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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/No_Fact_6960 on 2025-12-11 18:56:28+00:00.
TIFU.... I know I did, I know ITA...but is there anything I can do to make this better?
So my coworker, K (30sF) is married with a toddler. I don't know all the details, but I know she had a crappy go of it when she was pregnant with/postpartum with her first kiddo. She was really sick, and I heard she had a couple emergency surgeries in the year after she had her baby. She's a nice lady; a little quiet and tends to keep to herself, but will smile and talk to you if you approach her.
Anyways, it's been a bit of a not-so-secret-secret that she and her husband have been trying for Baby #2 for a while now. I dunno, maybe a year? This morning at work, I overheard my office-mates chatting amongst themselves, discussing how K has 'already popped' and 'they hope this time goes better for her'. I assumed I'd missed the memo, and K had announced a pregnancy!
So, when I see K standing in the hallway later, having a snack, I also see that she does definitely have what looks like a little baby bump. She's pretty tall and thin, so it's not like it was hard to notice... Wanting to be friendly and happy for her, I walk up, smile, and tell her congratulations on the new pregnancy!
Imagine my shock and surprise when K stares at me, tears up, and literally walks away crying without a word! A couple other coworkers witnessed this, and an older lady who is friends with K outside work pulled me aside and told me that K is actually in 'the waiting window', doesn't know if she's pregnant or not, and has been getting approached by multiple people about her stomach this week. Apparently, my congratulations were the straw that broke the camel's back??
Anyways, I know I screwed up. I shouldn't have said anything without knowing for sure. K has been avoiding everyone, staying glued to her desk and not looking up at anyone. I feel awful, but also...she literally looks pregnant?? She wasn't even hiding the bump??? It's common knowledge that she and her husband want at least one more kid????
What should I do? I feel bad, and want to apologize, but I also don't want to make this worse by talking to K about it more... :-(
Tldr; I congratulated a coworker on her 'pregnancy' without confirming she was actually pregnant. Turns out she doesn't know either, and started crying. How do I make this better?