Ask Lemmy

Someone who actually cares about me enough to help me with the things I suck at. Someone who would drop everything they are doing if I needed them, the way I do for everyone I care about. Someone who thinks I am sexy and wants to be physically intimate. Someone I am comfortable enough around to be myself and not mask to fit in.

What my current relationship is lacking is he's not as available as I would like, we don't talk about deep personal shit, and we don't really have sex. Basically just friends that cuddle and sleep in the same bed on occasion.

Main problem is I want more, and he doesn't know what he wants. But I'd rather keep what we have than have nothing at all. We're not monogamous so I've just been thinking about maybe simply adding more people than trying to find one that ticks every box. Plus it would be fun to say shit like "My Monday and Tuesday boyfriends are hanging out with my Wednesdsy girlfriend, which is why I'm just chilling with Thursday, even though it's Monday."

They need to be local or willing to help me move to them.

Online relationships are nice but I wanna cuddle. 😭

Having a sex drive as high as mine and not being bipolar.

Non drug user/smoker

Someone that is okay with not being able to engage in coitus with me.

Similar educational and economic status and close in age. Essentially, financially independent and intelligent. However, my “single parent” status quite fairly keeps most people away. So I have given up.

Has an offroad-capable vehicle so she can meet/follow me to those gorgeous, quiet, unpopulated, un/less-polluted, green places I like to hang out in as much as possible.

Okay here's another one and this does not describe all of my potential dating partners, but a big amount of them.

People who have kids and declare that the kids are their whole lives; people who do not have kids, but talk about their dog like it's their baby.

It's wonderful to love your kids, and it's wonderful to bond with your dog, but to define your entire being around those is so unhealthy.

Many parents whose kids are already in university, and don't want much to do with them can often not let go. Often will spend their entire weekend fretting about their daughter or son who doesn't even want to talk to them and won't reply to their messages. Get on with life, lady. Get one actually.

And I love dogs, and I've tried to set aside and compromise on the "my dog is my baby" mentality, but it always comes down to that person being so completely disconnected from their own emotional core, you can never actually know them.

E: downvoters: "I took that personally"

I want someone who shares my hatred of apple and companies in general. A fediverse user who is smart and has common sense. On top of that I would also like someone who doesn't mind that im socially awkward and terrible at one on one conversations.

When I am talking with them, I want to feel like I am having a conversation with ChatGPT.

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i want. But i can't