarchist@pawb.social 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They choose to believe in things they know aren't true, and they call it faith.

And that's how they think everyone else comes to their own conclusions about reality as well. They think we're taking the existence of homosexuality on faith, which is why they think they're making some kind of point when they say they don't believe in that.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Like a demented orobouros. I've found that many people project themselves upon the world, in order to explain it. As I've grown up, I've wanted to say that that has lessened, but it absolutely doesn't seem to have done anything but gotten clearer and more obvious. Maybe that, itself, is me projecting.

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[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 9 points 1 month ago

I believe that for a person to have unshakeable faith in objective reality, even despite all of the scientific and philosophical evidence and logic against it, speaks to an unnaturally feeble state of mind which has been cultivated in our society by the rich and powerful as a means of control. Human beings are not naturally so willfully ignorant; it must be trained from a young age.

[–] HrabiaVulpes@europe.pub 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"If not for christian missionaries you would still be worshiping sun!" "Sun is real, bro..."

I'd rather worship something real and responsible for life as we know it than a fictional petty tyrant who used his underdog creds to justify being the oppressor.

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 10 points 1 month ago

Make mountains gay again.

(I’m loving this post/comment section too much)

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I don't agree with the sun. That bitch can fuck right off.

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 6 points 1 month ago

Friggin’ hot tho 🥵 🥵 🥵

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

lucky for you, I've got an army of tigers.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 6 points 1 month ago

Actually, homosexuality is a social construct and is not objective. In Ancient Greece and Rome, there was no homosexuality. Men having sex with men was considered quite normal, personal preference or attraction didn't come into it. But for a man to take it in the butt from his social inferior was taboo in the same way homosexuality has been in much of the modern age. It was considered a deviant and unusual preference, much like being gay.

[–] Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 month ago

The "I don't agree with" people are also the believers that homosexuality is a choice. (It's not....every sane person knows that it's not.)

So when they're saying "I dont agree with" what they mean is "I don't agree with the choice a person makes to be gay"

[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I hear you but like -- fuck mountains.

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[–] Retail4068@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They are absolute morons. 

That being said you have to be a moron yourself to not be able to understand that it's the ethics (yes morons, I know) of gay they reference.

Don't be as dumb as them.

[–] warbond@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Oh shit, new Gay Lore just dropped! What are the Ethics of Gay?

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[–] merc@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's fun whacking a straw man, but "I don't agree with X" doesn't mean "X doesn't exist", it means "I don't believe people should engage in X".

If someone says "I don't agree with pushing your religious beliefs on others", would you reply the same way?

[–] CXORA@aussie.zone 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

You understand that's different right?

How are you going to complain about a strawman and then use one of your own?

Homosexuality isnt an action its a characteristic. "I dont agree with recycling" is different than "i dont agree with being left handed".

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