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Odd, this seems like an entirely made up circumstance.
Signed, guy who refuses to use condoms and have sex as a result. Yes, you heard me right, you can turn down sex. It's insane, I know, but trust me.
Edit: I should say, negative consequences of BC are very real. It is the reason I simply say no.
The last two sentences are why, unfortunately, birth control will always be the primary purview of women.
No matter how good, convenient or easily usable birth control for men becomes, women are the ones who actually have to deal with the consequences of unintended pregnancy, and not using birth control yourself risks you having to deal with it when your partner either lies to you about using it, or simply makes a mistake and forgets to use it.
Wear condoms, they aren't that bad.
They're like wearing a hazmat suit to go swimming. Plus, my wife gets offended when I wear one, thinks I think she's cheating on me. When I told her that it's to protect her, that didn't help!
I seriously can't understand those who don't use condoms by default. No contraceptive is 100% foolproof, so using a backup is always a good thing.
And seriously, if the friction is the only thing that make you enjoy sex, and not with whom you have sex with, you seriously should reconsider your relationship.
Édit : to clarify, I'm not saying that sexual gratification is a bad thing, just that it shouldn't be the only mean of gratification.
Doing it with someone one love is as gratifying as doing if for pure sexual pleasure, if not more, so if having a condom (which some might find uncomfortable) is enough to ruin sex for a guy... Maybe that relationship has more to do with pleasure than genuine love.
Also hand, mouth, butt
I prefer to be on the pill, honestly. I get that it isn't the sane experience fir everyone, but there are multiple other options other than the two mentioned. Even when it comes to pills, there is also the mini pill which has no estrogen and therefore can help with some of the negative symptoms. I started taking that one because I had a few negative reactions to regular birth control pills.
With the mini pill you have to be pretty precise with the time of day where you take it but once you have that down, it's just so pleasant. In my case, it entirely stops menstruation and stabilizes me. I get to live a very normal life without all this cycle shit disrupting me.
I get that not all women feel about their periods like I do, but for me, it has always felt like an assault on my body that I have to be in pain, have crazy mood swings and feeling gross every single month. I don't have any of it anymore thanks to the mini pill.
Again, there are many more options to go for when it comes to birth control, other than pills and condoms and in general I don't want us to demonize it. Especially not in these times where there is a genuine push in American politics to spread anti-birthcontrol propaganda online.
It's my personal opinion that having sex with a condom is worse than not having sex, and I'm not getting a vasectomy until I'm confident I never want kids. Their reversibility is dubious at best and it's not worth the risk if you aren't 100% sure. I'm pretty sure I'll never have kids, but I'm not even confident enough about how I'll feel a decade from now to get a tattoo... so making such a big choice is out of the question.
I'm happy to just not have sex with women who aren't on birth control. If you feel this is wrong, the solution is simple. We can just not have sex together. Problem solved.
It’s my personal opinion that having sex with a condom is worse than not having sex
Hard disagree. Good sex with a condom is still good sex. Plus if your reason for using a condom is birth control you only need the condom for PIV, and everything else can be completely unwrapped. I don't know about everyone else but I fucking love foreplay and just worshipping my partner's body while they do the same to me. Honestly it's the best part of having sex
Plus there's something super sexy about getting all hot and heavy, teasing and playing then grabbing the condom and unwrapping it. The moment you or your partner break that package open there's a commitment that this thing is going on thos penis because this penis is about to go into this vagina, and it's happening right now, not in 20 minutes after more play, it's happening right now.
Or don't just take my word for it, take GirlOnTheNet's word for it (obviously NSFW!)
until I’m confident I never want kids
With the way the world is going, reproducing is certainly a choice. But if it truly remains a concern, there is the option of freezing sperm.
I got a vasectomy and it has been amazing. Easily one of the best decisions of my life.
Second panel should be the guy asking why she hasn't changed to one of the other dozen plus methods she has available, then. Women have lots of options, and can almost always find one with no/tolerable (especially compared to pregnancy) side effects, because hormone-free barrier methods are among the options for her, too.
Edit: tweaked for less 'absolute' wording.
THIS.
I do not know why women don’t 100% block an asshole who doesn’t want to slip one on.
Mostly because the women I have been with were long term and they preferred not having a condom and on the pill. So I agree with them. It does feel better. But I always try one for the first few times. But it always migrated to not using one.
Condoms do 100% suck. Especially if they hacked off a piece of your dick that significantly reduces its sensitivity and function when you were a baby.
