There's negativity and there's "never taking accountability for one's actions and disliking being constantly called out on it which inevitably comes before a schism". But nobody can tolerate a consistent partypooper, ofc.
this post was submitted on 12 Sep 2025
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That second part sounds like punishment (i.e., accountability, called out, and schism which I interpret to mean exclusion or banishment). Am i understanding correctly? There's negativity and then there's punishment. Punishment seems like a subcategory of negativity because it's a bad, not good thing.
Real breakthrough you made there, champ.
How do you expect me to respond to this?
You just did.
Was that what you expected?
It was a nonsense answer and dodged the question. It doesn't say anything. All in all, a prime example of negativity, and it seems that they might be habitually negative by the looks of their profile picture and history with politics
Relax I was poking fun. Learn about it sometime.
yeah ok pal. Narcissistic talking style.
By telling you to lighten up? You're ridiculous.
Each comment of yours fits the narcissistic style of speaking: Invalidation, blaming, emotional immaturity, you-statements.
I'm sure it does, just like you reek of concern trolling and AI slop responses. Very unoriginal and very pathetic. Are you incapable of trolling on your own? Or are you so bored and unwanted in your pathetic existence that you seek and crave any sort of attention even if it's negative?
You and I are playing two different games. it seems like you're trying to "take me down" while I'm just identifying your behavior patterns for the audience. False accusations, labeling & insults (e.g., troll, pathetic, incapable). These are all examples of emotional immaturity.
Person could be having some fun with you though is all.
Sure, but that's still anti-social behavior.
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I'm still not convinced this user isn't a bot.
Ok and who are you? Why should anyone care about whether you are convinced or not? Are you a bouncer at a private club?
Are you running many of your replies through LLMs and just posting the output here? Is that the reason behind the bizarre phrasing of some of your posts and weird non-sequiturs? 🤔
Nice dodge. No, i am just literate. I read books. I write papers. I could guess that you may be projecting.
I'm a user in an online space in a time when we're constantly invaded by nefarious agents of chaos and their bots, hence the concern. I thought that was clear so I didn't feel like writing it down... but, fair enough, quacky, you've convinced me so I'll stop the questioning. And I'm sorry for any inconvenience I caused you. 👋
This comment thread is creating an amazing rainbow on the left of my screen.
I'm pretty sure that user IS a bot, though. Weird ass responses
As always, it depends. A certain amount of negativity can be healthy.
As mentioned in other comments, constant negativity is poison to relationships.
yeah like a ratio, i heard online that it's a 5:1 ratio https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/
More like certainly. It is hard to have a relationship with (or even exist alongside) someone who is constantly dragging you down.
So does avoiding issues.
That's true. They say that when couples give up and stop fighting that is when the relationship dies.
I never understood why people feel the need to fight with their SO so much? Why can't the issues be talked constructively and respectfully towards each other? Why the need to let things get so bad that you need to fight over things?
Some people consider any discussion about difficult matters 'a fight'.
Yeah wouldn't want to be in a relationship with that kind of a person...
I was in a relationship like this and it was a PR nightmare because all our friends/family would think we are "fighting" like domestic violence when in actuality it was simple difference of opinion, like whether we should budget or what to have for dinner.
They don't know how to talk constructively. Emotional topics get, well, emotional