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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Charming-Payment-395 on 2025-12-01 23:14:40+00:00.
Hi Reddit!
This is my first i guess pretty personal post and i was honestly ready to just bury this deep down inside but it’s been bothering me for days now and I really just need to let it out and who better to do that to than a platform full of strangers?
Anyways, there is going to be ALOT of missing context because if i added it all it would become a novel.
So the other day i (26f) had plans with my mom to come to my place and spend time with me and my kid. She was busy shopping and then at one point communication just dipped and i knew that sometimes she would go out with my father and get dinner or something else and wouldn’t tell me because of the relationship, or lack thereof, that i have with him. And sometimes on these little dates she’d post it on Facebook, but sometimes i wouldn’t be able to see it due to me having him blocked.
I’ve had my father blocked for about 4 years now because an extensive past of SA and just overall creepy things he’s done in the past. I just recently (4 years ago) told my mom about it all and it completely blew the family up, my brothers sided with my dad, my mom and i didn’t speak for about a month until i found out i was pregnant, and she’s still married to him just “out of convenience” as she says, because divorce is a lot and too much work having to split finances and yadda yadda yadda.
I’ve never fully forgave her but i love my mom and i can’t imagine my life without her or without her being my child’s grandmother so we’ve established a lot of boundaries in order for us to be okay.
Anyways, onto what actually happened. Since i was sure she was out with him (her location showed her at the movie theater) i checked her Facebook and didn’t see anything and out of morbid curiosity or me just being pouty because i felt stood up by my mom again, i unblocked him to see if maybe it was a post she had tagged him in.
And what i found honestly bothered me more than id care to admit. It was full of posts about him going out to eat with the whole family, my mom, my brothers, and even one of my brothers female friends that is no referred to as his new daughter. As well as pictures of him with my oldest brothers new daughter and how she’s his “one and only granddaughter” and things of the like.
I’m not sure why it bothered me so much, it really shouldn’t have but it did. And to make matters worse, in all of his cute little family photos, none of my other family members in the comments ever question where i am or my child. It’s not like they don’t know that i have a child or that i don’t exist.
Originally this was supposed to be vindicating to me to cut him from my life for good and to never have to speak to him again and have him know he’s missing out on all the great things I’ve accomplished and that he’s missing out on his grandchild’s life, but he seems to be doing just fine. Everyone does. I haven’t spoken to my brothers in months. I don’t think they even actually miss me. I’m pretty sure that if it weren’t for my child, my mom wouldn’t even bother with me. It was just a bit of a sucky feeling to encounter and I’m not sure what to do with it now.
Thanks for the rant Reddit, i feel a bit better getting this all out but it still stings for sure ❤️
TL;DR I unblocked my dad and saw that everyone is doing fine without me