I literally do not enjoy condom sex at all. That's why I got a vasectomy. And also I don't want kids ever anyway and I wish I had gotten a vasectomy the instant I hit 18, what a waste.
The amount of guys I've met in my whole life who outright refused to wear a condom was... One. Singular.
Called him an idiot. Then he ended up catching an STD. His dick burned for two weeks and I couldn't stop smiling.
Anyway, this seems to be another one of those comics that tries present abnormal behaviour as a common thing.
Yep. Plenty of women out there that insist on having sex without condom as well.
Idk why the comment acts like woman themselves dont choose to do it outside of relationships
You don't want a kid? Man up and get a vasectomy.
Took ~2 days of discomfort afterward and now I'm shooting vegan cream pies all day long.
I had trouble till (hormonal) IUD, would never discount the side effects of most birth control available to women - copper IUD nearly killed me with hemorrhage, and pills raised my blood pressure, anything that went inside me (diaphragm, etc) either gave me yeast infection or bladder infection, so many of the methods seem designed to punish women for wanting sex without pregnancy.
But I'd think guys would love condoms because it's the only reversible birth control they can control themselves.
so many of the methods seem designed to punish women for wanting sex without pregnancy.
Yes, that's right, the people inventing these contraceptives were all huddled in a room twirling their misogyny mustaches, discussing "okay, we're going to make this thing that prevents pregnancy, but we have to MAKE SURE it has unpleasant side effects, these women must be punished!"
Please.
But I’d think guys would love condoms because it’s the only reversible birth control they can control themselves.
Guys do like that, but not as much as they dislike the fact that it makes sex a lot less pleasurable, which is the primary reason they want to have sex in the first place. That's why a lot of guys, like me, would rather just not have sex with a woman, if the only 'safe' (re both STIs and pregnancy) way to have sex with her, is with a condom on.
Penis owners can get the ✂️✂️ with nearly no pushback. It's a few days of recovery and doesn't impact anything. Less anxiety, more libido. If your family plans don't include more children than you have at this very moment then just do it.
Good thing I'm transfem so I can't get pregnant :3
(Doesn't mean a cute person can't try ;3)
If your oral contraceptives cause you any significant side effects, it makes sense to consult a gynecologist to change the prescription. There are many options out there, and correctly chosen ones should not typically cause them.
In terms of pregnancies, oral contraceptives can be both more or less efficient that condoms depending on the mode of usage for each (and also discipline, don't skip either). Besides, for many couples accidental pregnancy is a bit of a change of plans, but not something that will warrant abortion or make children unwanted. Again, case-dependent.
It's okay to choose condoms as well, as long as partners are happy about it. If that gives you a peace of mind, you can even combine both measures at the same time! It's only important to remember that there are two (or more) partners involved, and all being happy about the choices made is crucial for great intimacy. Do not ever force someone to take pills if they don't want to, and discuss your options if someone has issues with condoms. Maybe the issues are with latex condoms specifically, with polyurethane options providing less allergenicity and better sensitivity. Maybe a diaphragm can be your option. Or maybe something else. You can always discuss, you're not on a gender war or something, you're partners.
Personally, I can't wait for male contraceptive pills to hit the market. Not only it will provide a solution to this specific problem, shifting responsibility for proper selection of contraception and any issues coming with it onto the people who need it the most, it will also provide men with more agency about their reproduction. Finally, you can combine male and female contraceptives to get unparalleled non-barrier protection with good insurance in case one partner misses the pill. Win all-round.
IUD's can be great too. My wife has used them for years. Reduced period frequency and severity, higher effective rate of contraception, no need to worry about taking a pill late or missing one. Her gynecologist said it will probably reduce pre-menopausal symptoms too when she gets older. And it's pretty easily removable.
There was a couple of weeks when she was sore from the initial placement, and the same whenever it gets changed. They keep on getting approved to last longer and longer- the most recent one was good for 8 years, but there's a good chance it will get extended before it needs to be replaced as more research is done.
Not for everyone, but great for a lot of people.
On another personal note, sexual discomfort is obviously an important factor to account for when talking about intimacy and love, so it shouldn't be seen as stupid and unimportant, as portrayed here.
That should not overpower any health concerns, not least because they are too sources of discomfort, but it should be taken into account.
Talk it through with your partner - you're in it together, and there's almost certainly an option for both of you. Feel free to explore something other than pills and condoms as well if you need it - the world of contraception methods is huge.
If oral contraceptives have too many side effects, just don't have oral sex. Easy.
