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[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 5 points 16 hours ago

That society can function with us working less than 16hrs/week and we could have a UBI and time to enjoy being alive instead of apathetically accepting global feudalism

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 4 points 19 hours ago

Nature. Look around you. Like, seriously, stop what you are doing, and look around you for three, full minutes. You'll start to notice new things. Bugs, plants, views, animals. There's a lot going on, even if you just look at a 1x1 in square of grass up close. It's pretty cool.

Even in human areas, just spending an hour in a space while not being on your phone is kinda cool. I'd be doing something like weeding a local bike path and start to notice way more people than I ever thought used it. It's mostly asphalt, but even here, the plants are interesting, and you start to meet people in your community that do the same work.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

The fascist takeover. Anyone who isn't resisting it in some way is complacent.

[–] Zozano@aussie.zone 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (4 children)

I wish people noticed how much fucking space they take up.

All the fucking time I go to the shops or something and some oblivious dolt just stops walking, usually right in the middle of a fucking choke point.

I wish people would treat walking like they should treat driving; look around. Don't stop in the middle of a highway. If you need to stop, pull over. If you're walking slow, use the slow lane.

We need pedestrian traffic rules because this shit evidently is not intuitive to a lot of people.

[–] simulacra_procession@lemmy.today 3 points 21 hours ago

This is just people being inconsiderate in general, and whether it's in an aisle or on the road I think the sentiment is the same. I wish people would notice others around them more. We'd have to have a much more empathetic culture for that tho :/

[–] johnyreeferseed@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I clean windows and the amount of people that see me cleaning a door and proceed to squeeze through the door I'm actively cleaning while there is another door literally next to it drives me nuts. They just see an open door and have to go through it like moths to a flame. I hate how oblivious people are in public.

[–] blackstrat@lemmy.fwgx.uk 6 points 1 day ago

Have you tried switching to Linux?

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 2 points 1 day ago

Every day where I find the restraint not to yell "FUCK OUT THE WAY GODDAMNIT" at random people is a successful day. It's like some folks don't even wanna get wherever they're going.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

The amount of people that arent aware of their space around them I have to drive around on a primarily bike lane on my commute is too high.

[–] BigBenis@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

Notice your default behaviors and take a moment to consider whether they serve you. They might, they might not. You may want to change them, you may not. Just be intentional about how you conduct yourself.

[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

That the collapse is incoming and ignoring that fact is exacerbating it.

[–] kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The natural world. Watch some birds or pay attention to the sounds of insects. See how many shades of green you can pick out from the leaves in the trees. Count the seconds between a flash of lightning and the subsequent thunder. Observe a lunar eclipse.

You'll realize this place is kind of neat if you take some time to appreciate it.

[–] toad31@lemmy.cif.su 3 points 1 day ago

100%. Being on my computer so much, I can always appreciate simply being out in nature.

Kind of ironic, because while I'm doing that everyone around me is on their phones.

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 31 points 1 day ago

The rise of fascism.

[–] BrundleFly2077@sh.itjust.works 70 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

We’re standing on an unthinkably thin layer of viable grime coating a very small rock. We should all be constantly aware of how delicate this situation is and act accordingly, both in terms of how we treat each other and the shit we do to the rock.

[–] Boddhisatva@lemmy.world 21 points 2 days ago

Seconded. If the Earth were the size of a globe on your desk, he entire biosphere would be thinner than a piece of paper. We have filled the whole thing with our waste and toxins and we are destroying the very systems that we rely on to produce our food and air. If we do not start paying attention and taking steps, I sincerely believe that there will be a society ending global crisis in the next 2-3 decades.

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[–] chunes@lemmy.world 44 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Driving like a maniac saves you a negligible amount of time but puts others in disproportionate danger.

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yup, I stopped worrying about extra lane changes and pushing the speed limit when I realized that it was literally saving me 1-2 minutes at best. Not worth the risk or the hassle.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Similar but really it was the difference between driving being stressful and relaxing. I used to be so angry every time someone did something wrong but now I leave them extra space knowing humans mess up all the time and I’m leaving space so it won’t affect me

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[–] cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com 44 points 2 days ago (2 children)

That while they judge themselves by their best intentions, they invariably, and subconsciously judge others by their actions.

