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I'll go first. I did lots of policy writing, and SOP writing with a medical insurance company. I was often forced to do phone customer service as an "additional duties as needed" work task.

On this particular day, I was doing phone support for medicaid customers, during the covid pandemic. I talked to one gentleman that had an approval to get injections in his joints for pain. (Anti-inflamatory, steroid type injections.) His authorization was approved right when covid started, and all doctor's offices shut the fuck down for non emergent care. When he was able to reschedule his injections, the authorization had expired. His doctor sent in a new authorization request.

This should have been a cut and dry approval. During the pandemic 50% of the staff was laid off because we were acquired by a larger health insurance conglomerate, and the number of authorization and claim denials soared. I'm 100% convinced that most of those denials were being made because the staff that was there were overburdened to the point of just blanket denying shit to make their KPIs. The denial reason was, "Not medically necessary," which means, not enough clinical information was provided to prove it was necessary. I saw the original authorization, and the clinical information that went with it, and I saw the new authorization, which had the same charts and history attached.

I spent 4 hours on the phone with this man putting an appeal together. I put together EVERY piece of clinical information from both authorizations, along with EVERY claim we paid related to this particular condition, along with every pharmacy claim we approved for pain medication related to this man's condition, to demonstrate that there was enough evidence to prove medical necessity.

I gift wrapped this shit for the appeals team to make the review process as easy as possible. They kicked the appeal back to me, denying it after 15 minutes. There is no way it was reviewed in 15 minutes. I printed out the appeal + all the clinical information and mailed it to that customer with my personal contact information. Then I typed up my resignation letter, left my ID badge, and bounced.

24 hours later, I helped that customer submit an appeal to our state agency that does external appeals, along with a complaint to the attorney general. The state ended up overturning the denial, and the insurance company was forced to pay for his pain treatments.

It took me 9 months to find another 9-5 job, but it was worth it.

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[–] steeznson@lemmy.world 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Was asked to clean up jizz of the walls (plural!) of a TKMaxx (TJMaxx) changing room with a stack of blue roll. I was supposed to be working loss prevention at the changing rooms that day so pretty certain the weirdo was thinking about me cleaning it up as he cracked one off. Potentially had a couple rounds judging by the amount of jizz on the walls.

Should have quit on the spot but there were children/families in the changing room and felt like I needed to try to prevent a larger incident if a family barged into the poorly sealed changing room, or even just got bothered by the smell. I did quit that day though. One of my co-workers had a go at me on my way out the door for being a primadonna because she'd "had to clean up shit before". Retail is hell.

[–] KuroiKaze@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I dated a girl that worked fast food and she had to clean jizz out of the bathroom stalls... Ugh as a guy I cannot understand these dudes

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[–] toebert@piefed.social 21 points 3 days ago

I worked for a reasonably successful startup in IT, and quit around the time when investors started calling for their returns. It went from the focus being providing good service to selling something, anything, whether we have it or not to boost the books before the end of next quarter. Every quarter. Our sales team who used to be part of the product design process and knew more about our product than some engineers were getting replaced with people who didn't even know the name of features. They just made up things to potential customers and straight up lied, once the paper was signed they were done.

It was demoralising to see and go through this, I was a tech team lead for one of our core products and the requirements were mad. Every customer started becoming their own product because of all the overpromising, and it was all the absolute bare minimum. Anyhow, I was on good terms with the remaining few old sales people as we had worked together a lot prior to this mess.

I remember sitting in a meeting with some higher management and one of these older sales guys where he was saying he does not know what to do anymore and needs help or we need to change something as it's impossible to do his job well anymore with these expectations that we just abandon customers as soon as they're signed and chase new business. He broke down crying during the call while he was explaining how soul crushing it was to have to do this to people - build up a relationship, convince them to pay us and then ignore them immediately. There was an awkward quiet in the room when he finished and the "top dog" in the room just said "try to detach yourself, it's just business" and then we moved on.

