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I'll try to dial back my time on lemmy because I've noticed that I spend way, way more time here than I ever did back on reddit

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[–] shaggyb@lemmy.world 9 points 6 hours ago

Frankly there isn't as much content. So, no.

But if I'm really honest it's about equal because all the content is on bluesky and tiktok.

[–] mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 7 hours ago

Yes.

I have an app on my phone for usage limits, and for social media I have that set for 1 hour. I rarely hit the limit nowadays, but Lemmy is more than capable of taking up that time unless I have a super specific question in a niche hobby

[–] boboliosisjones@feddit.nu 9 points 12 hours ago

No, the smaller userbase means there aren't niche communities for my specific interests like games nobody but me like.

I still like Lemmy but those specific connunites I can miss. I completely abandoned Reddit in the APIocalypse anyway

The Sweden board was pretty good too, and there's no where near similar engagement here.

And I do not have the time, engagement or mental fortitude to make these communities, that would be dead, myself. To be honest I don't really understand exactly how Lemmy and the Fediverse works - but I think to bring in more people that can't be expected of users either.

[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 7 points 16 hours ago

The time I spent on Reddit was pretty close to zero, except on rare occasions. I used to spend more time on Lemmy, but over the past year, I feel like the vibe has changed and I haven't been enjoying it as much.

[–] DudenessBoy@sh.itjust.works 6 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I try to because I want to support the FediVerse

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 5 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Same. But honestly reddit was more fun than here.

I'm stuck here & loyal now. Because am irreversibly permabanned from Reddit.

Let's make Lemmy fun.

Most of the "fun" on reddit was fake because 85% of all posts & users are bots.

So Lemmy is a breath of fresh air from all that mental manipulation.

[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 4 points 16 hours ago

Yes.

On Reddit I had two specific groups i visited and thats it.

Here I tend to browse and read ALL, as there's not enough traffic in the grouos I am interested in.

[–] Sparkles@fedia.io 3 points 18 hours ago

Not really, I stop in and chat a bit on posts I find interesting. On Reddit I doomscrolled.

[–] Fit_Series_573@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Lemmy is really growing on me as I can see there's discussion when it comes to the current events, I like to read real opinions and viewpoints on from others outside of my bubble, reddit and X both are too bot riddled for me to personally for that use. I still do go on reddit often for local content as it's a better source of upcoming events and whats going on around the city than the actual local news agencies.

[–] selkiesidhe@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago

No. But I can't post on reddit anymore since they banned me for updooting Luigi posts. So lame and anto-free speech.

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Nope. Making Reddit as mildly addictive as it was likely took more than just a generic application of the type.

In that way, Lemmy's development motivations make this platform (IMO) a lot healthier, because it wasn't purposefully tweaked into something addictive by a group of sociopaths holding boring dystopia meetings looking to appease the shareholders or the ownership.

[–] dubble_deee@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I read comment sections to the end on lemmy, which I haven't done on reddit in probably a decade

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Because there are fewer comments? Or because they're more worthwhile?

[–] dubble_deee@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

For me it's because I'm not reading the same top comment on virtually every post. I used to always skip top comment because it was just a copied comment to a repost, but eventually it got so silly I had to read halfway down to get any original thoughts. Now that we're in a world where there's so much bot generated content and it isn't affecting lemmy in largely the same way as the other social media platforms, it's even more apparent.

To the other repliers point, contrarian commentary isn't censored as heavily and power tripping mods to get named and shamed from what I've seen from my perspective - that said I am a heavy reader instead of commentator so I have my own set of biases.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

yes

lemmy def lacks mutli paragraph comments threads. more than two sentences here is a long comment.

i liked reading thought out ideas and opinions. very few threads i've seen here have those. and often they are downvoted because they are not supporting the lemmy default viewpoints... which are mostly of the soundbite length.

that said, people aren't getting banned for those comments like they would on reddit. and i'm not getting banned for replying to them.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Short answer, no.

There just isn't as much content to scroll, and there's no accomodations for separating communities by interest. Allegedly, piefed fixes this but I haven't tried yet.

I'd like it if I could keep my news feed separate from my technology feed separate from my porn feed separate from gaming feed separate from you get the idea. Since it's all blended together, it's harder to stay on the platform. The same complaint applies to yourube, by the way.

[–] Skavau@piefed.social 3 points 17 hours ago

You can make or follow feeds on Piefed, allowing you to separate out your subscriptions.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 75 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I ditched read it when they broke the API haven't been back since. I spend the same amount of time that I used to spend on Reddit on here maybe less as there is less content.

[–] Trex202@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Less content, but less toxic too

[–] notnotmike@programming.dev 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I've found it's less toxic if you agree with everyone

But if you were to log into Lemmy as a conservative or pro capitalist I think the toxicity would ratchet up instantly, even if you tried to discuss in "good faith"

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 1 points 3 hours ago

I've found myself on the "Let me evaluate this as objectively as possible and still I usually end up pretty left of center" camp, and yet I'm definitely not immune to it.

I've had a few run-ins, like one where I tried to de-escalate and respectfully critique a thread that was basically (smugly?) a "death to anyone who looks like they might resemble the other team" jihad , and boy, oh boy the hivemind got stirred.

It's gotten so bad that merely suggesting temperance and moral consideration brands you a filthy both-siding liberal nazi-enabler or something.

I believe a successful resistance includes restraining unhinged extremists that would stab their fellows in the back for not being extreme enough, but some segments of Lemmy won't hear it.

[–] Trex202@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I agree with you 🙃

I guess we're in our own echoes chamber

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[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Same here, I think. I spend less time here, but time spent is of more quality.

