Thank you so much for posting this. I wish that families were better and didn’t force gender norms. But I’ve found comfort in chosen family that helped me while I came out and they still help me.
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Yeah but that really interferes with the parents' property rights and religious freedom, so its a messy issue
I mean, we don’t allow religious freedom to infringe on anyone else’s freedoms, why this one?
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and property rights
Also, uh, would dispute your claim, depemding on who 'we' is.
Firstly, children aren’t considered property. You can legally take an axe to your house, because you own it. Last I checked, it’s still illegal to take an axe to your kid.
Secondly, religious freedoms extend to where other peoples freedoms start. For instance, if I claim I have the religious right to take an axe to my child, am I allowed to? No.
Not transferrable. Absolutely property.
You seem to be living in a fantasy world. If you know where i can find a portal to there, im very very ready ro ditch this apocalyptic shit hole; we kinda fucked the climate here anyway.
Should i grab like a couple tb of movies or scientific papers or whatever, or just come as i am?
I didn't have the language for it, but I knew something was wrong with me and the way I felt in my body and in society as soon as I was six or seven years old. Had I been given the right language to express it back then, I would have known right away, but I guess it wouldn't have been better because, well, there's nothing I would have been able to do about it. I didn't know I was a girl. I just knew I desperately wanted to be one. But I could never say that to anyone.
Still, though, I consider myself a trans kid nonetheless, just because I came out later, in my adult life, doesn't mean that I wasn't. I pretty much knew what I was, there was just no tolerance nor space for me to be it. And, uh, honestly? I deserved better. Much better. Instead, I'll be spending the rest of my life dealing with the consequences of all of this...
I came up with the opposite of a tomboy, and told my parents "I'm a tomgirl 😃" in 3rd grade. From that point on my homophobic mom hid anything queer related at all times.
jokes on her I got tits now
You really did. Your entire childhood you were dressed, expected to behave and treated as someone you weren't. That's really destructive, and you did great accepting your true self despite all the programming. You are who you are and who you are is great