I saw myself becoming that man in a year, maybe 2 tops. I started interviewing the next day and found a new job in about 2 weeks (luckily this was when IT was booming and recruiters were lining up for anyone with engineer in their title). The company has since been sold multiple times and completely exhausted to a husk. The last sale I'm pretty sure was just a large enterprise acquiring staff and some tech.

[–] Asafum@lemmy.world 31 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm glad people like you are out there!

My 2 story's are nowhere near as great as this but I'll share anyway lol

The first was working in a supermarket: I hated working at the register, I need to move around, I can't be stuck in one spot for hours on end. I had tried to get reassigned to another department so I could be more active so I ask the manager if anything has changed and if I could be moved. This sonofabitch actually says this "I'm going to do with you what I do with my kids, I know you really don't like the register so you're going to stay there."

Ok. I grabbed my drawer, handed it in, and walked out.

The second was working as a service technician years later. I had to go to NYC very often and parking succccks there, I usually have to park blocks and blocks away from where I need to be and carry heavy equipment back and forth. Occasionally you'll be in a timed spot and might not make it back in time and get a ticket, the boss never paid those tickets they were on me for choosing the spot, fine. One day I looked for 15 minutes for a spot and couldn't find anything, so I parked in a restaurant parking lot that wasn't going to open for 3 hours. 20 minutes later I get a call from my office that they're going to tow the van if I don't come get it... $300 for them to not tow the van. By that point I probably had already paid $3000 in tickets, most of which I really didn't have a choice, it was carry 50-100 lbs for 30+ mins each way, or eat a ticket. That was the final straw. I absolutely hate driving as it is especially in the overpopulated shithole I live in.

[–] Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca 8 points 3 days ago (4 children)

NYC native here. I grew up in Spanish Harlem. Parking in the city is still garbage, as is driving in the city. When I visit family down there, I drive to Poughkeepsie and take the Metro North into Manhattan. Was double parking to unload equipment, and then driving away to find a spot not an option?

[–] Asafum@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Most of the time I don't know what I'm walking into so I'd walk in and do a diagnosis first then have to go back and get the heavy equipment/parts. There were probably a few times I could have done that after diagnosis, but I always feared losing the spot I found and making it worse lol

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[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 23 points 3 days ago (1 children)

they asked me to do things

[–] Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca 18 points 3 days ago (6 children)
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[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 4 points 2 days ago

I've never rage-quit, but I put it out there a few times.

I had a district manager in a burger flipper hell decide to go through all the employees one by one and yell at them about their 'faults' in a successul clean restaurant with decent sales/waste.

When he got to me and raised his voice, I handed him the spatula, said if you're going to stand here and berate me now, you'll need this because i'm walking the fuck away. I'm open to criticism, but you're not going to treat me the way you treated all these other people. He frowned, told me I didn't use grill salt enough and moved on to the next person.

20 Years later, I was working in IT at a healthcare company. I had just finished an exchange migration from a desktop computer to a bona fide bare metal cluster. We got the license for webmail, but never ordered the licensing for ISA, which was specially designed to secure their OWA. My boss said, "Just hook it up, we'll order it later. The 'big boss' is here and I want to hand it off to him". Me: I am NOT putting that thing on the public internet without a proper firewall, we are constantly in a stream of attacks. Boss: Just do it, nothing will happen, I'll take the heat. Me: I'm our HIPAA contact, no fucking way. Boss: I'm ordering you to do it. Me: You want my job, decide right now, You can hook it up, go show it off, i'll find somewhere else. He grumbled and walked away. I had more system failures on that job from him pushing me to do shit wrong, fast and cheap. That place, of anywhere I've ever worked, had way more danger to the public of things going down and information being lost.

[–] SarahFromOz@lemmy.world 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

"I’m 100% convinced that most of those denials were being made because the staff that was there were overburdened to the point of just blanket denying shit to make their KPIs"

And I am 100% convinced this type of thing is not an accident. Because why would an insurance company WANT to pay out more than they have to? Instead they slash staff which saves money on pay AND claims and the company can blame any drop in quality on the reduced staff!

