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The fuck did my mother do to you? /j
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- Schmoozing. God almighty my life would be easier if I could always tell bosses what they want to hear. Alas I cannot. I just can't do it. I can tow the party line to an extent but that's it
- Cooking bores me. I'm not good at it and it bores me so I don't learn.
Cooking is a good one! I hate it with a passion. But baking? A whole different story, love it.
God yes, I really hate schmoozing! It's so much easier to be direct.
Exercise
this is a good one, but now I'm sad
Cold weather. I hate having to fuss with a coat plus hat, scarf, and gloves; having cold toes and a runny nose all the time; scraping ice from my car; shoveling snow; super dry skin and sinuses; chapped lips no matter what balm I use; and painfully cold eyeballs. I wish I could enjoy the winter because it can be so beautiful, but I'm just grumpy from like November through March. Plus the days being shorter doesn't help!
The opposite for me. It's always such a relief when temperatures start cooling in the fall. I wilt in summer heat.
Coffee and tea! Both smell divine, absolutely amazing.
They both taste like garbage to me. And that's after trying so so many of them. In multiple ways.
The only way I have any coffee ever is when I make tiramisu. Still haven't found even a single tea attempt.
Have you tried Yorkshire Tea? It's famous in the UK, if you don't like that you won't like anything
Yes. Yes I have. The attempts to try have been numerous with many tea bags and tea strainers and careful prep and it makes me sad. It smells so lovely!
Coffee is actually something I love that I wish I hated lol.
I think coffee tastes amazing, but it's really acidic and gives me stomachaches, and I'm also really sensitive to caffeine so I get really jittery and anxious if I drink it. So it's special occasions only.
Decaf coud solve at least one of your problems. Cold brew or other brewing techniques maybe the other. Don't know much about it, but if you love the taste, it's worth a look.
You comment made me think about adding baking soda to coffee to neutralize the acid. Might work, might ruin the flavor, not sure. I'll try adding a pinch baking soda one of these days presumably.
Decaf baking soda coffee might be just the thing for you. Or cold brew, I've heard its a lower acid way of brewing.
Have you tried Irish Breakfast Tea? :)
Sure have! Twin loves Irish things. Mouth still was sad.
In that case, I am at loss here... ^^
Can you describe what it is in the taste that repelled you? There are ... ah ... a lot of teas (I have eight radically different ones in my home right now) and different ways to prepare them as well. If you can describe what it is that bugs you, I might be able to fix that for you.
For example, if it's that astringent bitter at the back of the tongue, a simple "wash" pretty much eliminates that.
It's generally not the astringency, since I like cranberry juice and that has a similar vibe.
Unfortunately my ability to articulate what's wrong hits the brain wall and it goes "they're unpleasant"
Have you tried cold brew? If you put coffee grounds or tea in cold water, then leave it in the fridge overnight, you'll brew a drink with a very different character. I would describe it as smooth and understated. Many of the strong notes are those that are extracted from the heat, and without heat they are absent.
I've tried cold coffee if that's what you mean? It was slightly less bad, but not as okay as tiramisu was!
I don't mean coffee that has cooled after being brewed with heat. Its the brewing technique not the temperature of consomption.
Coffee that is brewed hot and then served cold is nothing like cold brew. At the same time heating cold brew doesn't make it taste like hot coffee.
At the time I was trying all the coffee and teas I'm unsure of that was easy to get (or if it was suggested) so I could add that to the list.
I would suggest trying it, especially if the bitter or astringent notes are the issue with tea and coffee for you. Cold brewing minimizes those notes specifically.
I cold brew myself, it's simple and doesn't need any special tools, just any container and some way to separate the grounds. Cold brew coffee has become more popular in the past 5 years or so. I've started to see premade cold brew coffee in grocery stores and coffee shops, but never cold brew tea.
For tea you can just leave a cup of water with a tea bag in the fridge overnight, and have a cold brew to try in the morning. Or a cup of water with medium coffee grounds in the bottom, gravity is a sufficient grounds separator to test the brew.
Do you like any other hot drinks?
I like cocoa!
going on runs in the morning: It would be so nice to finish this early and would give me a lot of flexibility in planning. But I just can't do it, or else I will be tired the whole day.
Cheese!
I watch people eating pizza, or enjoying it with wine, and I get really jealous. I love the idea of it, but I just can't stand the taste and smell :(
Good news! Quality pizza is equally or even more delicious without cheese. Getting rid of the fatty, creamy cheese means the other flavours get to sing more!
Lifting weights. I know I should, to stave off osteoporosis, but I would much rather be swimming or riding a bike.
I'm the exact opposite. Cardio can die in a fire (though cycling is the least offensive form of it, so I do that daily). Lifting was a godsend to me.
Same, I looooove lifting!
Bell peppers and regular black pepper. Both overpower anything for me in an unpalatable way.
warm weather