Fun times that my friend had it so bad she was in bed for a couple of days in pain with her periods and this is what we get instead of studying a cure.
Fucking assholes
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Conclusion(s): Women with rectovaginal endometriosis were judged to be more attractive than those in the two control groups. Moreover, they had a leaner silhouette, larger breasts, and an earlier coitarche.
Okay but like, this actually does point at a potential cause (as in, why it persists/is so common in the population) of the condition, which is sexual selection.
An earlier what?
Edit:
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/coitarche
If somebody has sex for the first time at 17 years old, and another person has sex for the first time at 20 years old, the person who had it at 17 had(has?) an earlier "coitarche".
I get the reasoning but is there even that much of a correlation between physical attractiveness and likeliness to reproduce?
Yep - I learned this from House:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Complete_androgen_insensitivity_syndrome (CAIS)
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3425689/
These are genetically male individuals (XY) who have internal un-descended testicles and present completely as a female phenotype because their body is incapable of reacting to testosterone.
Not only that, but they usually present as quite attractive women since they're flush with estrogen, and tend to have sparse pubic, leg, and arm hair. No uterus either which may be a pro for some guys.
Misogyny is still alive and well in spite of the times.
*especially because of the times
sadly
The one about attractiveness is on its face bizarre and gross. There are real problems with the way our society prioritizes (or should I say deprioritizes) womens' health. But IMO the framing in the linked image is dishonest. It makes it sound like the scientific community finally decided to get around to endometriosis in 2013, and chose to ignore causes and treatments. There are over 55,000 hits on NLM for "endometriosis." The vast majority of them appear, from a quick perusal, to concern things one would expect, such as treatment, management, risk, and root cause.
And the second study, the one about the effects on male partners? That one seems, idk... fine? Good, even. Endometriosis is incredibly painful, and seeing the person you love in pain can cause distress as well. Partners are usually the closest member of a person's support network. Doesn't it sound like maybe there should be some literature on the impacts on partners of people with endometriosis? Like maybe that could be useful? And idk how much this matters but five out of the six credited authors on that paper are women, and presumably they thought this was a worthwhile avenue of research.
I have no issues with doing research studies about the mental health of people in close proximity of pain.
My issue with it is mostly due to the lack of research on the people actually in pain. That study is good but it feels backhanded when the women with endo themselves are being left out of a lot of that study funding.
My issue with it is mostly due to the lack of research
Did you stop reading that comment halfway through?
There are over 55,000 hits on NLM for “endometriosis.” The vast majority of them appear, from a quick perusal, to concern things one would expect, such as treatment, management, risk, and root cause
This IS being researched. What are you complaining about? That not 100% of the money goes directly into figuring out root causes and cures but instead some of it also goes into researching social, cultural, and genetic predispositions towards it's persistence?
I knew as a teenager that periods are worse for some women than for others, but only about a year ago, I got to know a woman - with endometriosis - who regularly passes out from the pain, even after taking pain meds. I feel just so, so sorry for her.
If I were head of the WHO, I would make eradicating this dreadful disease a priority on day 1.
"I don't want to live on this planet anymore"
I know exactly one person with endo
She's pretty hot
Even does modelling
I have no love for the attractiveness crew of “researchers”, it is in my eyes lazy work that is actionably useless.
But I do want to stunt on that paper; kings couldn’t even shit out a conclusion? They just discuss then ditch? They end with a paragraph of gibberish then just roll references? These are true clowns
And no abstract, just a shittier intro with no substance? Prob no substance because this line of research is worthless, but still they didn’t even try to fluff it up.
Abs embarrassing to write that shit in 2013 and not have the wherewithal to pen an abstract, conclusion, competent intro, or a line of research that isn’t devoid of value to humanity.
And I'm still denied my requests to "just rip out my uterus I'm not using it dear lord please" despite being with the same guy for 20 years. Hhhh
I've got a friend with Endo and this is the exact same thing the doctors told her. Same sitch as well - She or her Partner don't want kids.
"Well, you might change your mind one day" is the kinda responses she always used to get
Maybe after my 20th wedding anniversary they'll consider it. Briefly. Before changing to "but you're so close to menopause now, just wait!"
Rrrrraaaage
Because one day you'll realize that bearing children is your only real purpose and then you'll be thankful to all those men who knew better than you!
/s
It's not always male gynos. It's often female ones as well :<
That makes me really, really sad. My partner presents with symptomology consistent with endometriosis and wants to get it investigated but has had shitty luck with male doctors Sonia now specifically seeking a female doctor, and the thought that she might have to deal with the same condescending and paternalistic shit makes me quite angry.
I'm sorry I'm advance! It sucks! I hope your partner finds a good one! I'm limited by my insurance so maybe they'll have more luck!
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While I don't approve of this.
I do want to know.
Are people with endometriosis hotter than those without?
From the studies abstract.