It's genius except for the part where they are killing paying customers!

[–] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 9 points 3 days ago

An insurance companies first move, regardless of the evidence, is to automatically deny the claim.

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 19 points 3 days ago

Once I have sent a very acid e-mail to 'All' = a few thousand people in the company, including all bosses, when I had enough of how badly all our bosses behaved.

I had not written anything wrong, so it took them a while :-) and then I got a lengthy reprimand about one or two bad words I had used, and they said these were not officially allowed (of course such a list of disallowed words did not exist at all, but who cares LOL).

I decided to leave this mess, but in my time, so I started looking and then quit when I had found a better job.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Didn't cause a rage quit, more like rage being fired.

The CTO couldn't keep his hands off his employees (I just like to tickle people, it gives them happiness!) and I couldn't keep that to myself

The CTO fired me and then got fired himself and a few months later ended it.

[–] palordrolap@fedia.io 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Uh. You should keep your hands to yourself - regardless of intent - unless the job explicitly requires it or there's some kind of danger to life or limb.

Someone that "needs cheering up" does not qualify.

If you think there needs to be an exception, ask for consent. "But then it wouldn't be a pleasant surprise!" Wrong. You have no idea how the person will react, and they might even pretend to like it for the sake of decorum. Just don't.

And remember, even if you do get consent one time, it does not imply consent going forward.

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[–] tyler@programming.dev 22 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This is so heartwarming. I wish it weren’t necessary but thank you for being such a good person

[–] WhatAmLemmy@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

It's heartwarming in the orphan crushing machine kind of way. If you want to mass murder, make sure you do it behind the liability shield of a corporation, for profit.

[–] v3r4@lemmy.org 16 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

My idiot manager calling the backend "big beautifull backend" and the other time, seeing how they call innovation to actually scamming people with SEO and shitty dark patterns and clone shit applications. I lasted 2 days on this one.

I did the tax return for the great grand [3rd step niece] of [rich famous international celebrity] who {did that thing you hate] and [if you ask me who it is i will say yes]. child was [ridiculous number] years old and [funny position] of [international charity board] and from said charity [board position] they were going to earn that year [more money than i was going to earn ever]. and they had [twelveteen] of these [funny position] on [international charity boards].

that child has more money than god and it causes me to lose my mind when i think about it.

[–] VonReposti@feddit.dk 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I quit my job and have been jobless for a few weeks now. There were no career progression, everything was a shitshow and firefighting, and getting approvals to anything took months to years. I made a request for a salary raise to match market statistics. It went on for more than a year and was only approved more than a month into my resignation.

Half of our department were jeopardising the company by keeping incidents and risks to themselves and were not playing ball when we were asked why the TSO (government entity responsible for balancing the energy grid) were suddenly on our arses. Either that half of the department will be fired this year or the company will not exist in 2027.

I decided that was not worth my lousy pay and quit, spending thousands of $ on a project management course so I don't have to touch development or operations ever again.

When I told my manager he knew I was gonna quit the moment I made a catch-up meeting in the morning on the first day back from his vacation. Hardest part was keeping my decision secret for an entire week. He was facing all of the same issues as me.

[–] MuttMutt@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago

I was working for a guy setting to 2.4Ghz WiFi links up to 10 miles from a tower. I was mainly running the office and doing network tech support with the odd pc repair job. He was working for a conglomerate about 5 hours away. He had an installer who would come through every couple weeks so I would have the equipment configured and ready to go for him, he would also grab stuff that was no longer in service and bring it back to the office.

