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About sleeping... (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 months ago by birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
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Not sure where to ask this but I've been enjoying my transition a lot, even with the period included (not the nicest but still affirming).

That said, I've noticed a mild issue: sleeping position. My boobs are now getting in the way of sleeping fully on the side.

Currently, the "solution" I've gotten is to basically sleep in a fetal position halfway inbetween that of "on stomach" and "on side", with my arms in an L shape under the ergonomic head pillow. It's not perfect, but it's better than sleeping normally on the side, which sadly is a little difficult now.

I figured I'd ask other gals about here. Do you lot have any tips on this?

And do clothes help differently? Like I see sleeping skirts and pajamas, but I heat up easily and I'm not so quite sure if they'd help.

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[–] mystrawberrymind@piefed.ca 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

So I’m a B cup and often sleep fully on the side. I can see how it might be uncomfortable at first, but of course it doesn’t bother me because I’m used to it. Maybe C+ cup ladies might feel differently about sleeping on the side.😅

One suggestion is to try and train yourself to fall asleep on your back. Wedge some pillows around you so you don’t roll over in your sleep.

I sleep in a shirt and shorts during hot months and sweatshirt/sweatpants during winter. I get cold easily lol. There’s nothing wrong with sleeping naked or in just your underwear though!

[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

I have g cups and sleep on my side, or my stomach. I tend to get annoyed at the way my chest arranges itself if I sleep on my back lol

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago

Respect, I guess I need to get used to it then lol. though true, stomach sleeping is nice

[–] mystrawberrymind@piefed.ca 3 points 2 months ago

I see! Yeah the boobies don’t want to work with you sometimes. Gotta work with whatcha got😆

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I've a C and I think it's mainly caused by that if I were to lay wholly on my side, I feel friction on the most sensitive areas. Like someone above here said, it might pass over with time as they get less sore.

That falling asleep on my back is a nice idea, I should try that. I mostly sleep in underwear, shirt and shorts are a good alternative for me though, I suppose, for winter!

[–] mystrawberrymind@piefed.ca 1 points 2 months ago

Ahh maybe that’s why, because they’re sore. It just feels like skin bags(?) for me, so hopefully that passes for you😊

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Haha welcome to boobs! Great fun but annoying AF. What cup size are you? I've got big boobs, so what I find helps is wearing a light bra, so one that's gotten weak from washing or something. It holds them in place without feeling tight, making sleeping positions better

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago

80C in my case!

[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I sleep on my side, hugging a big blåhaj as a body pillow. That keeps my arms apart enough to avoid hurting my rather tender chest

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago

Blåhaj is fren :3

[–] wildwhitehorses@aussie.zone 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I hate to say it but i have a 'sleeping' bra. I know I know, people hate wearing bras at the best of times. Find a wire free bra in a soft material and helps keep them snug up on your chest.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago

Those exist? TIL!

[–] PaupersSerenade@startrek.website 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I usually sleep on my side with my leg and arm over a pillow that’s parallel to me. I also run warm/just prefer being cold so I only sleep in panties

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

Okay that's also a big brain idea, need to try that out! Thanks sis!

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

another trans girlie here, if you're complaing about the sensitivity/pain it goes away after a few months mostly. About 6 months for me personally but I know it varies a lot.

Other than that I don't really have any tips unfortunately.

[–] AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

in my experience it gets better with time as they get a little less sore!

if you can find a bra comfy enough to sleep in (rare i know) it has helped me as well

[–] proudblond@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I’m pretty big (I think I’m DDD?) but I sleep on my side, no problem. Sleeping on my stomach was a problem because it over-arched my back. But I also have pretty wide breasts, so while they have a lot of volume, it’s quite firm and spread out I guess? So I’ve never felt the need to wear a sleep bra (though I often do when on vacation and sharing a suite with extended family or something).

[–] Amuletta@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

How long ago was your surgery? Maybe the scar tissue hasn't settled down yet? I had the same problem for the opposite reason after my mastectomy and it took quite a while before I could lie on my right side. I still have my left boob (40F) and didn't have a problem with that side.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I haven't had surgery, growing boob instead.

[–] Amuletta@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 months ago

Ah, okay. The growing process might be contributing.

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

You could try a breast separator pillow like this. I haven't tried one, but saw an ad once and found it intriguing.