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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Ok_Sympathy_6713 on 2025-12-23 07:13:31+00:00.
My mom cheated on my dad when I was 14, I kind of knew about it when I saw my father breaking down but didnt know what to say or ask.I kind of buried it in the back of my head and didn’t ever thought about it until yesterday.
Yesterday had a long talk with my dad and he said how he felt and confirmed that my mom actually cheated but he couldn’t just leave us (me and my sibling) and my mom. And it seemed to him that no matter how much he it hurts him hurting my mom is worse.
I love my parents but I cannot look at my mom the same way, I kind of made myself believe that whatever I knew or assumed was wrong but now that I know for sure it feels like my whole world is crashing down. My father said he never really could move on but stayed just for the sake of it and now he cannot leave because my mom is sick and she has no one to take care of her.
I cannot talk to my mom about it I dont want to make her more sick or upset.And I also cannot talk to my friends about it. I dont know what to do , how to live with the fact that my mom hurt my dad like this. And how my dad changed and became the shell of a man he was.
Any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR:
I recently found out my mom did cheat on my dad years ago. He stayed for me and my sibling and is still stuck because my mom is now sick. I’m heartbroken for my dad, can’t see my mom the same way anymore, and don’t know how to process or talk about it.