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[–] MIDItheKID@lemmy.world 12 points 19 hours ago

Somewhere inbetween. I had a friend who was a cook and I didn't know shit about cooking. He would come over, then we would go to the supermarket and smell the different produce, and look at the meats and come up with something to cook. We would buy it, go back and chef it up. Learned a whole lot about cooking and flavor profiles etc. Some of the best times I've ever had.

I'm a groomsman in his wedding in November. For the bachelor party we are renting a cabin with some people. We are going to dream up a menu, go shopping, and chef it up again. I can't wait.

[–] xia@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

A great idea, killed by coordination overhead.

[–] BanMe@lemmy.world 9 points 21 hours ago

It works if you're like 22 and have few responsibilities and much free time.

If you're 44, fuck that noise, I got a routine to keep or everything will fall apart.

[–] coriza@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I love this type of bonding with friends and used to do it a lot. The problem is you have to live or be kinda close by, but I guess that is true for any less formal meetup. I guess the furthest away you are the more "a thing" the meetup must be and the duration longer.

In any case I love do errands with friends and even go help out with something. Even though I don't have time and energy for my stuff I feel like energy for hanging out with friends doing errands como from a different bucket.

[–] lengau@midwest.social 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

It's also far easier to do if you live in a walkable, bikeable city. I used to live somewhere where even the nearest grocery store was a 10 minute drive away, and I barely ever saw anyone. Now I'm a 5-10 minute bike ride from pretty much everything I need and I spend so much more time with friends.

[–] coriza@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

That is true. I also was luck enough to have a friend that didn't mind at all to pick me up out of his way even if just as a companion to do errands and stuff. Otherwise the distance would be a problem.

[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's because it feels great doing something while also procrastinating your own stuff to do

[–] coriza@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

That is so true. It is like a silver lining. I may be procrastinating but I am helping and spending some quality time with a friend.

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 77 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Can we just normalize 'come lay down somewhere and relax?' That would be great. Thanks.

No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.

[–] HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 45 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (8 children)

This is the thing that is destroying the USA. I'm not even joking. We don't have the things you're talking about or places to do them for free. We have nowhere for kids to hang out, for people to exist for free, public access entertainment/bath houses/whatever the fuck.

We have nothing. Only what you can pay for and only extremely regimented.

We have lost even the idea of community because it has been made impossible in this country.

[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 1 points 8 hours ago

I miss the malls, man. Like, some of them still exist, but they're dying. You used to be able to just go and window shop and chill and grab a bite. Maybe go hit the arcade. Go watch a movie. You didn't really have to have plans. You would just meet up and then fart around doing something.

Now it's almost all strip mall. What are we going to meet at the target? Then walk a mile in the weather to go to the Best Buy.

Of course, I also miss my friends being as bored as I was. I think social media and local devices replaced a lot of that.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

No more "third place".

You've got home, you've got work (or school)... And that's it.

Some people have church.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 1 points 23 hours ago

I've got a church that i use as a place to play music and socialize (no one has ever asked about my beliefs but i have a local reputation as Weird (fair amount of musicians in the congregation though so got some Weird there), they're just glad to have the music and I like free coffee, seeing friends, and getting to play) and i have a couple parks i busk at, and we've got a gorgeous farm out in the boonies on the other side of the next town over (so you know, just outside of battery range on my bike to get there and back) but like this is stuff i only know about because i've lived here all my damn life and make compromises like going to a (thank gods liberal) church

[–] MangoPenguin@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago

Parks? Walking/hiking trails? Just wander off into national forest?

[–] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 1 points 20 hours ago

I have a local nature park that has poles with hooks for hammocks dispersed around the many miles of hiking trails, and they even let you use their hammocks for free. But the park is privately owned and charges a small annual fee for use.

[–] ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What about glory holes?

[–] StaticFalconar@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

Yes your mother's bedroom is fair game.

[–] perishthethought@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Uhhh, don't we have city / county / state / national parks?

[–] HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Can children go to these places alone? Can children do anything alone, actually? What if you don't have a car?

I mean a society where you can easily walk to multiple different examples of several kinds of third space. Not where if you drive 30 min, you can get out into nature.

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[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 1 points 21 hours ago

When I was over in the states there were plenty of parks and free activities. Plenty of people using them as well.

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

The US has turned into Ferenginar so gradually I didn’t even notice!

[–] fartographer@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I miss having friends/family to cuddle with. My wife is fine, more than. But why can't buddies just cuddle? Also, my oldest friend and I will platonically kiss. Our wives find it adorable, but I've been kissing this guy since preschool; why does it have to be seen as special?

[–] moriquende@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Uh, that's nice for you but I personally have 0 interest in cuddling or kissing buddies and never have. Hanging out is just fine. I wouldn't be surprised if you're rather in the minority here.

[–] AbsolutePain@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

They're making a joke i think lol

[–] moriquende@lemmy.world 2 points 23 hours ago

If so, it's not my humor I guess.

[–] ExistingConsumingSpace@midwest.social 10 points 1 day ago

I have a friend that I do that with, it's pretty nice. Just get cozy like a childhood sleepover and put on some music or nonsense on the tv while we chill and chat.

[–] Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago

Man, I remember every weekend I'd have two or three friends all weekend, we'd all sleep on my bed. I miss those days. My bones hurt.

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[–] SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Let's create a community for that. An app like Tinder, but instead of Netflix and chill, there's just socializing and having a good time.

"Friends without benefits"

[–] BootLoop@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Only one of those is an errand though.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, tacos will never be considered an errand.

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Says you

[–] tamal3@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

When you can no longer afford to buy things, including furniture, at stores, thrifting as a habit become an errand. Not one that takes long enough to meet up with a friend, I agree, but it is a slightly different headspace than going shopping.

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I support thrifting 100% though. Buy stuff from real people, stuff that’s good quality that somebody no longer needs, and avoid buying newly manufactured disposable junk.

[–] tektite@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 day ago

I've been thrifting for decades and realized a while ago that I have a totally different idea of what things cost than the average person. I went with a friend to the mall once and watched them drop $100+ on ONE sweater like it was totally normal.

Meanwhile I'm at the thrift store going, "They want 25 bucks for these jeans!? Who are they kidding!"

[–] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 1 points 20 hours ago

The only worthwhile thrifting is online at this point. Shops are crazily overpriced.

[–] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 4 points 23 hours ago

I do feel bad for making people paying hundreds to come visit, not to eat at least some local restaurants.

But for more frequent hangouts it would be nice to hangout informally.

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Dine on the free samples at Costco and you can skip the tacos

[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 1 points 8 hours ago

Never skip Taco Day.

[–] pan0wski 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel like doing stuff like that would make our bond stronger instead of only sitting in a coffee bar or a restaurant.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have suggested a firepit by the beach but it doesn't seem to get people interested. Despite costing almost nothing beyond maybe a few marshmallows.

[–] Lawelen@fedia.io 4 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Some of us don't have beaches. And if you place a fire in a park...

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[–] AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@sh.itjust.works 39 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Ngl those are the catch-ups I enjoy most.

[–] general_kitten@sopuli.xyz 24 points 1 day ago

running errands with a friend truly is the best way.

[–] MagnyusG@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago (3 children)

oh yeah spend 250 dollars instead of 85

[–] coriza@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I think the person is not implying that by going with the person doing an errand you also have to spend money. You are going as a companion.

[–] elucubra@sopuli.xyz 14 points 1 day ago

Costco, is that you?

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[–] Jake_Farm@sopuli.xyz 28 points 1 day ago

Those are true friends.

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