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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Zealousideal_War9353 on 2025-12-21 06:53:19+00:00.
I have been talking to someone who I see frequently at events in my community for a bit now, and I thought we had really been hitting it off, things were subtle but I thought I was picking up on them. Told them that I would really like to see them at an event tonight, but they ended up being called into work at the last minute. I was quite upset because I wanted to see them, they were very upset because they really wanted to go. I asked if there was anything I could do to support and they said "not unless you wanted to go to dinner with me after haha". So I'm thinking that I'm absolutely in, we make plans to meet up after they get out choose a restaurant, but they weren't sure when the shift would end, everything is going great. Fast forward to the event, they end up showing up towards the end. They got out early. Imagine my excitement, everything is going great. We're hanging out with 2 of our mutual friends, having a great time. A few minutes later they turn to me and say "hey, is it cool if I invite (friends names) to tag along with us to the restaurant?" I immediately say yes because I'm a terrible people pleaser and was already worried that I was misreading the situation. So three of us go out to eat (one of the friends just wanted to go home after the event). Things are fine because we all get along well together but I'm incredibly bummed about it all and super confused about all of it the whole time. I get home and am just absolutely so confused about how I managed to read everything so wrong, and how a friend of mine who I had been telling about all of this also read it wrong. I decide to just text them and ask wtf was going on and if it was supposed to be a date because how else was I supposed to read that?? Here's what happened: it /was/ supposed to be a date. They mentioned that the two of us were going to the restaurant after to one of the friends, it just so happens that this is said friends favorite restaurant. My supposed-to-be-date wasn't fully sure if I was looking for a date and got nervous and invited the friend to be nice(also a severe people pleaser). We're now planning a real date, and everything is fine and we're able to laugh about it, but I can't believe how much easier things would've been if I had just asked if it was a date or not.
TL;DR: Planned what I thought was a date (but never clarified in fear that I was misreading the situation) at a restaurant with someone, they mentioned that we were going to a mutual friend who's favorite restaurant happened to be the one we were going to. My date was worried that they were misreading the situation and invited the friend to go with; found out later that it was in fact supposed to be a date.