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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Timbuktulous on 2026-02-21 16:10:00+00:00.
I’m best man at a wedding in a week. About a month ago, the groom (we’ll call him Ben) called me to say that the fiancé (we’ll call her Mandy) was worried about me putting Ben in a compromising position with the bachelor party. Both are mid-thirty’s and collectively have 5 kids coming in.
So I call Mandy. Not text, I call her. I give her my word that I won’t put Ben in a compromising position. No strippers. I will ensure he gets home safely. She seemed satisfied.
Ben mentioned wanting to go to a piano bar downtown—about a 30 mile drive. That was mentioned around Mandy. I had asked my wife to be our designated driver so we could all drink.
Then Mandy plans the bachelorette party for the same night, and includes a play downtown. She invited my wife/driver. Ok. I pivot to renting a party bus—the same party bus she is using after the wedding.
She is upset about me using the bus. Thinks it will take away the special fun after the wedding if we use it the week before. Fine. Bride-to-be gets her way. No strippers. No party bus. No visiting any of the places she has planned for after the wedding. I literally asked her for what rules she would like for me to follow.
Then she’s asking me what time we might be at the piano bar. I tell her we aren’t doing that now because I can’t have a bunch of drunk dudes driving 30 miles.
Now she’s pissed (again). She planned the bachelorette party around us being in downtown and was planning to get a hotel room for her and Ben. I’m very ruined it.
Ben calls me to ask me to cancel the bachelor party. I tell him no. It’s none of her business what we do and she should not be making plans about what, when, and where we go. I said if she doesn’t trust me to keep my word, I can’t call her and fix that.
Shortly after that, she sends me a text apologizing, asks me to not cancel the party, do what we want, just make sure Ben gets home safe.
The day arrives. I pick up Ben for lunch so we can have alone time and catch up (I now live out of town). We meet the rest of the dudes at Twin Peaks at 5 (if not familiar, they have waitresses in bikinis). At 7 we go axe throwing. At 8:45, my wife texts me that Mandy is pissed that we went to Twin Peaks. She’s blowing up Ben’s phone too. Ben also tells me. My wife tells Mandy it was her (my wife’s) idea.
The girls come back from downtown. Most of them, including my wife, came to join us at our bar for late night. We had fun. I take Ben home around 12:30. Mandy’s Expedition was parked out front and her car was gone. As was she.
Ben texted me that Mandy stayed out all night and turned off location services on her phone. I tell Ben (who did not even ogle at the sexy waitresses) did nothing wrong I offered to apologize if it made his life easier. Now he’s talking about calling off the wedding b/c Mandy has issues like this and has broken his trust with staying out all night with location services off.
So, does taking Ben to Twin Peaks violate the “no strippers, no tempting Ben to be unfaithful”? Did I FU?
TL;DR. Fiancé threw a gasket that we went to Twin Peaks during the bachelor party. Turned off phone and didn’t come home that night. Groom thinking of calling off the wedding.