The fact that it’s an apartment.
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Not sure what makes sense to ask but my personal experience:
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I would wanna ask if they recently had any work done to their plumbing for the building. I moved to a new place once but the building was older and just my luck as I had taken up a job that was WFH--surely enough, while I was at home, they had to turn off the water randomly (for hours) throughout a given week and this happened like every other month. They would only give notice via some random paper they slipped through unit front door but otherwise, I had no other way of knowing when this would happen.
Second thing to maybe ask is if they plan to do any kind of work on the parking lot (assuming the building has an actual lot). For me, I didn't think to ask this but about 3 months in, the building ended up having work done in the parking lot to redo pavement and redraw parking spaces. They forced every tenant to move their car from the lot and as a backup measure, let us use a nearby parking lot that was actually for a restaurant. As you can imagine, this was not a good idea. I was sort of lucky because being WFH meant I could move my car when everybody else was at work but in hindsight, the temporary space they were offering was not enough for the amount of tenants and cars.
You may be in a bit of a rivalry with a neighbor who likes slamming things or having loud music, obviously breaking lease agreement, who makes you wonder why they've gotten away with it as long as they have. You record, you report but management does next to nothing. They tell you to your face that the only way they can move forward, is a police report.
This seems to be a common misperception. Results vary based on jurisdiction, but in most places Landlords CAN'T evict anyone for noise. Doesn't matter what's in the lease. Eviction is serious and devastating, and not something to be pursued over noise. Even with police complaints (they don't care) they still can't evict unless especially egregious.
Also, noise is a part of life. People have kids and they play. People watch movies on TV. People drop dishes and heavy doors without shocks slam and dogs bark. It's part of life. Most appartment building aren't built with sound management in mind making normal everyday sounds a nuisance. To live in an appartment is to have noise of a community. For every bad tennant making noise, there is one curmudgeon filing complaints at butterfly farts.
The solutions:
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Respectful discussion. Calmly let the person know what you are hearing and how it is impacting you and a polite suggestion of what can be done to mittigate this.
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Headphones, earplugs, white noise generators.
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Move to a more suitable place, such as a sound managed appartment or a detached home in the countryside.
I was told, to my face by management, that my peace was to be valued. Everyone's peace was to be valued.
Maybe someone doesn't want to wear their headsets all of the time in a place they pay a lot of money for. You're making it sound like there is no control for anything and just let it be. But someone probably hasn't told you that, if it can be helped, it should be helped.
Its like you didn't read anything I said.
That's cool, because you willfully misinterpreted OP to start with.
The obvious implication with what they're saying is people doing it egregiously.
"Someone who likes slamming things" doesn't usually mean people just using their shit reasonably, it's also not "literally all my neighbors slam things all the time and I have no concept that the cabinets just might be shit in every unit".
It's talking about an outlier.
There's more room to interpret "or who plays loud music" as maybe referring to someone doing a one off thing, but that's borderline taking OP in bad faith.
There are absolutely people who rant about gnat farts, but if you've encountered any significant amount, I'd suggest you're probably a lot louder than you think you're being.
"People who like slamming things" from OP is bad faith. Look, rage all you want. The simple fact is no one will evict over noise unless egregious. If it was egregious you'd have multiple complaints from all tennants and to police or city bylaw officers who would issue fines first.
Asking cops to police noise is bs. Asking landlords to evict over noise is bs. An old man yelling at clouds.
Rage? I'm not upset. You seem to be really invested in this though. I was being somewhat flippant in my last comment about the problem likely being you if you've somehow been the target of multiple noise complaints or if you've somehow known multiple people who would want someone evicted for a basic noise compaint, but this really is coming across as something personal for you.
The only person who mentioned eviction is you. And OP clearly isn't calling the cops on their neighbors, otherwise the landlord saying they needed a police report wouldn't be anywhere as much of a problem.
If a polite conversation doesn't work, and a not so polite conversation doesn't work, and the landlord stepping in doesn't work, then we're all adults and can just be increasingly passive agressive.
People have kids and they play.
Lol I used to be those kids.
I kinda run around and be very loud with my older brother at home then my mom told me that the landlord was gonna evict us if we keep making noise so I got so scared lol