Understanding and compassion. Kindness. I've been with enough women in my time to be able to definitively say that the HOTTEST woman in the universe yet a total bitch would not be able to hold a candle to a homely kind hearted gal.
this post was submitted on 03 Nov 2025
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Being hot and horny does it for me.
I’m attracted to women with a more traditionally masculine personality or presentation. The helpers/protectors. Or non-binary. Bonus points if their whole Look is to deliberately intimidate strangers.
TL;DR image basically this but in all black.
Unapologetic intellectual curiosity! I absolutely love being around people who love learning new things and who get excited to find out more when they discover a new topic.
It's one of the first qualities that really stood out when I first met my husband - in a University lecture with 1000 people, he just nonchalantly sat down in the frontmost row because that's where he could hear the professor the best and ask questions. No shyness or awkwardness about it, which I found incredibly inspiring for some reason! I usually hid in one of the back rows because I was massively overthinking everything and afraid that the professor might call me out when he sees me not paying attention.
happiness
That is different for each person
Most people are going to say personally, but I am going to go with breast size.
Glasses
I confuse "attractive" and "naked" on a regular basis. I frequently have to remind myself to consider if I am seeing an attractive person, or just a person who currently is not wearing many clothes.
I, uh... think most people are pretty unattractive when they're naked.
There's no cheat code to get them to like you, dude.
Didn't say it was for me
Of course, it's for a friend
Instantly? It’s a somewhat vague term, but magnanimity, having “loftiness of spirit.” To me, it means that when they enter a room they carry a subtle gravity. Their eyes are focused on what and who is around them, taking in each in turn with a clear understanding of what they see but a respect for what they don’t. A trim smile that welcomes greetings and promises warm words in return. They breathe with the calm ease of someone healthy and comfortable in their own skin, and with each step they appear to not just approach their physical destination, but their own personal fulfillment.
So…a cat?
Belief in and support for Universal Basic Income.
Being kind
Big tits.
Most insightful. Heartfelt, even
Fine, you're my wing man. I'll take the flat-chested friend, you get the thick one.
Hold my beer.
Couple of girls with average breasts eyeing us at the bar. Now we're fighting over which one has the stuffed bra.
"Fuck it. Let's be tacky and just ask."
Kindness, low ego, emotional intelligence, positive mindset.
A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I'm smitten.
Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.
How do you feel if someone who is not medium attractive winks at you?
Or if they just say something weird, like a joke you don't appreciate, and wink at you?
I guess there has to be some kind of established not-a-creepy-stranger before risking a wink becomes appropriate.
I am the total opposite, if you wink at me I'm going to be wholly creeped out.
Ô-Ô
In love yet?
Yes, but not with them eyes
that's my girl!
I'm a lonely male so the answer is if they give me a modicum of attention and kindness.
Its this.
IDK about "lonely" exactly but I definitely dont get a lot of attention or kindness from people.
Now I think about it i dont offer much either but thats life i guess.
Every drop of water makes the river, don’t forget you’re a part of the world, and you’re important, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.
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A nice, plump dumper.
Bravery. My wife she's a revolutionary. She was on the street when they kicked out the dictator and they were shooting real bullets. I admire her
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Anti-consumerism, it's a shame so few people possess it.
This is also something that I deeply value. And even in today's world, in which anti-consumption should probably be a priority for pretty much everyone, I rarely find someone that values that.
And where is the hate for corporations? Everyone walking around as if they were a walking billboard, with branding in pretty much every item they own.. Yikes yikes yikes.
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Compassion for the vulnerable and weak.
Single straight man that works in child care. Let me tell you, single mom's treat compassion like catnip. I keep them as far away from me outside of the school environment because me simply enjoying my job which naturally involves compassion is intoxicating to them.
Hard pass for me dating a single mom but if you are having a hard time as a straight single man dating (only perspective I can give advice on) is to be genuine and compassionate. Instant attraction for 99% of women looking for partners.
Ive become a bit of a cynic in this area and I think the women seeing your passion for child care and being a nice guy... They know they can wrap you around their fingers and get a lot of benefit from you.
Nice guys like yourself need to be very careful around todays women.
I'm going to be so shallow as to claim that if they look attractive, I find that instantly hot.
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