Is it clear?
Also, if she SHOULD mean yes but says no she doesn't deserve it, for bad communication skills.
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I knew a girl who said I wasn’t a man if I took no for an answer. She ended up raping me and giving me a disease but as a victim there was nothing I could do.
Cool story, bro. One that totally happened, I'm sure. Maybe you should share it in a group where your posting isn't explicitly against the rules?
Every piece of love advice I received as a kid in the 90s and 00s was equivalent to "try harder" or "pursue" or "don't give up" and they made it sound so good. My poor wife... The early years couldn't have been easy for her.
Hey Quantum thanks for your perspective! We're a trans inclusive women only community so please dont comment again thanks for understanding 😊
Are you sure they're not trans?
I'm not. Blocking the community.
I'm sure you'll be missed greatly. Everybody misses people who casually break the rules and then get pissed off when politely asked to abide by them. Their contributions would undoubtedly have been completely and utterly priceless.
For enforcing the rules? Seems a little harsh
You're not alone. Same. My wife is wonderful and I'm glad she challenged me to question some of my behaviors.
Hey Alec thanks so much for stopping by! We're trans inclusive women only so please don't comment again and have a lovely weekend
Hey I'm a woman, why do you feel the need to say trans inclusive, and not just "women only" this is my first time discovering this instance. And it comes off as performative although I see you're drawing a line in the sand between you and the terfs-- but imo you're just acknowledging the existence of terfs more than validating trans women.
I don't think it's a useful strategy to not acknowledge the existence of terfs or trans people. In a lot of similar communities there is always the question of whether trans people are actually included or not, and even if so, who under the trans spectrum, which always makes me uncertain about my place.
And also, just ignoring problems such as terfs is not a solution. They exist whether their existence is acknowledged or not, sweeping things under the rug isn't helpful
Though, yeah, it is made clear in the rules, which I appreciate
Hey Mika welcome to WomensStuff we're really glad to have you. I say it for several reasons, including that we welcome all groups under the trans umbrella.
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Thanks for all your reports in this thread guys! Really appreciate you helping the mods keep WomensStuff safe
Thanks to the mods for the unrewarding work of filtering away the incels, MGTOW, MRA, PUA, and "nice guys" that tend to plague any women's space.
You're welcome ZDL 😊
A gross retort I heard that's always stuck with me: "a boyfriend's a speed bump, not a stop sign"
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Wish I could go back to my younger self just so I could tell that guy (and the others) to go fuck themselves.
"just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score"
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yeah me too
Oh wow! That's somehow even grosser than the speed bump thing! 😮
"aaahhhhahaha okayyy...", also no. But I probably need to work on being more direct.
Yeah I do basically the same thing, it's rough when you actually want something but on the outside seem uncertain or reserved because you internally constantly think people hate you haha. And then it makes it difficult for the other person
Probably why I enjoy saying like "do whatever unless I say [safe word]". But still something that I need to work on, and actually be like, directly communicating. It's healthy
Edit: on a second read, I slightly misinterpreted your comment, but I'll leave it
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I'm drunk is not an invitation. Fucken maggots.
"I have a boy/girlfriend" doesn't necessarily mean anything. Times have changed, folks.
"I have a boy/girlfriend" is supposed to stop you.
"Do you mind that I have a boy/girlfriend? " is meant to keep your interest while being transparent.
Know what is being said.
This right here. Context is king, yo!
I disagree with this sentiment that you are trying to convey. If language has to have intent assumed outside of context especially if the context is no -- "no" should just be said and that should be respected fully.
I mean if you're in a situation and they say "I have a boy/girlfriend" you could say "is that a no?" If for some reason you think it might not be.
It must be nice to live in a world where there are zero men who behave like mental toddlers in the bodies of, well, men who become a real threat when told simple words like "no".
Most of us don't live in that world, but are insanely jealous of those of you who apparently do.
Should is doing a lot of work here. Sadly no isn't respected still.
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If someone is daying it in response to you hitting on them, it definitely does mean something. Even if someone might potentially be open to poly in another situation, if you're like "hey you're cute, wanna hang out" and they come back with "i have a partner" then thats them blowing you off for sure.
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It never "necessarily" meant anything. But even today it usually means something. And specifically if it's being used in response to a pass, it means "NO".
But you probably already knew that, right? You're just arguing to be argumentative, right?
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Incorrect, even us polyamorous people understand its intended meaning.
Respect women with attitude.
I love this comment because I read it as show your respect via attitude.
Love this!!
Here is my best articulation for why this image irks me
- insecure pose is related to its brethren of other insecure poses, such as the peace sign ✌️😉✌️, tongue sticking out😜, duck lips😙
- there is this weird lust for such poses
- the brand clothing indicating commodity fetishism aka lust
- the coffee indicating lack of self control and gluttony/lust aka addiction
- expectation for others to read your mind when speaking indirectly, vaguely, or with innuendo
- closed-mindedness to the world of opportinity
- the sublte implication of superiority
- the callous disregard for the other person
- the lack of empathy
- the excessive self-conciet and pride in oneself
Here's my best articulation for why this post irks me:
You are so fucking full of yourself that you are currently inhaling your own intestinal methane using the most efficient placement possible.
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"Are women bourgeois?"
One would guess that women drive consumerism, but the data shows that both men and women are equally materialistic and status-hungry on average in a population. The difference are the types of commodities they buy.
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