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[–] lath@piefed.social 33 points 3 days ago (7 children)

I remember my time as a boy... Back then the rules for us were "whatever dumb shit you're thinking of doing, fucking don't!".

Ever get chased through the fields with the nice, big, beautiful stick you brought back earlier that day? Ever had heavy stuff thrown at you for doing some really dumb shit?
Ever left the home with a deep, resentful glare burning through the back of your skull?

It's difficult to lay down rules for boys because in general, we're dumb as shit doing dumb shit all the time. So there's almost always one, unspoken rule for boys: "Just fucking don't!"

The problem though is that girls are held upon to a higher standard. There are expectations of a higher level of civility and understanding, though undue in my opinion. Some of y'all were as dumb as the rest of us and were treated unfairly due to those higher standards.

But let's face it, as parents or adults, we all probably tend to have a similar kind of bias towards our own kids. Some of them are dumb as shit and while we worry about them, every time they plan to do something stupid, the inner voice we won't admit to is saying "please, oh please, just fucking don't!". Meanwhile, the kids we worry about less as they know their shit, they have clear, but few specific rules because we believe that's what they need.

So, in my humble opinion as a formerly dumb boy/kid, the lack of written rules more likely means there are too many, unpredictable rules that have to be managed proactively.

Btw, unrelated question, has anyone managed to get squirrels drunk in those camps of yours? I know it was on a to-do list at one point...

[–] rat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

None of that is "rules for boys" though. They apply to all kids. If a girl is acting rambunctious, she'll get told to stop too. Often for behavior the boys don't even get called out for because, as you said yourself, girls are held to a higher standard of civility.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 13 points 3 days ago

I remember being kids and an adult ruined our fun game of throwing spears at each other.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 3 days ago

Ever left the home with a deep, resentful glare burning through the back of your skull?

Yes, but that's on trauma, not on weird social rules on genders. (I'm a woman.)

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[–] stray@pawb.social 18 points 3 days ago (11 children)

What are the enbies allowed or not allowed to wear?

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the scary thing is that those rules were probably put in place because of the grown up councillors 🤢

[–] Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 10 points 3 days ago

They should all be wearing sun protective clothing. Slip slap slop slide you little shits.

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