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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/maxwell321 on 2025-12-16 09:03:39+00:00.
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/s/SNDv9ZkmcA
TL:DR of the original post: I 26m made a band with college friends, wrote a song reflecting a hypothetical scenario of a girl cheating on a man with another woman, my GF (24f) who actually had issues staying faithful in the first couple years of our relationship (we've gotten through it with couples therapy, or so I thought) absolutely flips out and gives me an ultimatum after it airs on a local college radio station.
UPDATE:
First, thank you all for the helpful feedback, it really opened my eyes to a LOT.
Anyway, my girlfriend was at her parents all day today, yesterday, and the night before, since this fight. I wanted to muster up the courage to call her tonight and talk more but I've been at work all day today, and since Mondays are my longer days I managed to get home pretty late.
When I got home, she was actually back home from her parents and was sitting in the living room, almost like she was waiting for me to get back.
When I walked in she said "So are you going to meet the demands?"
I told her strictly that I want to pursue this music career and that I'm not willing to force the others to rename the band with me, nor was I going to remove the Flowers song from spotify and the music video from YouTube. She has to accept the fact that it's NOT about her, or worst case scenario, if she doesn't believe it she should still just let me live my life with this and just know that I would be more careful going forward when writing music that could be taken as insulting to her.
She wasn't having it though, and she just said "well, I guess that's it then. I'm giving you one choice now, it's either me or your band"
As much as I just wanted to say "I'm sticking with band", I couldn't put the words together and I just begged her for another way to make both things happen.
She wasn't receptive at all and doubled down on the question. I told her that I'll answer her only if she answers one thing for me truthfully. I asked if she was actively cheating on me.
After hearing that, she got extremely flustered and defensive and would shout stuff like "why would you think that??" and "if you think that because of my reaction to the song, you're stupid" but she never denied it.
I started getting upset as she was just straight up dodging the question, I repeatedly asked and she just kept yelling "stop" and turning it back on me choosing between her and the band. I eventually just said that "you're really pushing me to choose the band" and left it at that. She called me a fucking loser and went into the bedroom and slammed the door. I ended up staying at my drummers place tonight and we talked about it a lot.
I just sent her a text saying that she should either take her stuff to her parents place and stay there longer, or just be prepared to continue living with me but don't expect me to meet her demands of removing the song or renaming Dirty 930, or making that "appreciation post" (it's funny because all the other band members' girlfriends like the Flowers song and have zero issue with it and thinks my girlfriend is nuts for making these demands).
I think I'm finally free but it's going to be weird potentially still living with her. I got more time to pursue the music though :) might take up my role as the keys/synth guy again in live shows, maybe a keytar would be a worthwhile investment now that I'm not spending money on her ;)
Thanks again for all the advice. I doubt there will be any more updates that will warrant a post. If I do find out she was cheating again I'll just edit this post. Bye guys!
EDIT: UPDATE (11:00 AM CST): I went home and OFFICIALLY broke up with her. Like I said the words "we're done". I also figured out that she wasn't cheating on me again physically, but there might have been some emotional affairs going on. Anyway, she's packing up her stuff to go back to her parents. As much as I know I'm going to mourn the good times from time to time, I realize that this whole relationship I've been walked over (especially in the beginning getting cheated on), so I already feel a huge weight off my shoulders and I think I'm going to be happy pursuing this music career.