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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/vintage_bagel on 2025-12-04 22:55:59+00:00.
This happened pretty recently and it’s still sore but I have to get this off my chest. A little bit of back story I met my ex-gf shortly after I got out of a mental hospital. Things were going great for a while then one day my depression came back. I pretty much just tried to ignore it and drown out the symptoms. I would blame myself for anything that went wrong and would get upset with my ex over the most stupid things. I would try to express to her that I’m depressed and couldn’t manage to set myself up a doctor’s appointment. I thought pills and therapy were stupid because the last time I tried them I was in a bad setting where they wouldn’t work. I ended up living a lot of my life in a clouded phase where I’d focus too much on what’s wrong with everyone else and didn’t stop to think what’s wrong with me. We got along well for the most part but I wasn’t doing a very good job taking care of myself physically and mentally and she would try to help but I’m just dumb and wouldn’t put in the effort to setup a damn appointment for myself. We would argue often and in my head it was because we had different views of the world when in reality it was my vision that was clouded. After one argument I just snapped. I told her we need to break up. It was over a week and pretty mutual at first but two days after we made it official I ended up inviting a girl over to our house while my ex was at our friend’s thinking that would make things better for me. For a moment in my head it did but I just ruined everything else even more. I ruined any chance of getting of getting my ex back and hurt someone else in the process, all because I don’t know how to love myself. I’m finally taking the steps needed and seeing a doctor and therapist. It’s still so hard knowing that all of this could have been prevented had I just taken the step to seek help sooner. If you’re reading this and struggling I know it’s hard but please do the right thing and seek help so you don’t end up like me.
tldr; ignored my depression over a long term relationship, snapped and ruined it all