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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/AmoraEnchantress on 2026-02-12 20:35:02+00:00.
So, I know this might not be as big to other people as me but I have been feeling so guilty about this so I have to share and thought this place was appropriate.
I am a pretty hairy woman. I'm not going to bore you with details but it's due to a condition. I get so hairy I will grow a "beard" If I don't shave it off like every other week. I work with kids, especially preteens, so I get comments if I forget to shave lol.
Today though, I was with this kid I will call Edwina. Idk If I should add this or not but I am a white woman, and she is indian
Edwina felt really insecure today for some reason. She talked about how ugly her unibrow is and how she is mad her mother won't allow her to shave it off. There was also a lot of cultural things she mentioned I didn't really have something to comment on, so I talked to her about Frida Kahlo, and then showed how hairy my own arms are. My point was to show that women can have hairy arms or face and there's no shame on it.
She was actually listening to me quite well, until she mentioned her moustache and gow insecure it made her.
Then, I slipped up. I said: "Oh, that's normal too. Sometimes women can have that. Even I have it if I didn't shave-"
Something in Edwina's eyes broke. Like, those eyes will probably haunt my dreams. She just looked... kind of betrayed. She became a little withdrawn and spent the rrst of the recess away from me. I tried to be good representation but instead I might have heightened her own insecurities.
This was a learning moment in my still short career as a school assistant
TL;DR: I tried to be representation, ended up reinforcing her insecurities.