Per person? Gay men. Overall? Women, due to how many more straight women there are than gay men. Purely a guess though.
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Women do blowjobs a lot less than the average gay man though, I think both handjobs and vaginal sex is a lot more common with biological women. I'm bi but have been with mostly women (~95%) and have gotten more blowjobs from men, also have several gay friends and from talking with them it seems blowjobs are much more common than handjobs and anal.
This guy bifucks
Gay men.
I once worked at a very shitty hotel. We're talking a hookers 'n heroin type hotel. I once had a family in July come to the front desk at 3am complaining that this hotel was NOT suitable for a family to stay at. I simple said "Oh, I fully agree. This place ISN'T made for family vacations. Why ARE you here???". She didn't have an answer for that. She was atrempting to use that as reason why she should get a refund. She had no idea how to react to me saying that she WAS in the wrong place, she WAS in danger, and the smart thing to do was leave now for her own families safety.
Well, about a year after that we had a gay leather biker convention that booked 80% of the whole hotel.
While I was checking this one guy in, another guy walked up behind him and asked "Hi, I'm Tom. Are you single to play?" The first guy says "I'm not single, but we're free to play". The second guy just said "Great. I'm in room 302. Here's a keycard. Bring your boyfriend and all your friends."
Me, being a straight male just had to be amazed at the efficiency. Tom just went from being a stranger to hosting a threesome, potentially an orgy, in 3 sentences.
Not even the germans are THAT efficient! I just stood there thinking "God dammit. Why can't I be gay? That was SO easy! With women you have to do all this other pesky stuff, like learning their name, going to dinner, finding out who they are as a person.....Tom basically just walked up and said "Come get laid".
I think gay guys give more blowjobs just based on the fact that with a straight couple, only one is giving blowjobs and only sometimes. Gay guys BOTH give blowjobs, and I assume it's several times a day. Like one just walks into the room, shoves his cock into the others mouth, and says "Oh by the way, my parents are coming to visit this weekend......don't stop. I can multitask."
Yep, as a bi guy, I can attest to the efficiency of gay hookup/sex life culture in general.
As a man, you'll have two very different experiences if you go to a dedicated straight hookup app vs, say, Grindr or Sniffies.
With women, it is a whole process of ensuring that both of you are looking for the other, even if it's a one night stand. Physical attraction, being charming, non-threatening, tons of requirements. At one point I missed my chance with a girl because she liked being read poetry to after a hookup, and I was apparently reading the wrong poets at the time.
With men? Even if you catfish them, 7-8 out of 10 will still have sex with you. You can literally post 10 year old pics, be 50-70kg heavier and still not a problem - meanwhile I had women call me out for using a roughly year and half old pic, and since I've lost weight and shaved off my beard, I looked slightly different...
With apps like Grindr you can quite literally find a sex partner in 5 to 10 minutes. Start a few chats, send the appropriate pictures, agree on a time and who's bringing what, and you're good to go.
"..and who's bringing what." I love that line.
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Wonderful story thanks for sharing.
Like... Per capita, or total?
I bet gay men are much more eager than straight women on average, but straight women outnumber gay men by like 20:1.
I've definitely received more than 20x the blow jobs from gay men than straight women (20x0=0)
infinitely more ..
The only straight women I've ever seen express an honest, self-derived interested in penises broadly have been "OMG I love penises so much and eat like, 30 dicks before lunch" marketed personas on reddit and the like who have Onlyfans links in their bios. These are the commercial entities that are skewing people's ideas how the genders feel about the issue.
Most straight female partners who perform the act regularly are mostly doing it for the emotional/intimacy connection, like watching their partner or doing it because they know their partner likes it but otherwise would be pretty ambivalent at best.
This is all fine, but men broadly have a very hard time reconciling and processing that their female partners aren't as into the visceral, genital-focused attractions as they are, and that's why this is always such a huge issue. Nobody wants to patronized or placated, they want to feel actually desired and men and women, for whatever reason, be it biological or social or whatever else, have different kinds of attractions.
In the old days we made this work by talking to each other and adapting to each other, nowadays people read all the discourse online even before meeting someone to be partner with and get too insecure or hyper-fixated on these differences before having a chance to learn how relationships even work. We were not really meant to read the insecurities and honest truths from so many millions of people we don't know, it fucks with our psyche in ways we will be studying for centuries.
