What do these words mean?
- twink
- twunk
- otter
- side
- J/O
- frot
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Twink. A kind of biscuit.
Twunk. It was a biscuit but now it's gone.
Otter. Thing that stole the biscuit.
Side. The biscuit was a side dish.
J/O. Just Otters.
Frot. Forgot.
- Twink - a thin, mostly bodyhairless gay man
- Twunk - a muscly, mostly bodyhairless gay man
- Bear - a hairy, thicker gay man
- Otter - a thinner but still hairy gay man
- J/O - jerk off
- Frot - touching two penises together, usually while j/o with each other
- Top - the person who is topping is the person penetrating
- Bottom - same but is instead the person being penetrated
- Verse - likes being both top and bottom
- Side - I'm less familiar with this one but given the quotes and context I'm assuming this is not a top or a bottom or a verse, but instead is someone less interested in penetration and more interested in body contact and j/o together. *
So he wants a man who's either thin, muscular, or neither, and who's also hairy, hairless, or neither. Sooooo, that's every man
I agree with your observations about the hairy or hairless part, but thin or muscular are not the only 2 body types men can have. You can be fat and not muscular, I heard it's a pretty common body type in America
That's the "or neither" part of my comment
Side just means no penetration. Usually it means ok with oral, manual and frotting. You can indicate both (vers, side ok) to indicate you don't mind someone who isn't into penetration.
And I thought otter was referring to the specie of their fursona.
Oh well.
71 is age I presume
Year born, maybe 🤔
Jokes on him! >50% of guys on there do not bother to read the profile. Instead, their first message is of their junk…followed by three more pics of aforementioned junk and an aggressive opening message. It’s a great time!
I thought most of Grindr was more or less that expectation. Hey, you're hot, and if you think I'm hot too, let's meet up tonight. Here's a sample.
Something like that.
I'm guessing I'm at least partly wrong?
You’re totally right.
What I mean is that there are many, many, guys on there that do not even attempt to have a normal conversation. There is no “hey” or “how’s it going?” Just 1-4 unsolicited pics of their junk followed by some creepy message like “show daddy your…”
I'm pretty sure that is sexual harassment
Women would certainly consider it to be, but the gay community gets to decide their own norms (not laws) and if that behavior is considered acceptable then it flies, otherwise gays can have their own #metoo and fix it.
This tracks for how a lot of people use the app, but depending on where you are you can also have some fairly normal (for a dating site) conversations with people as well. I spent a couple months on Grindr despite not being interested in hookups, since it's a decent way to meet other trans folk in my area. My inbox was mostly dick pics but I also met some amazing people I'm still with several years later!
It depends. You get all sorts. There very much is a "right now" segment of the population.
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Don't forget the very well light, 4k quality picture of their anus that they do not properly clean
Does not have sex; only touches tips and jacks off.
They didnt even have to say they used Linux for everyone to know they used Linux. 😌
Are there women on grinder or are there only men?
I think I read somewhere that they tried to include lesbians but it wasn't popular or something.
I think there are a few lesbian alternatives, but you just never hear about them because the public views lesbian hookups as less blasphemous than gay male hookups. Because creepy straight men see lesbian hookups as sexy.
Wait... finding lesbian hookups sexy makes a CIS man creepy?
Can you explain þe logic there? Does it also apply to all þe CIS women who find Yaoi hot?
Yes, it would apply equally, but I guess that I should rephrase: It is not that they find it hot that is the creepy part, it's the fact that it is inherently fetishization of a sexuality that is not meant to involve them. Essentially, it feels kind of disrespectful and creepy for a guy to get off thinking about women who have decided to have sex with other women (I don't mean decided to be lesbian, bc obvs that isn't a choice), because he was never even in the demographic they wanted to have sex with, and by getting off to that, you are (at least a little) probobly imagining yourself having sex with them, and they would not even want that with you (at least in this instance). This same principle does apply to women getting off to gay men, it is just as disrespectful and fetishizing. Now, whether you agree with the thought process or not is completely up to you, but I personally find men fetishizing my sex that intentionally does not include them to be unwelcomed and creepy.
It’s certainly not “disrespectful” to have sexual fantasies, stop gatekeeping desire you weirdo. It’s not even a fetishization, I find that to be an over complication of what’s really going on when straight men consider lesbian sex to be hot.
The formula is quite simple (from the perspective of a man):
- The least sexy thing about sex is my participation in it as the man
- The most sexy thing about sex is the woman, regardless of what she’s doing
Therefore when we crunch the numbers and Cary the zero, it becomes clear that there is no upper bound to the amount of women participants in sex but male participants should be capped.
TLDR we like women
The least sexy thing about sex is my participation in it as the man
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I love þe implication þat þere exists sexiness equations; your's and mine seem to be simply sexiness = #women / #men
I was asked for an explanation, and I gave one. Again, agreeing or disagreeing is up to you, but our feelings about it are not. Have a nice day!
I think the thing to focus on is bothering real people. If a guy jacks it to Yuri, who gives a shit, they're pictures. Same thing for girls and yaoi. Although I dislike it a bit, guys jacking to irl lesbians (like porn) doesn't hurt anybody either, and vice versa. It's when we get into that "harassment of real people" territory where you should be shamed. If you're a guy being creepy to lesbians/queer people online/irl, you are a disgusting human being who is making others uncomfortable. Same for women who do the same to gay/queer people.
Basically, ethically gooning and having "toxic fetishes" is possible. As long as a foot fetishist doesn't get hot and bothered around people at a waterpark, nor begs for feet pics from randos in their DMs, who the fuck am I to judge? It's once you can't control your fetish around unwilling participants that you get the horny bonk.
You phrased it way better than I did and I have no disagreements. Cheers!
lol wut
Strictly an app for gay men so I think a woman would be quite out of place
Wait, is his geographic range three different countries? He would travel internationally for no sex romantic cuddles?
I think that's language options, not geographic range.
He says he lives in Graz, in Austria (where people speak German and there are no kangaroos BTW).
Graz, in Austria where people speak German and there are no kangaroos
Mostly checks out, but going to need confirmation on that last one.
US-americans literally cannot imagine someone speaking more than one language, let alone three
Not all grindr users are linux users. But are all linux users grindr users?
He seems insufferable tbh
The hell is twunk?
Muscular twink
Twink x hunk
geek... otter ?
Oh! I know that from a guy from my old work who’s gay! You know how big, hairy men are called "bear"? Well, an otter is a tall and slim average guy with a beard!
This comment section makes me feel old.