[...] Patient(s): Three hundred nulliparous women. Intervention(s): Assessment of attractiveness by four independent female and male observers. Main Outcome Measure(s): A graded attractiveness rating scale. Result(s): A total of 31 of 100 women in the rectovaginal endometriosis group (cases) were judged as attractive or very attractive, compared with 8 of 100 in the peritoneal and ovarian endometriosis group and 9 of 100 in the group of subjects without endometriosis. A higher proportion of cases first had intercourse before age 18 (53%, 39%, and 30%, respectively). The mean SD body mass index in women with rectovaginal endometriosis, in those with other disease forms, and in those without endometriosis was, respectively, 21.0 2.5, 21.3 3.3, and 22.1 3.6. The median (interquartile range) waist-to-hip ratio and breast-to-underbreast ratio were, respectively, 0.75 (0.71–0.81), 0.76 (0.71–0.81), and 0.78 (0.73–0.83), and 1.15 (1.12–1.20), 1.14 (1.10–1.17), and 1.15 (1.11–1.18). Conclusion(s): Women with rectovaginal endometriosis were judged to be more attractive than those in the two control groups. Moreover, they had a leaner silhouette, larger breasts, and an earlier coitarche. (Fertil Steril 2013;99:212–8. 2013 by American Society for Reproductive Medicine.)
This is so fucked up and absolutely hillarious at the same time, in an absurd, kafkaesque way.
What kind of sleepy misogynistic fuck proposes this idea, and how the fuck does it get approved?
I can see this having some utility for evolutionary science - why do so many women have such a horrible disease? Because of mate selection.
There's a hypothesis that homosexuality evolved because it's caused by genes that also cause greater attractiveness and/or fertility, so the genes are propagated by straight family of gay people.
And the introduction is rather short. I will post it Here as well.
The observation that subjects with specific phenotypic traits are prone to the development of particular organic or psychiatric disor- ders is an old medical tenet. Nowadays, these relationships tend to be explained based on genotype-phenotype associa- tions, which have been suggested for over one hundred disorders, including diabetes, obesity, Crohn's disease, and hypertension (1, 2). Along this line, some recent advances in endometriosis research fit this view, as multiple studies have contributed to the definition of a general phenotype associated with the disease (3–12). Intriguingly, such an emerging phenotype appears to be indirectly linked with attractiveness, because several of the physical characteristics studied, including body size, body mass index (BMI), and pigmentary traits (4, 5, 7, 8, 11–13), have an impact on perception of beauty (14, 15). A biological gradient between the degree of expression of these traits and the degree of severity of endometriosis has also emerged. As an example, with regard to body size and figure, an inverse relationship has been observed between BMI and severity of the disease in general (8), and in particular in patients with deep endometriosis (12). Despite this growing body of evidence, studies formally investigating attractiveness in women with endo- metriosis are lacking. To verify the potential relationship between endometriosis and attrac- tiveness, and to substantiate a pos- sible biological gradient between aggressiveness of the disease and de- gree of attractiveness, we designed a case-control study recruiting three groups of subjects, that are, women with deep rectovaginal forms, women with peri- toneal implants and/or ovarian cysts but without rectovaginal lesions, and women without endometriosis. The degree of physical attractiveness, the main study outcome, was assessed by independent female and male observers. Secondary out- comes were definition of selected morphological characteris- tics and sexual habits. Information on pain at intercourse and on sexual functioning in the three study groups is reported elsewhere.
I dont See how this study aides the body of research but I am also not in that field.
I've watched my best friend with this go from getting told "We can't do a hysterectomy, you might want to have kids!" (despite protests to the contrary) to "well, we can't be sure you have it without invasive surgery" to "you're almost menopause age, it'll go away then".
I'm furious for her, it's been tough to watch at times.
You're watching Healthcare for Women, after the break, a special feature on "your chronic pain and fatigue isn't real".
I can add one to that… My partner has it. Like 100% without a doubt has it. Surgically confirmed, when she had her tubes removed. They said there was so much endo that they couldn’t even remove all of it without a blood transfusion. Again, she cannot get pregnant without donated eggs and in vitro fertilization, because she has no fallopian tubes at all.
They’ve refused to do a full hysterectomy, because “but you might want to do in vitro later…”
Im confused. Can you not just tell them to do it anyways? How can they refuse?
I don't know how you get them to do what you're asking but they can refuse by simply saying no. And if you are insufficiently servile in accepting that they will find ways of punishing you.
"How do we find a doctor who will cooperate?" is a great way to find out what kind of secret things doctors and hospitals can do to fuck up your life for threatening to go around them or hurting their feelings.
Reading all the comments in this whole goddamn post infuriates me to no end. I have an elderly friend with bipolar who got chewed up and spit out by the legal/medical system because she wasn't the most cooperative and they basically did things like put her on a heavy dose of haldol which turned her into a zombie to make her more cooperative and fuck with her heart meds almost like they were trying to give her heart attack. It's part of the reason I hate doctors.
Hating doctors for the state of healthcare is like hating fast food workers for the state of the fast food industry. Very few of them are actual owners and every franchise is a front for some rent extraction by an inheritor leech. Any remaining quality just means the owner class didn't extract enough value from it.
Your comparison is stupid. Fast food workers have almost no power over the people they serve. Doctors have an immense amount of power to fuck up your life especially if you're legally required to do what they say. Not an insignificant number will do so if you hurt their feelings. All you need to do is read some of the comments on this post to be informed of that. It's a problem with the system and a number of individuals with power in the system. I hate doctors because I can never know beforehand if one that I'm seeing is such an individual.
Curious is this was in progressive state or not. Or was it another country altogether.
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