I know the title explicitly says gay men, but then talks about Gay women and straight men as if the two sexualities are all that exist.
I'm sure the number, if you include bi, bi curious, pan etc. Is much higher than 5%.
I'm a mostly straight man (let's say 2/3rds) and I've given more blowies than an ex female I was with for over a decade.
I'm surprised at how intense the blowjob discourse is.
I just want to say that I really appreciate whichever participant wishes to improve their genders average. Blowjobs are a blessing upon this world.
By numbers straight women, by numbers per capita gay men
Quick math
There are about 4 billion women in the world And about 4 billion men.
About 5% of men are gay, let's round that up to 10% to account for closeted gays. I'll use the same value for women.
So we've got 3.6 billion straight women vs 0.4 billion gay men.
9 times more straight women than gay men.
So a gay man would have to, on average, give a blowjob 9 times more frequently than a woman to break even.
So the question is, how often does the average woman give a blowjob? Let's go conservatively and say one a week? Some will be more, some will be less. Which means gay men will need to give a blowjob more than once a day on average, which seems unlikely.
But let's say it's far lower than what I'm thinking, if the average woman gives a blowjob once a month, gay men would need to give a blowjob every 3 days. That's certainly achievable.
I think the answer is straight women, in my experience gay men aren't as horny as people would have you believe, and women are way hornier than people would have you believe.
However, I say this as a married straight guy with a lot of women friends and a few gay friends so take this with a grain of salt
So a gay man would have to, on average, give a blowjob 9 times more frequently than a woman to break even.
Pfft. Bro, I've blown 6 men in 1 day. I'm a dude. I doubt women would be up for a blowjob a week, but I know plenty of gay men who would do it every day of the week if they could.
It's not about how many men you've blown in a day, although mad respect, 6 is impressive, but on average how many blowjobs you give.
If you blow 6 men a day and then none for a couple weeks, that's 3 blowjobs a week on average. Which is strong, but the average straight woman only has to give a blowjob every 3 weeks to beat that, which I suspect is easily achieved.
I can convince my wife to blow me once every 4 to 5 times we have sex. We have sex probably every week and some change on average. So once a month, with a 2 dry months a year
Gay men aren’t as horny as people would have you believe
My pansexual roommate ones showed me an app/website I can’t remember the name of, for gay men to advertise that they want to hook up, in real time.
There were hundreds of bubbles, with like 5 more showing up every second and some disappearing. And the thing only shows you the local ones so that’s 100 men just within our part of a relatively small US city. (Tbf, lots of them were from within nearby hotels so not necessarily local people)
But the point is all of this is live, dozens of men advertising themselves, people looking for people to hook up with people right at that moment, and that’s just in like a 5 block radius.
I can’t say gay men are hornier than women, but I’d be willing to bet gay men probably get the most action per capita out of any gender-sexuality combo on the planet.
Edit: Found it the site is called “Sniffies” (I don’t know why it’s called that and I don’t really want to) but if you’re a man into men and want to advertise your dick size and your hotel room number to random strangers on the internet for a chance to get laid, this is the site for you lol
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Gay dudes, by a mile. Probably both in terms of rate and absolute number. I bet it's not even close.
There are far more straight women than gay men. There's no way gay men hold the title for absolutely number
Yeah, but not all women give BJs, some don't do it often -- married men will often talk about it like its a birthday/special event thing. Gay guys do it daily. Hell, a gay couple is going to rack up multiple BJs on both sides of the relationship daily -- they 69 twice and they already lapped a straight married guy's "birthday BJ"s 4 times.
Not saying it's definitely gay men, but I think we'd need more data to make a call really. I feel like it may be like those 'salary' things, where people'll always note at the start of the year "The richest 1% made as much as the poorest 70% by January 3rd" or whatnot, but with BJs and Gay dudes.
But gay men only make up like 5% of men. We're talking 200 million gay men vs 4 billion women.
Sounds to me like a challenge they'd happily accept. They're like the Spartans of BJs.
Spartans! Prepare for glory^holes^!
