I would take a look at TeamSpeak or Matrix.
Of the two Matrix is probably the closest to Discord.
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I would take a look at TeamSpeak or Matrix.
Of the two Matrix is probably the closest to Discord.
I'm hosting a matrix server it was rough but not impossible. Using conduit as the backend. Now that the setup is finally done it was so worth it. I would do it again if needed. Coturn was easy to set up along side it.
I am not knowledgeable enough yet, but doesn't self-hosting Nextcloud have a voice feature? I'm looking into setting that all up myself