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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/AngryFireHealer on 2026-01-24 09:19:11+00:00.
I’ll start this off by saying, I’ve always sucked with conflict and I’m trying to work on it, but I know that’s not an excuse. I’m also on mobile so ignore any formatting errors
For context I’ve been friends with most of these people for years, I found them when I had no one and honestly the idea of losing them feels like having all my organs ripped out at once. Probably not a healthy amount of attachment but it is what it is.
This all started a few weeks ago, one friend who I’ll call K started talking about how our other friends, H and F, were becoming more critical of him lately and being hostile to a friend he’d recently brought into the group. K started airing a bunch of petty stuff about them to me and a couple other friends who I will now call Group A to make this all easier to follow. It honestly felt like shit you’d expect a bunch of adults to move past pretty quickly to me at the time, so I continue to focus on work and personal matters for a while.
That was until accusations started to get more serious and because every time anyone was actually talking more about it I was either working or busy I never saw any real evidence aside from what was quickly becoming a he-said/she-said nightmare. I started panicking pretty quickly, which was only made worse when compounded with financial issues and work stress. I mean seriously, I’m trying to figure out how to pay rent next month and everyone in Group A has started to turn on H, F, and anyone connected to them (I’ll call them Group B from now on).
And that brings us to tonight, I get off work and I call someone from Group B who I assumed to be a more neutral party, Y. I was having a bit of a panic attack seeing as I was stuck in an echo chamber of people turning on people for what I felt was a misunderstanding. So I vented and she immediately told H and F what was going on, causing them to go investigate. Group A got pissed at me for telling her because they know H and F know where they live and can easily try to retaliate which is something I’ve never known them to do. Group A removed me from everything I was in with them and got upset at me for betraying them and Group B blocked all of Group A. So instead of bridging the gap I think I just threw a nuke in it. I feel like shit about all of it and wish that things could go back to the stupid petty drama it started with. It feels like I’m in high school all over again. I don’t know, I feel like I want to hide away from everyone right now.
TL;DR I panicked about my friend group starting to implode and called the wrong friend to help me through it. Now everyone hates each other.