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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Medical_Mix6379 on 2026-01-17 23:05:01+00:00.
My ex and i broke up back in October 2025 for many reasons, fighting, not agreeing on anything, and some family problems that she couldn't get them sorted.
We kept talking, fighting, cutting communication again, and kept doing it all over again for the past few months until 2 days before Christmas.
We were going out again on "dates" and enjoying our time. and to be honest, us being together is the most fun we have, we goof around we have fun but she always finds a way to end the night by making me feel like shit about something. That day it was my brother's turn, she shit talked about him trying to make me mad for a bit over an hour and i was controlling myself till i wasn't able to do it anymore. One of the main reasons we broke up was her shit talking about my dad and using the "you're not that close with him" as an excuse, which for me, my family is the redline that no one should cross.
I gave myself a few days to actually think and see if that's how I wanted my relationship to go, and started seeing the manipulation that was happening from her side. The smallest details, the shit talking about my friends, the "I'm too busy to spend time with your friends" but when it comes to me i had to be there for her and her friends or we'd have an argument about it.
2 days before Christmas, i hit her up and told her that I can't keep going into this toxic loop, that we can't stay this way, hurting each other cause i know she was also getting hurt somehow by me as well. Next week will mark 1 month of me letting her go and i felt like Sharing this here for some reason.
TL;DR i was in a toxic relationship and after breaking up my ex and i kept going back and forth with communication, hurting each other, cutting communication then talking again till i was able to finally cut her off last month and i feel a lot better knowing that i tried my best.