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[–] Donebrach@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Nope. Honestly though Lemmy helped me with my Reddit addiction. Haven’t been on Reddit in years and only occasionally engage with Lemmy during the week. Supplanted both with reading bootleg manga, ha ha ha.

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[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No, there's way less stuff to engage with and frankly I don't particularly even like it here.

[–] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What don't you like about it? Not enough content or the politics?

[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I guess it’s not a Lemmy-specific issue but more of a social media thing in general. I just don’t like being around angry people - even when their anger is aimed at people I don’t like either. It’s the cynicism, the wishing harm, the celebrating death or misfortune. I get where it comes from - I just don’t want to be around it. It poisons my mind too.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 2 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

What can I say, I'm also here for the memes. But otherwise...I don't blame you.

I like knowing what's going on , especially when corpo news sources try to sweep it under the rug, and sometimes comments can be really insightful, but often the discourse is so tribalistically rage-blinded and the line of acceptable extremes keeps getting pushed to frightening degree.

Even the slightest hint of disagreement with the extent of said extremes, even if you're on the same "side" of an issue, will get you branded and told to face the wall with the rest of the filth....You know, by the types who most loudly proclaim how much they're against fascists .

(My guess is mostly it's angy isolated teens with anonymity and hair-trigger emotions paired with drooping history grades. And I say this as an idealistic anarchist lol. But it still hurts. Words are words.)

I was recently downvoted like crazy and attacked quite viciously for merely suggesting that dehumanizing human beings, even enemies, is a dark path. Even the poster I was responding to was like "That's messed up, you were respectfully discussing. People are crazy."

I'm more careful now.

It's beginning to remind me of the apocalyptic world of Metro 2033: On one side, Neo-Nazis want to kill you outright. On the other: the Red army wants to ~~conscript~~ comrade you to their frontlines to hurl at their enemies.

...and most people are just caught in the middle trying to survive.

Sorry for the long reply. Let's stay safe, sane, and keep touching grass. Take good care out there. ❤️

[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

Thanks for the thoughtful response - the timing was impeccable. I guess it’s not all bad in here after all.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 2 points 2 hours ago

I'm sincerely glad you appreciated it. I worry I ramble a bit too much sometimes! :)

In some ways Lemmy can still feel like the "Old Internet", for better and worse haha, but there's still people like us that appreciate small moments of genuine connection with people.

We can be revolutionaries by making those positive connections in the communities we visit. :D

I hope you're doing okay and have a good one today.

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 50 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Yes, I realized there was/is a lot of rage-bait on reddit that kept me typing. Lemmy is more chill, like it's an actual forum with real people with real engagement.

[–] Bazoogle@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Lemmy is 1000x more real than reddit, but I have found it to be very susceptible to echo chambers. I agree with a lot of the echos in the chamber, and yet I find a lot of people taking nuance out of discussions or believing falsehoods from headlines alone. It's annoying to me, because many if these topics are extreme enough as is, there's no need to hyperbolize. But there is not a lot in the way of difering opinions (when it comes to big topics)

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago

I spend more time engaging on Lemmy, but I consumed more content on reddit

[–] beejboytyson@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

I'm on lemmy BECAUSE there is less. Trying to become and ostrich.

[–] Katrisia@lemmy.today 3 points 1 day ago

No, I like reading and writing here, but I spend a lot of time watching short videos. It's a constant bombardment of interesting facts (mixed with some news, memes, trends...); it's stimulating.

[–] Psythik@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Less time on Lemmy cause there's less to see. I spend more time on other websites now, when previously reddit used to take up all of my web browsing time.

[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What kind of other websites?

[–] Psythik@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Imgur and YouTube mostly. I spend more time on forums too.

[–] missingno@fedia.io 15 points 1 day ago

Less, because there's still a lot less content here. I check what's new on the communities I'm subscribed to, and that doesn't take long.

[–] Bahnd@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago

Actually less and for a good reason, the doom scroll is not endless.

We have a fraction of the population and a few good posts and discussions on the places I have not blocked. Over all its a lot healthier and I still get my fix of feeling informed-ish. Also Jeboa does not display total votes an account gets meaning there is no "must have X karma to ride" pages that, while attempting to remove bots (it didnt), fills a room with crowd pleasers instead of those seeking discussion or answers.

[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Deleted my reddit account a couple days after discovering Lemmy. I've been to their website a couple times since because it often appears in search results and if I don't see a less shit option I'll dig through the comments of whatever post my search pulled up, but that's the extent of my activity there.

I will never make another reddit account. Fuck spez.

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[–] Drbreen@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

I have to admit. Reddit can be handy for finding solutions from other people for problems.

I wish Lemmy was comparable for this purpose. Perhaps someday.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

Reddit definitely used to be! But sadly thanks to reddit, I think we're seeing the damage from a disappearing internet when a lot of people mass-deleted their posts and it affects technical pages.

How do I fix this really niche technical issue?

Toasters lollypops groundhogs sport icecube I have scrambled all my reddit posts with a script because reddit sucks and Spez sucks.

Thanks! That's EXACTLY what I needed! I've been looking everywhere for this solution. Have a gold, internet stranger sir/madame. I hope anybody else who has this issue comes here first so they don't spend as long as I did before I saw your post!

💀

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[–] Truscape@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I actually answer questions and post here unlike when I used RIF, where I just lurked.

I guess that's spending more time? (active participation?)

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[–] msokiovt@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

I read things on Reddit sometimes (using Eddrit or RedLib) to narrate for Cocules Reddit Readings. Otherwise, I don't even use Reddit (nor do I have an account on that toxic slop).

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