Executive dysfunction, and bone crushing social anxiety? Not over dating, but people in general.
I would love an SO for the emotional comfort, and as someone to beat me in the head when needed. Caring for someone else feels good!
...But I'm many steps away :(
My last relationship set the bar too high. Yes, I still maintain a OLD profile just in case a perfect match is out there, but I'm at the point of my life where I'd much rather be single than be in a 'meh' relationship.
Many many reasons...
I've gotten to the age where people are professionals and advanced in their careers, they seek similarly advanced people, I'm a loser working in a factory... I'm pretty worthless in just about every way you could measure anyway, but even still, I live too far from people my age. It got so insanely overpriced in the last 5+ years that most people leave that don't already own a home or are rich.
No one in their right mind is going to travel, or bother with me traveling to them, when they have so many better options closer to them especially since dating apps exist and they can see who's near to them. It's a giant buffet table on those sites and I'm that weird cold pizza that's for some reason always out there at Chinese buffet.
Well, I’m of three minds on that topic.
One is that I’m a piece of shit fuck-up addict that doesn’t deserve anyone.
The other is that since I got clean I’m too scared to pursue anyone because the last relationship ended so poorly it pushed me to get clean and I feel like I’d fuck it up again.
The other other is that I’m doing much better since getting clean and feel like a relationship would distract me from my current goals.
Which is the truth? 🤷♂️
they all are. you are doing good! keep ok going and don't be too hard on yourself
I just keeping meet the same lady over and over and she is 100% the opposite of what I am looking for and hates everything I love.
And the women I am looking for who like what I like are always already married/partnered.
I had staff room biscuits and a spoon of peanut butter for lunch today.
I'm struggling with one body and their feelings. How can I help another?
How can I help another?
Maybe that's where you're going wrong? Have you considered a relationship where you both help yourselves and are not dependent on each other?
I'm a pile of human wreckage
Don't like to think of myself as single... I'm just between wives atm lol
Honestly, because my last relationship was a disaster that I'm still recovering from, years later. My then partner's "mother" (I prefer the term egg donor) was and still is horrifically abusive and managed to destroy just about every aspect of my mental health. So right now I'm focused on getting that back into shape as far as possible.
To make matters worse, ever since having experienced that, I tend to attract people who are in abusive situations. When they start talking about what they're going through I understand them on an entirely different level and wooops, there's the next one. And yeah, I learned my lesson the first time (well, sort of): don't start a relationship with someone in an abusive situation. If you're both interested, make sure they're fully out of that situation first, then you can start thinking about a relationship.
Because I do not date, try to date, think about dating, or do anything to attempt to be in a relationship in any way whatsoever. Not aromantic. I just had to switch it off because I've got too much baggage to not be a catastrophic disaster and I'm not willing to go through all of that.
Or as the dismissive and arrogant, pretentious, self righteous fucksticks like to say "I'm afaid of getting hurt." Fuck those people, for real.
I don't put myself out there
Time, social media consumption, work working from home, don't make moves. Have a second date on Sunday, but how to move forward and show that I want more then friendship?
Because I don't identify with "they/them" pronouns, 🤪
Because dating women is pure garbage.