I met the guy who killed my best friend. At her funeral. He was her boyfriend. He got her addicted to drugs. Technically she killed herself by OD-ing, but had he never got her addicted she’d still be alive today. I couldn’t face him. He tried to talk to be and just walked away.
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I have no knowledge of encountering such person, also i never met anyone who owns a gun
I was in the US Army for 6 years, soo there is that.
I grew up poor white trash in the US south, soo there is that.
Once met a man who confessed to me that he once hit and ran after striking a pedestrian with his car. He said he knew he killed them, but got away. It was fucking creepy as hell and couldn't get away from the guy fast enough.
I've always wondered what drives people to such confessions. Not a killing of course, but I once met a dude and like 20 minutes later he was telling me about the literal scams he pulls. Shit like stealing old people's passwords and whatnot to buy things for himself online. Very unambiguously illegal stuff. There was no context either, no lead up to that conversation. He just pulled the subject to that out of nowhere and started spilling the beans. One minute we were talking about wearing thinner gloves inside thicker gloves to keep our hands extra warm, and the next minute he was telling me how he tricks old people into submitting their email credentials into fake forms that he makes.
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Everyone I know has met a killer.
I know two that I can verify. One is a combat vet who had to kill during a fire fight in Iraq. The other is an outlaw biker who I went to school with, he shot a rival club member and a few years later got caught on a trafficking charge and somehow the police were able to connect him to the murder after his arrest. He's obviously in prison now. It's weird to know that after he committed the murder we reconnected and hung out a few times, there I was sitting at a bar laughing and joking with a killer without even knowing it.
Do you count "gave an old person COVID and they died"? Then absolutely for sure.
Met a few ex terrorists. Northern Ireland is cool.
I have actually met, spoken to, and joked with convicted murderers. And people who committed far more heinous crimes.
I have a very interesting work history.
The fact of the matter is, someone who has murdered another — beyond a shadow of a doubt, I don't mean to include those falsely convicted — does not necessarily mean to kill YOU. Unless they're a psycho or something, most killers have killed because of some circumstance that put another person in the way of their life. I'm not saying they absolutely had to kill the person. Just that had the circumstances been different, they wouldn't have necessarily killed someone at all. Sexual predators are different. They target their victims and set up the circumstances, in most cases. But killers? Not necessarily a threat to you, unless you are necessarily a threat to them. Even serial killers. Serial killers just have a body count. Most of them don't want to kill everyone.
I know I have. Back in 2010 or thereabouts, this guy at work who I trained to run the shift opposite of me is now in prison for multiple murders.
Anyone from Poland remember the case in the news about a guy murdering people so he could take over their property? Yeah, that one..
EDIT: Just for the record, I've known many poles over the years, and I've liked most of you. Except that guy. He was fucking weird. Don't remember his exact name, but he went by Winnie/Vinny, or something like that.
Yes, with their scooter at a crosswalk after a bus stop. Classic.
I'm associates (he's a friend of a friend) of a guy who did Manslaughter Under the Influence.
He's a prick, but that's unrelated to that, just right-wing
I dunno, it takes a type.
Knew a guy online who was part of a game guild and regularly told a teenager to go kill himself for not healing him on time during raids.
One day the Kid shot himself.
The guy was a full on asshole in rl, much older than the kid, had a family and a job and told himself and everyone that he wasn’t at fault cuz the kid was not mentally stable.
Like dude, regardless of someone’s mental health he is a bully with an anger problem and leaned into unleashing it on a young kid.
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My dad killed his friend in a drunk driving accident back in 1986.
Yes, he told me he did it in self-defense, in an "it's either you or me" kind of deadly dispute, and was not caught. It was an interesting story of drugs, gangs, revenge, and a dramatic ending involving a kidnapping where he was held at gunpoint by the kingpin. Sometimes I wonder if he was only testing my trust by retelling a movie, though.
Another time, I met an old-looking guy who was kidnapped by cartels and held captive for two years. He told me he had been starved and tortured and showed me a before-picture of himself where he looked incredibly built and handsome. In an effort to survive, he became one of their best assets with his ability to convince and negotiate, helping to kidnap other people until he was set free. I guess he was trauma-dumping on me.
I've been in the army and I met guys there who took part in the Karfreitagsgefecht. They may or may not have killed some poor peasant with an AK but they for certain lost an important part of themselves.