In my extended family there is a tradition. The new adult receives 200 € and we all go to the Casino. The rest essentially drink and watch as the new adult loses all the money and learns a lesson. None of us gamble.
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Couldn't they just take your word for it, and keep the $200?
No, it didn't feel much different beyond that i could legally get drunk. You're still the same stupid teenager, with the difference that your actions now have potentially more severe consequences. So sometimes. It's probably a good idea to pause for 5 seconds and think about what the consequences might be. Easier said than done for sure.
I'm now 32, and the most important thing I can say is take care of your body and your body will take care of you. Work out, eat your vegetables, stretch your limbs, maintain your cardio. And the next 20 years ahead of you will be even better.
I have friends my age that move like seniors. You don't want to be like that.
Eh it was the summer after I graduated so felt anticlimactic, everyone else I knew was already 18.
Looking back though. It felt like the speed of life got turned up a bit. Like months started to feel like weeks.
Just remember to stop and soak things in
Feel? Nothing anyone would welcome hearing about. I was an avid and driven curtain peeker when it came to reality and it did my head in early let's say. 18 was a dreaded milestone I didn't want to age past especially. Anyways...
What I did do was get absolutely obliterated drinking for the first time with my besties in a basement birthday bash playing Super Smash Bros and then playing Never Have I Ever and Monopoly with the ladies until the spins kicked in and I puked a lot. Rum. Never could drink it ever again.
Seperate party with the family of course, much more wholesome. I don't think we ever celebrated birthdays with extended family. That was more of a holidays thing for us.
I did what I do on most of my birthdays: went to a movie with friends. It was my first year in university abd I grew up in a small town, so that day was my first time riding a bus
Man don't even fuckin remember wat happened my 18th birthday other than turned 18
Seriously. Could not tell you. I assume there was cake but I have no idea. Why is that? I can remember my 5th but not my 18th.
When I turned 18 my parents took me out to dinner and joked about me paying for everyone since I was an adult now. It became clear quickly that the joke was how they actually felt and within months they had moved to a new home in which i was not invited to live. I say enjoy the part the best you can and try not to get dragged into the bullshit.
Wild to me how yall are only raised til 18 because they have to do it, why even have kids, just to say you did?
My personal case was probably more to having a step parent. My younger sibling that shared both parents got his college paid for, multiple cars, and didn't get pushed into anything like I did. Your case still stands in general.
"Oh hey, I'm no longer legally dependent on my parents, nice."
I scheduled vaccine appointments with my Dr. My parents were anti-vax and once I was old enough I went and did it myself.
Oh, wow, good for you! I guess I'm lucky that I was born before anti-vax was even a thing. In fact, my mother was one of the "polio pioneers," the school children who served as the nationwide randomized, controlled trial for Salk's vaccine, and her father had nearly died from polio, so I certainly got all my vaccines as a kid.
I got to wait 30 minutes until midnight so I could buy fuel system cleaner and a sharpie. Walmart can be silly.
When I turned 21 I got a liquor store to break the law and stay open late to sell me my first legal bottle of scotch at midnight (my roommate was good friends with the owner)
Ah, I will turn 18 soon too :^). My parents prolly aint throw a huge or expensive party for me. Just go 2 a relative w/ big house and call a few friends after school maybe. I want a blue BFDI (Battle For Dream Island - a cartoon on web which Im grown up w/) cake with some stuff like maybe getting some useful things 4 my pet rock (yes I have a huge "breed" pet rock) and get myself a bike I wanted for years or an ugly sweater, BFDI Woody (the char from same cartoon) plush maybe. I want that plush since it is out and loving the character since late 2010's.
Anyways, I dont think much stuff will be changed really. Prolly will have a legal right to drink, have a job, drive or smth. And methinks I cant neither afford any one or my mentally ill ass prolly will commit some crimes or go die while being drunk so Id rather to not drink. And the best thing after 18s prolly getting into a some meh kind of an university.
I just... did my own thing, by myself. Had my own car, a tank of gas, and some cash in my wallet. No concrete plans when I woke up that morning.
I ended up spending most of my 18th birthday at the zoo, just wandering around at my own pace. Whenever my folks would take me before that point, we'd always end up trying to speedrun the whole place, spending no more than a minute at each exhibit, if we'd stop at all. And without spending a single cent on anything other than admission.
I spent two hours just hanging out in the zoo's walk-in aviary, feeding seed sticks and nectar cups to parrots. Best birthday ever.
