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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 52 points 1 day ago

I’ll take owning your ignorance over angry defensiveness any day

[–] FundMECFS@anarchist.nexus 14 points 20 hours ago

Why is no one commenting on how fucking sanist this is?

You’d be rightfully immediately reprehended if you said “you’re sexy asf for [X minority group]”. This applies here as well.

[–] replicator@sh.itjust.works 30 points 1 day ago

We are pleased.

[–] Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zone 156 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Wtf was that opening line, is he also new to humans

[–] lath@piefed.social 86 points 1 day ago (1 children)

For comparison, some dudes just send dick pics en masse and still manage to hook up without saying a word.

[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 54 points 1 day ago (4 children)
[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 38 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I personally think, we should apply a shotgun to those dicks who randomly send dick picks.

[–] lost_faith@lemmy.ca 10 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I have known women who save dick pics specifically to reply to these messages

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 6 points 22 hours ago

That's actually a very good idea

[–] nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago

I am convinced the world would be a better place, since unsolicited dick pics is a consent issue and I've got no love for those who don't find consent sexy

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[–] osaerisxero@kbin.melroy.org 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

On the other hand, it didn't get him an immediate block so maybe he was on to something there.

[–] burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

It's possible this was a 'screenshot, then ban' situation. For the poor receiver, they might have a more forgiving view. As someone else said, I'll take the rapid backpedaling upon realization of the error over angry doubling down.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 70 points 1 day ago (19 children)

Along with the rest of the wrongness, he's calling DID schizophrenia

[–] axEl7fB5@lemmy.cafe 11 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

tf does DID mean? i dont understand all the terminology. i just got out of a 6 year relationship im new to this

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 3 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Honestly, it's what I read was the correct term when I googled multiple personality. Dissociative Identity Disorder. I just remembered schizophrenia isn't that, it's hearing voices, maybe hallucinating, being separated from reality, but you're still one you.

[–] humanamerican@lemmy.zip 2 points 17 hours ago (1 children)
[–] AEsheron@lemmy.world 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

The correct term is Dissociative Identity Disorder. Schizophrenia means split mind in Greek, but was never used to mean the patient acted as though they were different individuals. Just that there were other split portions of their mind interacting with the patient.

[–] humanamerican@lemmy.zip 1 points 8 hours ago
[–] JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well, it's like comparing all neurominorities to down syndrome. That's why I need to fuck around with the genius political system I live in all the time.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 points 20 hours ago

And saying people with disabilities are inherently less sexy

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[–] ilovepiracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 61 points 1 day ago (1 children)

To be fair, dating was very different in 2015.

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I miss the pre-SESTA/FOSTA dating scene

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 17 hours ago (1 children)
[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

They're anti-trafficking laws created with relatively good intent. Pretty much unanimously passed the house and senate and got signed into law with little debate. But one thing they do is require website operators to hyper-moderate interactions on any site with potential matchmaking services, to a degree that no matchmaking service could be profitable while doing so unless it operated in the style of a dumbed down swipe-left-or-right service like Tinder. Thus all dating services are now dumbed down apps that work just like Tinder, and open forums like Craiglist pages have disappeared.

[–] Jinarched@lemmy.ca 14 points 1 day ago (4 children)

It's Danganronpa's 'schizo' hangman all over again.

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[–] firewyre@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[–] smeenz@lemmy.nz 2 points 19 hours ago
[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 day ago

TIL all systems are schizophrenic /s

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