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Genital mutilation is a caveman practice...

America has a 90 percent circumcision rate.

Canada has a 40 percent rate.

Most of the rest of the world doesn't do that.

I'm not letting any stranger cut a piece of my boys parts off.

M atheist (not cut) but if you need Christian reason then

Galatians 5:2

Mark my words! I, Paul, tell you that if you let yourselves be circumcised, Christ will be of no value to you at all.

https://biblehub.com/galatians/5-2.htm

Fuck no.

If society jumped off a bridge, would you also?

Not in the slightest

I'm circ, my son is too. It was a mistake, please don't repeat my mistake.

British penis owner here. Cirumcision is rare in this country and as far as I know the rest of the world. I imagine most British people would find it strange, the inverse of your friend's experience. My instinct is to say don't perform an unnecessary medical procedure on your child and let them decide as an adult. You can't put a foreskin back on. But I sympathise with the cultural aspect of it you're having to contend with in the USA.

Side note: I did consider getting circumcised at one point. I was in a BDSM relationship. My penis was consensually "hers" and she preferred it after being with a Jewish guy. It was a rule that I couldn't get it out without retracting my foreskin. If it had become a long term relationship I might have done it.

Not for one second. Circumcision is barbaric. It can go wrong and often does. US is one of only a few western countries where it is common, and the only reason for that is cultural as you've said (sometimes religion/medical). It serves no other purpose.

As a gay who has experience with both, let me tell you, uncircumcised dicks are also more fun. Some cut dicks also look like they've been mutilated by a drunken psychopath with a vegetable peeler.

Just don't circumcize your kid. I am and didn't do it for my kid, and even if he has issues, it's his choice to make the body mod if it's wanted. Kids will always have some kind of issue or get made fun of for something, no reason to snip the tip of his penis off unless it's needed imo.

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No

The rates are falling in America so you son probably won't be the only kid with a foreskin. That said do remember there is a small chance of death from blood loss. No really that happens a few times a year.

Nope, never. Never had a problem with women/bedroom.

1. If you aren't Jewish, what reason do you have to do it to an infant that can't possibly wait until they're old enough to decide for themselves?

2. Would you be struggling with the same decision to surgically alter an infant's genitals if we were talking about your daughter instead of your son?

No why would I want to mutilate my dick

Absolutely barbaric practice. Obviously not in favour of genital mutilation.

You'd be removing a lot of sexual function for masturbation (now you need lube) and a lot of nerve endings that give pleasure are now chopped off. Dried out numb penis head/gland. Less sliding when having penetrative sex so it's also worse for women.

For what? In honor of weirdo American puritan? Kellogg brother who hated masturbation? No,it's bullying. What a rancid country the USA is.

I'm circumcised but against it on principle,and had roughly the same concerns as you in thinking about future sons. This thread is doing a lot to assuage my concerns.

I got circumcised in my twenties due to some scarring after I got a fungus or something from my partner. My feedback: do not recommend, absolutely no benefit. On the other hand besides recovery and initial sensitivity, there's no major drawbacks (besides masturbation now requiring lubricant).

I should mention that I'm from EU and there's no social factor here.

Uncircumcised and never really thought about getting it done.

Also I will say that I met this girl about 30 years ago that did this thing with her tongue that made me reaaallllly happy to have my foreskin. I've since shown this 'action' to every partner I've had 😁.

Fuck no.

Uncircumcised and have my tonsils. My mother was adamant about having every piece of her children coming home with her. I was on the swim team in high school, and no one teased me about my dick. Plenty of other things, but not that.

I have never met anyone circumcised before, nor even heard of one outside of celebrities and internet randoms like this.

So the thing about some being grossed out is purely cultural and not a universal thing. I find it odd that some would be grossed out about a thing like that, but if you choose to remain within that culture, it’s probably sensible to account for that. But I would bet it’s really not a big deal for anyone despite what they say. There are more important things going on whenever people end up in a situation where that comes up. I wouldn’t worry about that, but the again I don’t know your culture, maybe it is a big deal.

For me personally, I really like my “hood” so to say. Keeps the senses more heightened there when the delicate part does not chafe around and touch everything all the time. On top of that, I find much more hygienic to have a natural “shield” that is easy to clean and keep regulated in terms of pH and all. No doubt it would be more problematic in hot climates where there might be more sweating and stuff, that would require more intense and frequent upkeep, but here in the global North, I think it would be disadvantageous not to have the natural luxury.

Not only would I not want a circumsization, I find it actively harmful to myself and my personal health. I also find the practice extremely off-putting and horrifying, but then again all cultures come with their own “barbaric” traditions so to say, so I’m not about to yuck anyone’s yum. You do you, I say, live your best life.

It does come with some required upkeep and work, but so do our teeth. If you maintain them, they’re going to be healthy and beneficial overall. No need to cut them off in my opinion, just because it’s extra work. But that’s not the justification for the cut, so I also don’t mean to sound patronizing here. Just my view on it.

Good on you for asking instead of blindly following this "tradition", I hope you heed what most people are saying here. Progress happens one personal decision at a time, you can be a part of that

I'm circumcised. My young adult sons are. Looking back, I would have made a different choice for them. I don't have a super strong reason for feeling that way except that I don't have a good reason to have done it other than "tradition". But that's a dumb reason to do things.

While it is still more common than not in the US, the rates have been falling for the last 10-15 years.

No. I like it this way just fine.

No, of course not. That’s weird.

No

The comments here are full of dicks.

Absolutely fucking not, and it seems to me you already know the correct answer

No, and it's literally not once ever been mentioned between my wife and I in regards to our son. It's an absolute non-issue and it's never been something that's been mentioned with any previous partners.

The head of my knob is way too soft and pretty to ever want it's little party hat to be taken off.

It's so soft and sensitive down there, I don't want it chafing on my grunderpants all day and ruining it's good feels.

So I've since gotten rid of the whole dick, but no never. I got picked on for it a bit as a teenager but teenagers will pick on any differences. Nobody I've dated has minded foreskin (though they've all been the sort of women who date trans women) and in fact one bi ex of mine confided that she finds uncircumcised penises very attractive before she knew about me being uncut. Another ex of mine wasn't into it per se, but she was an anti circumcision activist.

A big thing is when I was young and getting the talks with my mom she explained why she made the choice. Knowing that it was a decision made out of respect for my future autonomy, fear of complications, and respect for my right to have all my nerves, it made it so any teasing was irrelevant and just made me feel bad for the people teasing me.

Oh I should mention I had a friend in college who was undergoing some procedures or something in an attempt to regrow her foreskin because of how unhappy she was with having been circumcised, so take that possibility as well