Once you realise most people are just trying to get through the day and most people aren't trying to make things worse for others, it's easier to forgive perceived slights, and that will make your own day better, and make you less likely to subconsciously slight someone else.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago (2 children)

That they're never going to watch the video they're taking on their cell phone at a sporting event, or concert, or political event, or whatever.

And just live in the moment instead.

[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My family gets upset about that. I nuked my socials back on January 1st 2020. I rarely take any photos. "We want to see the memories!". Well, I'm too busy making them to remember to record them

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago

When I go to an event I give myself 2-3 pictures and then turn my phone off. I do generally end up printing them physically and keeping them.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

Maybe for most.
I liked going back to watch some recordings.

[–] lgsp@feddit.it 29 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Cars.

They are everywhere, they take for themselves the majority of public space in urban areas and they are incredibly dangerous, noisy, expensive. Yet majority of people barely notice them

[–] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 28 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] lgsp@feddit.it 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Perfect representation, a classic, thanks

Definitely. This illustration's awesome

[–] RodgeGrabTheCat@sh.itjust.works 29 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I wish people would realize how their bad behavior, how their greed, hurts other people.

[–] solsangraal@piefed.zip 6 points 2 days ago

the thing is, they DO realize it. what a lot of people don't realize is that people like that literally enjoy causing suffering in others. especially "other" others. telling these people that they're hurting you doesn't make them feel bad, it makes them feel GOOD

why? cycle of abuse? brainwashing? lack of education? most likely, all the above.

[–] remon@ani.social 26 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That they are blocking the door on public transport.

[–] Olkiss@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Or those who want to get in without letting people getting off first.....

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[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 22 points 2 days ago (5 children)

People rarely notice anything above their eyeline. It has to be directly in front of them or slightly down to be noticed.

Look UP people! There's a whole other world there.

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[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (3 children)

The high pitch noises from so many electronic items. Just as an example HP printers have a high pitch whine from their power supplies. I literally can’t be in the room with them. If more noticed less people would buy the garbage.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

My monitor in standby mode emits a slight pitch noise when the power led blinks (why. Why Samsung did you think a blinking led is a good idea for a standby mode???).

[–] jewbacca117@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

CRTs used to drive me nuts. No matter where I was in the house, I could always tell if someone was watching TV

[–] BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Had this problem at highscool, I could tell if the TV mounted in the room ceiling was on even if the screen was black. I had to ask the teachers to turn them off, they'd look at it and say "it is" and then we'd have an argument about not being able to hear anything. Eventually I would prove it by turning away, and having them randomly turn it off and on and I could tell them when it was off vs on.

Very frustrating, but I got old and now I can't hear shit

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[–] junkthief@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago

I don’t think this is a situation of noticing or not noticing, I’m pretty sure most folks over a certain age literally cannot hear those frequencies. Then there’s the “lucky” ones of us that can still hear every little whine 🙃

[–] spykee@lemmings.world 6 points 1 day ago

That I am available....
hmu bitches

[–] MyDarkestTimeline01@ani.social 10 points 2 days ago (3 children)

That no man is an island. And even the things you do "staying in your lane" affect those around you.

I'd also love for people to remember that breaking social contracts used to lead to duels and that's why you saw a dip in violence and breeches. But we stopped doing that and now violence and breeches of social contracts are happening more often.

And lastly I'd like all the people complaining about the biosphere in this thread to remember that they're Debbie Downers and that's why no one invites them to parties.

I'm joking about the last one. I agree with them, I just think the solution is getting off this planet as quickly as possible Oregon Trail style.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Is that another joke at the end? There is no place as habitable as earth even with where we have it at today.

Exactly. Even as bad as we might still fuck the planet up, it'll still be easier to terraform actual Terra than fucking Mars.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

a dip in violence and breeches

Who dipped their breeches? Cheeky bums !

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[–] dan1101@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How they are being manipulated by so many things; advertisements, the media, influencers, social media posts, the entertainment industry. The biases aren't all bad but they definitely exist.

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[–] Strider@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

That they are not alone. Everyone is having a day just like themselves so being considerate and respectful goes a long way to making it work for everyone.

There are also people that are not like you so you might not understand the behavior of everyone but it could be that that person is struggling the same way you are (when you are) but it might look different.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

That making nature convenient for us (managed forests, etc.) is not the same as being nature friendly.

[–] Krudler@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

That when you turn off social media and stop getting your morning dose of "what should I worry about today" life becomes a lot easier.

[–] Usernameblankface@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)
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