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Be it a personality quirk, something they're wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?

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[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 1 day ago (4 children)
[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 6 points 22 hours ago (3 children)
[–] zaugofficial@lemmings.world 4 points 21 hours ago

For me they do :)

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 20 hours ago

Depends on the derivative. SteamOS definitely does not count unless (possibly) you're running it on something other than a steam deck.

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[–] voodooattack@lemmy.world 20 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Being my wife

Tap for spoilerHi honey 🥹

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[–] foggenbooty@lemmy.world 8 points 18 hours ago

Instantly hot? Sexuality. Dressing in clothing that shows off their body, the way they smile, being flirty, a sparkle in their eye, etc.

Being hot is just about attraction to me. It tells me they can be fun. Now, you can tank that hotness in an instant by being rude to a waiter, being shallow, unable to hold a conversation, etc. In my experience hot people tend to have weaker personalities because they don't have to work on them as much. Hot is often not worth it, but it can't be... hot.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 7 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

When someone laughs at my jokes they instantly become more attractive.

It's not the only thing needed to make someone hot - I don't think I know of one thing that would do the trick regardless of anything else... but it's a big leap towards it for anyone, because it combines them laughing and having fun (which is attractive) with making me feel appreciated and included and good about myself (which opens me up socially to feel attraction).

On the flip side, someone who doesn't laugh at my jokes will become irrevocably unattractive regardless of anything else.

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[–] Kenny2999@lemmy.world 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It used to be a pulse, but at my age I can't be so picky.

[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Feels like digging up corpses is something you'd need youth for

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 6 points 17 hours ago

Just need a job as a mortician, or become friends with a mortician who has questionable morals and needs money.

[–] neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Sure, but how many of them do you bring?

[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 3 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

If you can get a youth to dig corpses up for you, I think you've negated the need for the corpses in the first place

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 16 points 22 hours ago

To me it's passion. Talking about their topic of predilection with fire in their eyes. That does it

[–] adhd_traco@piefed.social 9 points 20 hours ago

Aside from all the things that are instant turn-offs...

Being hopeful.
Also seem to get drawn to BPD

Passion. Idc if they like fixing up cars, playing guitar or painting. Although that's not something instant. It's more on a getting to know them basis but oh well xD

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 10 points 22 hours ago

A really nice voice.

[–] ICCrawler@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Unfortunately, I seem to favor the neurotic. It's not a thing I can control. I know damn well not to act on it, but attraction/infatuation can be a bastard sometimes. On the flip side, on the not-instant side of things, plenty of togetherness and shows of affection and tenderness can also call forth attraction over time.

[–] nymnympseudonym@piefed.social 4 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

In my experience the greater the emotional challenges the person has to face, the more amazing they are at sex

[–] arin@lemmy.world 2 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Idk man, got called a rapist when she previously consented.

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[–] naught101@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago
  1. That they give a shit about other people, and contribute in some way to their community/society.
  2. Capacity for/evidence of personal growth. This one's not always easy to see, but it's amazing when you do.
[–] zxqwas@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago
[–] troed@fedia.io 14 points 1 day ago

Not easily predictable without being completely random.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 13 points 1 day ago

Being able to sing well.

[–] graycube@lemmy.world 7 points 23 hours ago

The combination of a high EQ and IQ.

[–] thezeesystem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 23 hours ago

Being equitable and fighting for other peoples rights as well as there own, to the best of that persons ability. And the ability to know what consent is and actually use it as best as they can to there ability.

[–] chunes@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago
[–] Kennystillalive@feddit.org 8 points 1 day ago

They are charismatic.

[–] Toneswirly@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

Having a good "look" or dressing well goes a long way for me. Not even just one particular style, so long as theyre owning it with confidence and flair.

[–] thenose@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

The way care about and/or for

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