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[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 50 points 18 hours ago

Is self-love a body part? No?

Then tiddies.

[–] Wisens@discuss.tchncs.de 72 points 19 hours ago (1 children)
[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 17 points 16 hours ago

Phew, thought I was going crazy

[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 45 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Why do kink people have so much disposable income for smut?

Sorry honey I can't afford dinner tonight, but look at the fucking honkers on sonichu.

[–] don@lemmy.ca 14 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I doubt most people paying for commissions are sacrificing necessities for porn. They have more than enough for both, and so spend their money on both.

[–] python@lemmy.world 8 points 10 hours ago

I did nsfw commission work for a bit, and so many people ask for payment plans or go "oh I'll get paid in a week and pay you then". They're definitely sacrificing necessities. Main reason why I quit, it was just too sad.

[–] makeshiftreaper@lemmy.world 60 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (2 children)

I think you're putting the cart before the horse here. People with disposable income seek out increasingly niche forms of entertainment as they get used to their things that were previously novel

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 20 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Nah it's more like non related groups. Broke kinky people and wealthy vanilla people aren't doing commissions. But if you don't know broke kinky people you don't see them (especially as they're likely not announcing it), whereas you likely know plenty of poor vanilla people and rich vanilla people blend into the background as a non group here.

[–] nycki@lemmy.world 15 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

I think its both. people with more money can afford more commissions, and people who've gotten more commissions are likely to be more specific about what they want.

The confusing thing here is, why don't we see more billionares with lavishly-produced fetish porn? Where are all the million-dollar R-rated movies about people turning into balloon animals? Where are the full-length music videos about women who eat people whole?

The logical conclusion is: billionares have lavishly produced porn, but its all secret. And the epstein files are a... very unfortunate clue as to why billionare porn is secret :/

[–] makeshiftreaper@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

Comparatively it's not that expensive to get someone to write up an enforceable NDA. Once you cross a threshold it's worth it to you to make it illegal to share that with anyone else so you know it's exclusive. For what it's worth NDAs can't protect illegal activity, so hopefully it's being surpressed by other illegal means, not our government (not that I'm that naive)

[–] vateso5074@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

I feel like there's still some public, high budget fetish porn being made. Like A Folded Ocean (potentially NSFL, kinky body horror).

[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 6 points 14 hours ago

Is the cart fucking the horse? Like a dragon fucking a car?

[–] Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

might I get a more direct source?

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 21 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

How much is three hundred dollar dollars in USD?

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
[–] FlihpFlorp@piefed.zip 9 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

This ain’t no Zorsith, it’s the god damn Loch Ness monster

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 18 hours ago

based fuwwy awtistz ;;; :3

[–] nycki@lemmy.world -4 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (2 children)

this is disrespectful as fuck. nsfw artists are never "just in it for the money." everyone who's tried that has hated it and quit.

the vast majority of nsfw artists enjoy what they do, and to suggest otherwise is puritan bullshit.

edit: to clarify, the message of this comic, as far as I can tell, is "sex is gross. nobody likes drawing sex. everyone who draws sex is being coerced financially." and thats fucked up because 1) its not true, and 2) if it were true, it would imply that nsfw artists "deserve" all the bullshit they get from banks, from clients, and from other artists. porn is sex work, and sex work is hard work. if you just need the money, there's like a hundred easier ways to get it that don't involve porn. nobody chooses this path lightly, so don't talk trash about them!

[–] Gorillazrule@lemmy.dbzer0.com 52 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Or. And hear me out here. The message of the comic is "the author thinks sex is gross. The author doesn't like drawing sex. The author is willing to give up on those values for the right sum of money." And it's a tongue in cheek joke about how their opinions can be easily swayed by financial incentives, rather than a reflection of all artists.

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 10 points 15 hours ago

People are allowed to think sex is icky and express that and that doesn't mean they're judging others for not thinking that. This doesn't seem like the "are the allos okay?" jokes, for a similar example of jokes that do communicate negative judgement of people who feel otherwise.