Not a party, but my parents took me around to meet and dine with a few of their friends (mostly somewhat accomplished folks) as a farewell of sorts. I got sent to the US for college 2 months later and basically never had a chance to go back home in 10 years so

Every birthday I ask for pizza. It was largely the same.
In HK, being 18 almost always means you are studying for HKDSE, basically the biggest and most important exam of a Hongkonger's life. I got a few blessings from my family lol.
It was nice, but I was still in high school so it didn't really feel like adulthood, that came in the form of my high school graduation, moving in to college, and then my 21st birthday.
Just enjoy it and appreciate the freedom and responsibility, but also take your time before acting on your newfound right to sign contracts. Maybe register to vote if you live in a democracy that doesn't do that automatically, for me that was the biggest thing about that age, I was finally a full citizen.
I think I got drunk on Greek Row
I got the ability to unground myself after being denied any of my interests and social connections for a year because I didn't load the dishwasher fast enough.
You do you.
Life isn't a dress rehearsal and you don't get extra points for suffering.
Show up at the party and have the best time you can. See which rich guy gives you the silliest advice, or see how much cake you can eat, or Find someone else who doesn't want to be there and do something to make them happy.
It's the last thing they can force you to do (but playing along can have benefits).
All of my friends got arrested and I was homeless, so I just slept in my truck all day.
As you can tell people love me at parties.
What kind of truck?
Asking the real questions, it was an old beat up red 1986 Chevrolet C-1500.
At the time, it was barely worth $500, but now, if it had a nice paint job on it, it would probably be worth enough for a down payment on a house.
I’m sorry you went through that. That’s not fair.
Well, yes, but it's their fault for robbing a McDonald's, so like, I can't really question the fairness of the situation.
18 is when the full pedos lose interest and the borderline pedos come after you instead
I had a small party with family and friends then started moving out.
I had my parents out of the house for the weekend and throw a party with all my friends. We drank and smoked weed and I throw up before midnight from my bedroom's window. This didn't stop me from continuing the party that night. It was fun. Now days I get 48 hours of hangover if I drink 2 beers in 1 night, so my liver is fucked I guess. I regret nothing !
nothing happened, like always, it was gradual, friends moving away, you finding new interests, finding new friends, slowly realising your shortcomings and working to over come them. 18 felt like nothing, but the years after felt like growing up
Why is 18 still a thing? You can't even buy cigarettes at 18 today.
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Can't buy cigarettes at 18 is a US-specific thing right?
I think 21 is age in Canada too. It might be in the rest of the commonwealth also.
Mmm not that I'm aware of. Different provinces have different ages of majority (ie. 19 in Ontario and BC, 18 in others), but I haven't heard of no cigarettes until 21. Granted, haven't been paying attention, that's in the rear view 🫠
Nothing noteworthy about 18, except voting and easier job hunts (technically, but I had to change cities to find work still, so YMMV). 21 was boring too.
But a week from now you'll be 40.
Don't be one of those who at 40 realizes they should have been investing 20% of their income and utilizing their employers 401k match, or taking better care of their health.
The time goes by real fast. Faster than as a teen.
Or at least it tends to seem that way.
Enjoy your 18th today.
Plan for you 60th tomorrow.
Don't wait.
Nothing special. I was just one year older. I never was much into birthday and I'm now many, many years older than 18 ;)
My parents are throwing me a huge party, my dad’s idea, of course, and it’s nonnegotiable
It probably is negotiable but it may happen the stakes are too high. Hard to say without any context.
I threw my dad out of my first home the day he came to visit. Right after he started behaving like he used to when I was living under his own roof, I asked him to stop. He did not. I explained him I was not living at his place anymore and he was my guest and he should stop now unless he wanted me to show him the door. He persisted. I grabbed him by the seat of his pant and drove him out, shutting the door on him. It was not nice and it did not end in the most respectful way but it was still a negotiation ;)
Absolutely nothing special and dont remember what it was
Just another tuesday
Got really drunk and spent the next day vomiting into the toilet. Go slow and eat first!
The only thing that to me meaningfully changed: I could legally drive on the road alone (before I had my license but was only permitted to drive under supervision).
Besides that: The number of years I lived has increased by +1 :p
I went to the pub with my mate where I'd been drinking every day for the previous year and got a legal pint. Told all the staff that it was my birthday. Then which one and almost got barred!
Proceeded to get shit-faced