My uncles were retarded due to Rh incompatability before they understood about Rh Factor. They called themselves retarded, our family called them that, it doesn't sound wrong or deragotory to me.
this post was submitted on 23 Nov 2025
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Maybe y'all haven’t experienced it as a slur. I grew up around jerks that did, and it leaves a nasty taste. I’ve caught myself using it, and felt awful afterwards.
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Did we get less fascist than the 90s when people were using the word freely? What do we do with the words "moronic", "idiotic", "stupid", "imbecilic", etc?
Tbh "r-tarded" is much better anyway it's funny as hell
Does that mean if I'm autistic I get an R- word pass?
What would one call a person that is willfully uneducated, ignorant, bigoted, makes bad-faith arguments and acts foolishly, without using "ableist language"?
If my intention is to offend that person?
The R word means non of what you said.
Dumbass, asshole, giant turd, negative iq, dumber than a turd, smooth brained, piece of shit, fuck face, etc.
Get creative, no need to insult innocent people by using slurs.
This is no different than calling someone the N word, and I'm sure that while some people use the N word as an insult, you probably don't, right?
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“willfully uneducated, ignorant, bigoted, makes bad-faith arguments and acts foolishly” all seem like perfectly cromulent words there.
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I told someone I was autistic and they called me retarded. So I say it now as sort of a reclaiming act 🤷♀️
I have an autistic friend with the same opinion and I told him he was retar-wait...
OP, fuck these people.
Anyone who thinks that words mean nothing and that historical context is irrelevant are probably people who have never been on the receiving end of these words being used to dehumanize them.
And all of you people, would you also use:
- n igger
- f aggot
- sand n igger
- ching chong
Or did any of those make you feel wrong? Maybe you don't actually think that slurs should be used but instead don't realize the impact of r etard as opposed to whatever made you uncomfortable in that list.
they made me laugh
you forgot the ding dong at the end of ching chong, btw.