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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/interested-observer5 on 2025-11-22 22:17:33+00:00.
Husband and I got together at 16, currently 40. We've only ever had sex with each other. Until we started trying for our first child, 11 years into our relationship, I had a low drive, and it was an issue.
Then we realised how fun it could be without contraception and things got a lot better.
I've always found him sexy, but this man has aged liked a fine wine. He's smoking hot at this age. Beard, bald head, strong shoulders and arms, unreal. However he still has a mentality that he's not attractive and people wouldn't fancy him. I do, people do, but he laughs when I say it.
We play a lot, and tonight I asked him for a quick play and he refused, because one of the kids is still up wandering around. I laughingly asked if he remembered our teens and he said yes, and I said "and look at you now!" (refusing me). He laughed and said ha, wonder what changed.
And I said "you're just so sexy now" 🫨
Basically implying he wasn't then. I immediately explained, I absolutely found him sexy then, I was just terrified of getting pregnant, hated condoms, bit of performance anxiety. But his body has changed a lot over the years and I'm horrified I made it sound like that.
I immediately apologised, overdid it probably, and I feel awful which I also told him. He laughed at me and said it's fine.
But I feel like shit. What a horrible thing to say/do to the love of my life 😭.
TL:DR. Accidentally implied that my husband is hotter now than early in our relationship, and that my lack of drive then is because he wasn't attractive. Which couldn't be further from the truth. He's fine and laughed at me, but I feel like shit.