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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/omgomgyouguys_ on 2026-02-10 14:35:56+00:00.
Obligatory throwaway account.
This is all just… a huge mess. I (17F) am a part of a large friend group, containing my best friends and a mutual (17F) I don’t know all that well, along with several boys.
For Valentines day, my school has a stand available where you can buy roses or cookies for people and they’ll deliver it for you. You can offer to send them anonymously, with a note, with initials or your full name. There’s a guy in our friend group (17M) who I think it’s cute. I wouldn’t say I’m in love with him, but sort of ‘if he asked me out, I’d say yes’ kind of vibe. For some reason, I thought it would be a good idea to send him a cookie, anonymously, just as a little treat.
To my shock and horror, as I later realised, the student council would be handling all cookie and rose delivery, meaning they would see everything. And our mutual friend is on the student council. The cookies aren't supposed to be delivered for another week at this point, and it’s too late to turn back, so I just let it go, hoping she won’t have the misfortune of seeing what I wrote.
Just my luck, while we’re all hanging out, she mentions that she’s seen EVER. SINGLE. FORM. filled out for Valentines day. Obviously I panic, asking her “Every single one?” She nods, and in the least discreet way possible, whispers to me “So, you like [insert crush’s name]?”
My best friend (who I also hadn’t told) and a girl I barely know are close enough to hear this, so I made up an excuse, saying it was a dare. And they believe it, thank the lord. Because honestly, I didn’t want him finding out, because my crush on him was so unserious, it wasn’t worth losing a friendship over.
Now we come to last Thursday, when all the roses and cookies were given out. I wasn’t in his class when he received it, and nobody mentioned it afterwards. So, I assumed we were in the clear. Despite the mutual being a bit of a pick me, the fact that she had tried to whisper about my ‘crush’ made me feel a bit better about the fact that she probably wouldn’t tell him.
Friday comes and I don’t see him most of the day. No big deal, we have different classes. I don’t really have any reason to assume: A) He knows or B) He’s ignoring me. The fact that no one mentioned it makes me assume everything is fine.
I do notice, however, that he’s lost our 230 day streak on snapchat. Whatever, maybe he’s just been busy.
But by the time Sunday rolls around and he hasn’t even opened my snaps in days, it suddenly clicks for me that he is most likely ignoring me. And he started ghosting me Thursday after the cookies went out. The only logical conclusion I can come to is that he knows, and now he’s trying to distance himself from me.
Honestly, when I first realised, I was feeling pretty hurt and angry at myself. This stupid cookie was absolutely not worth losing a perfectly good friendship over, especially a crush that wasn’t even that strong. I genuinely just thought he was kind of cute. I’m not going to see him in person for two weeks now, so now I have two weeks to spiral about this. Guess the lesson is that nothing is ever actually anonymous, huh?
TL;DR: I sent my crush a cookie, he probably found out it was me who sent it and is now ignoring me.