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That is different for each person

Glasses

Most people are going to say personally, but I am going to go with breast size.

I confuse "attractive" and "naked" on a regular basis. I frequently have to remind myself to consider if I am seeing an attractive person, or just a person who currently is not wearing many clothes.

There's no cheat code to get them to like you, dude.

Instantly? It’s a somewhat vague term, but magnanimity, having “loftiness of spirit.” To me, it means that when they enter a room they carry a subtle gravity. Their eyes are focused on what and who is around them, taking in each in turn with a clear understanding of what they see but a respect for what they don’t. A trim smile that welcomes greetings and promises warm words in return. They breathe with the calm ease of someone healthy and comfortable in their own skin, and with each step they appear to not just approach their physical destination, but their own personal fulfillment.

Belief in and support for Universal Basic Income.

Being kind

Big tits.

Kindness, low ego, emotional intelligence, positive mindset.

A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I'm smitten.

Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.

A nice, plump dumper.

I'm a lonely male so the answer is if they give me a modicum of attention and kindness.

Instantly hot? Sexuality. Dressing in clothing that shows off their body, the way they smile, being flirty, a sparkle in their eye, etc.

Being hot is just about attraction to me. It tells me they can be fun. Now, you can tank that hotness in an instant by being rude to a waiter, being shallow, unable to hold a conversation, etc. In my experience hot people tend to have weaker personalities because they don't have to work on them as much. Hot is often not worth it, but it can't be... hot.

Anti-consumerism, it's a shame so few people possess it.

Bravery. My wife she's a revolutionary. She was on the street when they kicked out the dictator and they were shooting real bullets. I admire her

Being my wife

Compassion for the vulnerable and weak.

When someone laughs at my jokes they instantly become more attractive.

It's not the only thing needed to make someone hot - I don't think I know of one thing that would do the trick regardless of anything else... but it's a big leap towards it for anyone, because it combines them laughing and having fun (which is attractive) with making me feel appreciated and included and good about myself (which opens me up socially to feel attraction).

On the flip side, someone who doesn't laugh at my jokes will become irrevocably unattractive regardless of anything else.

I'm going to be so shallow as to claim that if they look attractive, I find that instantly hot.

They use Arch Linux.

Aside from all the things that are instant turn-offs...

Being hopeful.
Also seem to get drawn to BPD

To me it's passion. Talking about their topic of predilection with fire in their eyes. That does it