For every woman that doesn't do anything there is another who wants to blow her partner multiple times a day. You only hear complaints about the former.
So I lazily glanced around earlier to see if there was any data, couldn't find anything all that strong in terms of sample size etc. One psuedo-survey was going on about how common oral sex is in general, and noted that like, in the 60 (happy and willing to talk about their sex lives) couples between 18-45 they surveyed, 30% didn't do it, and those that did tended to do it like 5 times a week (or was that month? I cant recall the frame). The small subset of gay couples had a higher average but not by tooo much, at like 6 or 7. Straight women tended to go down more than straight men, though straight men claimed greater satisfaction/arousal from giving oral (women were at like 25% who enjoyed it, vs 52% of the men).
That was a younger contingent, non-married/long term, and a tiny sample in general, likely from one particular region of the world. Likely a region fairly open/accepting of all this stuff, given the topic of the survey. I'd bet the numbers skew WAY differently amongst boomers and genX even -- even many older millennials are sorta prudish on this front.
But even with those really wobbly data points, its not quite "for every woman that doesn't, there's one that does", it's more "for every 10 women, there're 3 that don't do it, 1-2 that enjoy it, and 5-6 that tolerate it now and then".
You haven't met my ex, it seems.
This guy doesn't maths.
I think gay men would be the most active BJer demographic, but speaking for myself as a heterosexual woman, I do love administering BJs to those I love so very much.
Anyone who is married (in any combination of genders) knows the answer is gay men
Ten years, got one or two.
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On average I would say gay men.
Overall, women.
There's just a lot more women in the world than gay men. And contrary to popular belief, quite a lot of women really enjoy giving blow jobs.
I'm not feeling picky.
You know what we call people like you? Greedy. ;)
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It's... Actually kinda hard for me to make a guess. I think overall it's probably more even than you'd expect. All things being equal (sex drive, being into your partner, etc) straight women outnumber gay men. 51% of the population are women (ish), and about 5% are gay men. Assuming everyone's taken, and everyone has roughly the same ssxual activity, you'd be looking at around 5x the blowjobs in gay relationships (on average there will be more penises to be sucked in gay relationships than straight)
However things aren't equal. People who're trans are also more likely to not be straight (about 17.6% of trans people overall self-ID as straight), but that'll skew the numbers in a lot of different directions because of surgery, and dysphoria.
I'm actually curious how heavily heterofatalism affects this, as well. A lot of straight people seem to hate their partners, though I've been seeing less of that ball and chain type stuff recently than I had in previous years. But also a lot more people are just single than before, so that'll play into it.
I would say it's also age dependent, but there's not much of a difference. Over 40s report having sex about 69 (nice) times per year on average vs 25-34s report about 90 times a year. With retirement communities frequently being STI hotspots I'm not that surprised tbh (condoms do more than prevent pregnancy!)
Only now did I remember that we have statistics about a lot of things. Straight women give oral sex an average of 5.14 times per month. Gay men are 5.3x per month. So yeah. Gay men give fewer blowjobs overall, but more per capita, and gay coupled will have a little more than double the amount of blowjobs. Assuming about 5% of the population is gay men, and only looking at couples, we're looking at about 1 out of every 6 blowjobs being from a gay man.
... These are the thoughts that kept me out of the good schools.
Edit: Now that I've been awake for more than 10 minutes I realize that the doubling of the number of blowjobs by gay men because there are 2 is prooooobably faulty logic. So it's closer to about 10.3% of blowjobs given by gay men if we don't forget lesbians (my own demographic, damn you, me!), and we assume a 9:1 ratio of straight women to gay men.
These are the thoughts that kept me out of the good schools.
You should have gotten a statistics scholarship. This is the basis of a Master's thesis.
I didn't expect to receive such high praise on a post about blowjobs, but hey I'll take it!
It wasn't about blowjobs, it was about statistics. Get your mind out of the gutter.
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The greater majority of relationships in the world are between what is refereed to as traditional male/female couples. The rest of the relationships and their various combinations are at best five percent. So I'm going to say straight women are clearly in the lead there.
Well, for my humble investigation, there are lots more gay men’s blow jobs than women’s.
holy shit Fleur_ restrain yourself
Gay men men being able to relate to the feeling probably plays a role.
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