revenge bedtime procrastination
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Sleep avoidance is real.
Rude.
Also, I should be sleeping, not scrolling...
Yeah this is just anyone that's trying to survive post COVID honestly. Don't need to put a label on surviving this shitty existence currently.
why you comin at my whole work week like that dawg
Uggghhhhh yeah
makes seventh latte
Yup
I don't think that's exclusive to neurodivergent people. But yes.
Edit: Unless...wait... Am I just undiagnosed neurodivergent?
aw shit
Ah, the classic, "wait doesn't everyone deal with this?"
I think that's everyone tbh.
If work wants a wide awake me, they'd better be paying me a lot more than they are.
I'm not refusing to sleep I usually just can't
Tired doesn't always mean the same as sleepy 🤷♂️
"I'm tired of these motherfucking snakes on this motherfucking plane!"
I am confident Samuel L. Jackson wasn't about to fall alseep when he said that.
You can be tired of something and have it mean that, but just being tired means sleepy.
It can just mean physically exhausted. Like, if I ride my bike for 14 hours at a reasonably fast pace, I'm going to be tired. But that doesn't mean I feel like i need to sleep.
Fairly sure that if you rode for 14 hours straight you'd conk out rápido
Right now, yeah? I've last time I did it, I took a short break lying on the side of a stroad, then biked to a nearby abandoned park and lied there for a while, and then went to a non abandoned park and walked for 3 hours catching beldums in pogo I think. Then biked home.
Beldums in pogo
That took me a while to work out
It's a fine line between the two, but true.
You have to decompress. After a full day of masking up and not losing it.
5:30-6am, wake up and become competent.
6-8am - get the kids moving, make multiple breakfasts because they all want something different (including SO), get family prepared to travel, etc.
8am - start work.
3-4pm - collect some kids from school, sit in line feeling like you're the worst because you're not #1 in line for pickup, but you don't think being there an hour early is reasonable.
5pm - end "work day", begin "evening" and figure out what's for dinner (we planned this weekly, so it's not too hard) then make it.
7pm - bedtime ritual starts. deal with ensuing tantrums because "I don't want to brush my teeth" or "I'm in the middle of this activity" or "why do I have to read?!".
8:30-9pm - kids are in bed. finally.
9:30-5:30 - MY FUCKING TIME. 8 hours where the rest of the family is asleep and I get to manage myself... poorly. I need 5h, so bedtime before 12:30 is acceptable. Ignoring rounding errors, 10pm-12pm is for me. ignore it at your peril.
Literally me all the time forever. I slept 4 hours today. Help.
Just call up any random psychiatrist and tell them your reason for the appointment is medication recommendations.
In and out in 1 hour and they'll prescribe a whole boatload of crap if you're really messed up or just some Adderall for ADHD.
Except when the Adderall allows you to be mostly functional on three hours of sleep, effectively nullifying its effects on the ADHD but still enabling the bad habit of staying up all night.
I don't recommend it, but it is one way to live.
Me since I started studying. I'm trying not to do it much but it's just so easy to go to bed a little late every day.
And usually the negative effects just aren't there when I'm on my meds. Moreso when I'm out and about all day, then when a less busy day comes around and my body unwinds a little it all catches up to me.
It's not really how it works in my country
Sorry about that homie.
I'm supposed to be the ND one. That sounds like my neurotypical wife.
Sleep disorders are a form of divergence too! Huzzah ADHD! Huzzah narcolepsy!
My wife and I call it decompressing, it's not about relaxing the body, it's about spacing out and doing something that requires zero brain power. I'm pretty sure almost everyone does it in some form or another, some just get to start earlier in the day, others just seem to already be on autopilot all day anyway and it extends to their bed time. It's not a neuro divergent thing
It's like some people forget they are also just people and all people do things. Not everything they do is related to autism.
"I'm tired but also easily overstimulated" is practically the diagnosis code for autism in young people.
Also a great pipeline to misuse of depressants. One is fully Lego-pilled after coming out of rehab, because it gives him an outlet for all that restless energy the drinking had flattened out.
Well, fuck.
I don’t think that’s an autism thing. I think that’s just a thing for people who don’t have enough meaning and purpose in their life to feel like they had a day’s worth of experiences yet when the day is over.
Which is a LOT of us.
Anecdotally, I'm fortunate enough to have my average day jam packed with meaning and XP, and I still like to decompress.
hmmm, I don't know. I relate with the OP a lot, yet I love what I do with my days... it's just that there is a kind of exhaustion that is social in nature, and I feel I need my airlock time (as my wife says) after any social event to be at peace, even when I feel tired af.
This could be an introvert thing. Introvert vs extrovert isn't about being shy or anything like the stereotype. The best way that I've heard to describe it is that an extrovert refills their emotional batteries through social activities, big groups, etc. while an introvert has their emotional batteries drained doing that and needs time alone to let themself recharge.
You can have a socially anxious extrovert who lives for hanging out in a big group of friends even if they don't talk much or anything, and an outgoing introvert who just needs to come home at the end of the day and sit on the floor with their back against a wall for awhile before they have the energy to do anything else.
No. Nobody gets overwhelmed by a lack of meaning.
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Definitely me
I’m just staving off the next day before it crushes me too.
"I'm revenge procrastinating, must be neurodivergence"
Tbf, there probably is a high correlation between those.
Tbf anyone can be overworked.
Revenge procrastination ? revenge against someone in particular ?
I do this exact thing every day but I have next to no autistic traits.
I have ADHD but not autism and I do this. It's basically normal ADHD executive dysfunction I think, for me at least
Dopamine depletion is real. Leaves you exhausted and prone to inertia.
And when I’m doing the me time I’m half nodding off. Yet when I finally go to bed I can’t sleep.
I’m doing biphasic sleep patterns at the moment, having 3 hours when I get home and 3 hours at like 1am. Keeps me going enough that I can half function for work and play.
I do this constantly if I've had to be around people late into the evening. I need to recharge enough to sleep.
That's everyone.
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