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So I have a doctor’s appointment tomorrow morning. My parents said that they would be picking me up from college the night before (since I’m not a good driver and can’t drive myself). My mom is out of town for the day as she had to take my grandma to the hospital because she was getting surgery. My mom was sure she would be staying in the hospital overnight, and told me she would be bringing her mom’s dog home with her until my grandma got out of the hospital. I had planned to see her, especially since my dad (an obnoxiously realistic Scorpio), told me that this might be the last time I get to see her because she is sick and mentioned that she might die. This frustrated me because it isn’t at all true, my dad just likes to mention the worst scenario in everything. It also terrified me as my grandma’s other dog was put down about two weeks ago, and I’d hate for her to lose both of her dogs so close to each other.

Anyway, the plan was to get picked up at about 7:30 at night, and see my grandma’s dog and play with her and stuff. However, my grandma actually ended up being discharged (which I’m really glad she was), but it meant that I would not get to see her dog. Also, my dad called me at about 5:00, telling me that he was here and ready to pick me up. Like there was no preparation, no plan, no discussion, just last minute change.

So now I’m in the back seat of my dad’s car, frustrated. My dad doesn’t understand why I’m so mad, he just told me I’m being cranky and that he was going to stop talking. Now he’s all nervous/optimistic, blasting his music and jamming while tapping the steering wheel. Before this he asked if I had wanted McDonald’s since I mentioned it last night. Like seriously? He told me he doesn’t have time to watch TV or hang out with me tonight, but he has time to stop and get McDonald’s? He also is constantly complaining about the traffic which is making me feel even worse.

Does anyone else get this way when plans change?

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[–] obscur_3@lemmy.zip 3 points 8 hours ago

I am kinda got used to it but still would rather enjoy solitude than planning something together with someone, if its not a necessary. You dad seems doesn't know much about autism?

[–] NovaSel@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah I'd probably feel that way too if plans were changed without any warning whatsoever

[–] ComfortableRaspberry@feddit.org 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Same but to be honest I would call my mood in these scenarios cranky. Because I had plans and expectations and they are now shattered and no matter how bad this actually is, as in how it affects my life, I'm sad about my shattered expectations and mad at everyone who is at fault