Anyway the installer quit and I had to drive 2 hours each way to go get the truck. No big deal but now no installer. Had a friend who was smart enough to do the job and learn so started going with him and teaching him what to do and how to set stuff up. We did a couple jobs no problem, our longest connection being 7.5 miles on a mast about 20 feet tall. Get to a site to set things up and could literally see the tower but no connection, owner was no help but he had plotted it all out in software showing we software have a great signal. Ask he could say was just to get more height and get it done. Signal went from barely there to non existent. He had told the woman for months that it wouldn't be an issue and we would get her setup when her landlord agreed to the equipment install.

Figured out that the issue was that the sector antenna were installed with a 5 degree downward cant. We were slightly above the tower even though it was in line of site we would have needed to be lower down the hillside on another person's piece of property to get a stable signal then have a couple repeaters to make it work. So here I am with a pissed off woman who was told over and over it would work and I can't provide what was promised, give him a call and he stopped answering.

I apologized to the woman and told her someone would be back, gave her his cell number, and packed up the truck. Went to the office, locked up the truck, and dropped the keys in the office mall slot.

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I started my working career at a small ISP doing costumer support, which was bought up, and then this company was bought up. what started with me helping people through NT4.0 installations by phone because it was good service ended in a treadmill where only call duration and amount of calls mattered, not if the client actually got help, which was already going against my grain.

Also, the last company worked a lot with freelancer agents, which weren't salaried like me, but got paid by the hour (which was pretty much illegal here in retrospect, since they had fixed, preplanned hours, amounting to a hidden salaried position). Part of my duties as one of the senior agents was signing off the time sheets of the freelancers.
Edit: It slipped my mind that in the beginning it was my duty to plan the hours for out freelancers. i made sure to ask everyone their preferences and made sure everyone got enough hours without bullshit like 4 hours in the morning and 3 in the evening, which caused minor overlaps where we had more than minimum staff around. Got that taken away because it was too inefficient - my desire to make things work out for the workers was definitely not in the companys interest. Was pretty pissed about that from the beginning.

It so happened that 3 months in a row i got dinged for not bringing in my own time sheet, even if i was sure i had put it with the others when signing them off at the end of the month. As it happened the third time i said that if they were insinuating that i didn't deliver my time sheet, i would quit on the spot. i did so, handwriting my resignation, going into the bosses room, throwing it on his desk and going out, slamming the door so hard that the whole open office floor looked up. Had a nervous breakdown afterwards.

In retrospect i'm pretty sure it was a strategy to get rid of me and other salaried employees, since we were in the process of unionizing - the company previously only had freelancers, but after the merger they were over the minimum amount of fixed employees to form a union. OTOH, i was happy to get rid of that hellhole, OTOH i gave them what they wanted - I dont know how i feel about that, even nearly 2 decades after.

[–] rainwall@piefed.social 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Its always okay to protect your mental health, even if the person causing you pain is happy about the outcome.

[–] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 10 points 3 days ago

At that time i was still undiagnosed - took a complete work stress induced breakdown with me voluntarily entering a psych ward for 3 months to find out about my personality disorder. I'm really bad at emotionally handling people - me entering a costumer-side working position was pretty much the worst decision i ever made, but it also meant i got my disability pension now, for which i'm very grateful.

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago

RTO after proving it works.

[–] razen@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

Thank you foe helping him. You did great.

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

Not quite rage-quit, but I worked as a cashier at a local grocery store chain until one day I was asked to clean up broken eggs that had dripped into the dusty-ass vents at the bottom of the dairy section.

[–] andybytes@programming.dev 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Sabotage... so they could give me a lecture and clip my wings. I know it when I see it. The guy who was over top of me, in my department was a performative hyper religious catholic with a phycopathic smile and a wife who enables who recently got caught sharing naked pictures of children online. This was also after two gun incidents via temp workers. One was on the local news after killing their cousin. He was always hung over from the cocain. Both of these dudes brought guns to work and left them in their cars. Told my lead who didn't give a fuck. This was a science/tech company. Gotta keep a few reprobates and nuts in the mix... gotta keep those wages low and PUT YOU IN YOUR PLACE. HR is not listening.

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[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

psychological abuse and a job offer somewhere else

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