Actually, I have one at the ready, mostly because my dad used to call my brother and I by our feminine equivalent names to bug us as children (different time, young army guy).
Have not given thought to preferred choices, though, just that one.
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I'm not really sure how that works as a trans person lol
I know what my parents wanted to call me if I was a girl. It's a horrible tacky name so I'm glad I turned out a boy!
I'm gonna go with no.
My name is already androgenous.
Probably Rachel
No, I'd need to think about it. I don't have a pre-chosen opposite gendered name (it's not something I've thought I needed to consider) and my name is not one that can be easily adapted so the easy option is out.
As a cis female I never considered going for a traditionally male name. I do however have a gender neutral name I go by in certain circles. I also used to have a gender neutral account for online gaming.
Since I was named after my dad I suppose I would've been named after my mom or another family member.
And uh, I guess "Cally" is kind of gender neutral-ish but it is my main online username so it'd be weird to use it somewhere else. Also I'm unsure how to pronounce it in portuguese, which is my native language.
I mean I have indecisiveness issues.
I was supposed to pick an English name so its easier to pronounce than my real name, but kinda procrastinated and didn't feel confortable actually using a "foreign" name when I didn't even speak the language at the time.
So like... hypothetically, if I were trans, not only would I be so afraid of picking and using another name, I would probably just be too scared to actually transition and keep hiding it in my head forever, I never gave any thought to such hypotheical names.
Although I wonder, if I was AFAB, what name would my parents give me? Kinda wanna ask them for fun.
Nope, but I go by my furry name most places and that's rather gender neutral.
I'd have to stop and think because I've used two variations of a feminine version of my name in previous circumstances where this has come up and I don't know which i prefer.
I'm presuming that this is me choosing a name for myself, not what would my name be if I was born a girl.
My name does have a feminine version (Joseph => Josephine), but I'm not really a fan of gender swap versions of names, so it wouldn't be that. I'd probably go for something biblical like Deborah or Esther.
Never crossed my mind. And now that I'm trying to think about it all the names i try out sound wrong because i so strongly associate myself with my given name. Even other names of my same gender don't feel like they're me.
I do have a favorite for video game characters of the other gender. But I didn't pick it until quite late in life, and I'm not sure it's a good name for gender-bent me irl.
Parents had a name for a AFAB child iirc; though I've forgotten it.
Amanda.
But I did have to think for a bit.
You mean if I was assigned a different gender at birth or if I realized something about myself?
Either, any cause?
Mr name is Scrofula, so I guess Scrofulina might work out ok?
I feel like "Kolanaki" works both ways. Which is great, because I also go both ways.
Emely, Liv, Lucy, Alina are names i really like and would pick from
I'm not sure about everyone but I do know that I have thought about this before. While I have no plans on ever becoming trans, I have thought about using the name Vivian or just Vivi. It's not related to my real name but I for some reason just kind gravitated towards it.
I think I remember first using it as my character's name in some scenarios in AI Dungeon, and I still use it when I need a name for a female character.
No, I've never thought about this in any meaningful way and I couldn't answer without significant consideration.
My name doesn't have a female version, but I know the name picked for me if I was a girl.
I don't
If you were a boy/girl what would your name be?" could you answer them without needing think
Yes, I could.
My name is part of my identity. My gender, too. So if this were different, then I would not be I. It makes no sense to think about "my" name then, because it would be the name of somebody else then.